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It is quite common for people to post a blog, or comment on one, that can spark controversy or strong responses. Emotional triggers can easily be tripped. Somebody hundreds or thousands of miles away can put forth a point that runs totally opposite resulting in outrage.

Two things never cease to amaze me. One is how people seem so stunned and unprepared for the prospects of others disagreeing. The other is the extent of emotional investment attached to a simple debate of ideas.

This is just one person's opinion mind you. But it sure seems like there is something seriously lacking in mental and emotional balance within some people.

It is beyond reason that somebody would get so consumed with negative energy so as to let commentary expressed on a social networking Web site overwhelm and overshadow all other aspects of their life even for a few hours, much less days or even weeks.

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RevDocLove

Apr 12 @ 9:11AM  
I totally agree..If they don't want advice or a solution, don't post and ask for
one
Wordsofwit

Apr 12 @ 9:18AM  
I totally agree..If they don't want advice or a solution, don't post and ask for
one

Some people only want an honest opinion when it is something that they want to hear.
soft_touch938

Apr 12 @ 9:34AM  
Well I was gone all day yesterday so did something happen I missed??? I'll have to go see.

As for a differing opinion...what I think you miss Bruce is not the differing of an opinion itself...it's in the delivery of that opinion that is most often the trigger. As many times as you've pissed me off in your comments to one of my blogs it's NEVER been WHAT you said, it was HOW you said it.

If I punch someone in the gut then try to convince them that there's merit to what I have to say I might as well skip it. But if I take their hand and speak softly...they will hear me and although they may not agree, a good conversation will ensue.

JMHO
sugarnspice005

Apr 12 @ 9:56AM  
She^^^^^^^ said it better than I can. So...I'll say I agree 100% with Softie. It isn't so much what is said, but, how it's said. Or, how it "sounds" when read. That's why I like to use the little emoticons. I realized a long time ago when I'm trying to convey humor, and don't use one of those--------->then the message is mistaken for a put down, sarcasm, and the person got pissed off.

I will agree that sometimes we need to step back and realize it's only words. I know, it will never happen. There will always be those who will react with knee jerk reactions. That's just the way of people.
KitKat25

Apr 12 @ 10:17AM  
I agree with Softie and Sugar completely.

I also try to take into account that sometimes a person will post a blog during a highly emotional moment...and because their pain is so raw...perhaps what the are really wanting at that particular moment is empathy rather than advice...even if the blogger states they are looking for advice. Several blogs in paticular come to mind. They were by the same author. The person was obviously in a lot of pain and I could see that quite clearly. They knew what they needed to do...they just hadn't mustered the strength to follow through.

It's very easy to come of as judgemental or uncaring when you use a keyboard as your voice...and I think we bear the responsibility for how are words are taken.

I do see the point you're trying to make WoW...but I also think you need to look at the flip side of the coin a little more closely. JMHO.
Wordsofwit

Apr 12 @ 10:33AM  
I understand and respect the points of these ladies, but still ask, "So what?". The point is people overreacting no matter who says it and how it is said. It is just comment on a Web site, certainly not a crime being committed. Often the offending opinion isn't even anything that is personal. Why people blow it out of proportion within the greater context of the rest of their life as a negative distraction is mystery to me.
onehornytoad69

Apr 12 @ 11:15AM  
I agree with you and most all of the comments!!!
Personally I think the one who gets pissed off...more times than Not.......misunderstood what was being said in the first place!!! That has happened to me a Lot!!! But, like you said...so what!!!
I guess we ppl have Feelers!!??? IDK
NightOfOld

Apr 12 @ 12:21PM  


I also agree. Very good point Bruce. Greenie for you.
StraddleMyNose

Apr 12 @ 1:30PM  
I'm going to have to agree with the 3 ladies on here (Kat, Dawn, and Softy). All 3 have made excellent points...
1bunny629

Apr 12 @ 1:40PM  
What never ceases to amaze me is why people are so comfortable with their foot in their mouths. I realize that this is a web site. Some I have grown to respect, others I will respect regardless of how I really feel about their thoughts and ideas; I still care about their feelings...even if they don't care about mine. If you expect people to not get distracted by your comments over and over again and they do, then maybe ya need to take your foot out of your mouth and try a different method.
Why is it always the same people that can't figure this out. I guess maybe they don't want to learn, but they want their readers to grow some thick skin. How about they soften theirs a bit. Not everyone has lived as long and etched their heart so many times that the scar tissue deflects the assassin verbatim of others.
theSkwirl

Apr 12 @ 1:55PM  
We all have triggers that get a burr under our saddles. Each and every one of us. Whether it's something that bores us, distresses us or just plain gets our "Irish" up. That's how it goes anywhere in life.

Just kinda proves the point that online is indeed "real life". People have feelings, feelings get bumped. It's got nothing to do with esteem or anything else some of the time.. it's just human nature.
Pudge2you

Apr 12 @ 6:52PM  
Aww c'mon... blog wars are fun! for a while anyway...

and fun IS the point.
RJ53

Apr 12 @ 9:02PM  
Any time I find myself getting emotional over people's response to anything I say, I will just take myself off the site. It is a website and I am an adult (most of the time anyway) People will disagree with me and I will disagree with them. Big fuckin deal. Does it really change anything in my life? No Will it piss me off? Maybe for a second. Then life goes on and what was said or not said really does not change anything in that life so in the long run it is no big deal.
Ewe_Wish

Apr 13 @ 12:31AM  
It is quite common for people to post a blog, or comment on one, that can spark controversy or strong responses.
sometimes it just takes breathing to do that..........
Ewe_Wish

Apr 13 @ 12:38AM  
It is beyond reason that somebody would get so consumed with negative energy so as to let commentary expressed on a social networking Web site overwhelm and overshadow all other aspects of their life even for a few hours, much less days or even weeks.
Hell I should have looked further into the blogs............sometimes the case is that someone writes a blog not because they want advice or help but because they want the sympathy...........they are doing a poor me pity party instead of getting off their ass and doing something about what is bothering them in the first place.......most people know what to do in a situation such as the one that was referenced in another blog............its a no brainer..........if someone hits you..........get the fuck out...........sometimes there are valid reasons for not leaving..........or at least valid enough to keep you there until you realize that there is nothing more important than your own safety............but they come to the wrong person if they are waiting for me to say oh poor you I am here to listen to your troubles.............i will empathize with anyone...........but if you dont do anything to help yourself...........dont expect me to say oh poor you...........maybe that sounds like me being a bitch and I certainly can be...........but the more you baby someone the more they want to be babied and have everyone else do for them the same shit they are not willing to do for themselves.

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