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  KitKat25

So...you've just met someone wonderful at a party, or the local pub or maybe even the dollar store and you've decided to take whatever you have to the next level and get to know each other a little bit better. However, during this "getting to know each other a little bit better step" you discover you're really not as "in" to the other person as you originally thought...or you were too drunk when you first met and now you're completely sober and are now in complete control of your inhibitions...and your mind.

Do you try to gracefully disentangle yourself from this difficult situation...or do you go ahead and give the other person a "courtesy fuck" just to be polite?

Me? I'm just not wired this way so the answer is no...I could never give a guy false hope with a courtesy fuck. I would feel way too guilty afterwards.

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Sunshinegal35

Apr 10 @ 8:00AM  
Sometimes this situation is quite difficult to get out of gracefully! Especially if there's been a lot of sexual innuendo or banter leading up to the meet-n-greet. I'm just not good at hurting other people's feelings, so I have been known to do a courtesy fuck. I think most people understand that a courtesy fuck is going to bad sex anyway LOL I felt bad about the whole situation, but it was kind of expected (which is a whole nother problem in itself), so it happened.
soft_touch938

Apr 10 @ 8:25AM  
I know I've done so while intoxicated but sober? Nah...I don't think so.
Wordsofwit

Apr 10 @ 9:09AM  
While intimacy and romance is preferred, erotica and sleaze works excellently as a backup.
StraddleMyNose

Apr 10 @ 10:04AM  
I try to get out of it gracefully. So no "courtesy fuck" from me whatsoever
Sunshine79

Apr 10 @ 10:12AM  
I'm with Softie.....lol
whisperingcomet

Apr 10 @ 10:44AM  
Yes, I have done it, but I never had a title for it until now....
DickSlippery

Apr 10 @ 11:03AM  
If it weren't for courtesy fucks most men would never get laid and the human race would die of extinction.

I think maybe im in some kind of mood this morning...

DS
ynot7769

Apr 10 @ 11:39AM  
nope....even in my 20s...found myself sobering ...rock hard yet...and realized i was just a ''fill in'' wich for ME is NOT enough...i got up ...dressed..never said a word..laid back down and went to sleep...yano the next morning she askes ''when will i see you again???""

gotta wonder right??
Wordsofwit

Apr 10 @ 11:47AM  
To be perfectly honest, as long as my dick relates to her it doesn't matter if the rest of me does.
Lisa46

Apr 10 @ 12:25PM  
To be perfectly honest, as long as my dick relates to her it doesn't matter if the rest of me does
.

Now that was funny!

I've never done a courtesy fuck. But what about a one night stand?
Wordsofwit

Apr 10 @ 12:50PM  
But what about a one night stand?

While there are these cases of people partying and one thing leading to another and a casual encounter, there are also cases where in the aftermath of getting down, there is a reassessment and someone decides they don't want to move forward.

It may not, in these instances, be a one night stand by design or circumstances as it was a bone fide date. But it winds up being a one night stand looking back. The sex was there early on but the future potential wasn't after people became better acquainted.

Hell, sometimes it was terminated because somebody failed their sexual audition. I know in some cases for me, I went into the bedroom hoping to enjoy prime rib or leg of lamb only to be disappointed with the entree being fish.
Wordsofwit

Apr 10 @ 12:58PM  
I know in some cases for me, I went into the bedroom hoping to enjoy prime rib or leg of lamb only to be disappointed with the entree being fish.

This reminds me of a bad joke that may piss off some, but send other howling. No, I have always been a dutiful dad in such matters.

A backwoods father goes to see the family doctor to inquire about putting his 14 YO daughter on birth control.

The doctor states, "You certainly do not want your daughter getting pregnant at her age. Is she sexually active?"

"No, she just lays there, just like her mother."
1bunny629

Apr 10 @ 1:13PM  
...
now you're completely sober
...this is the reason I pretty much just stay drunk...or moderatly intoxicated! ...just kiddin...
...
Yes, I have done it, but I never had a title for it until now
...Whisperin you crack me up!
...I have never done a courtesy fuck, but if I think I am interested I go for it so I can find out what size cock he has...Now I have done a pitty fuck, but I didn't know it until it was too late. You know when ya find out his cock is the size of your pinky. Well I must have done one hell of a job cause he hasn't stopped calling me for 6 plus years...ouch....
But really...I have never done the courtesy fuck thing you've mentioned. I have great intuition and I know myself pretty well. I can tell by one meet and great, sober or not, who I am going to get along with. Hell...I can tell by talking over the phone if I am going to take it any further.
somnium

Apr 10 @ 2:40PM  
A "courtesy fuck!!!" Now we're 'categorizing' different reasons as to why people want to fuck? Hmmm... new one to me! I personally have only two reasons to fuck and that's because it feels good and that my partner enjoys it too!

Failing the chance to fuck, I'll take a 'courtesy' blow job anytime and not think twice about it!

As far as trying to "disengage' from either of the above scenarios go: if I have a chance for either, why in the world would I want to walk away from it? It's a natural bodily function!!!

Label it anyway you want- I'll take it when I can- drunk or sober!


Pudge2you

Apr 10 @ 3:22PM  
I believe that every fuck I ever had was given to me out of courtesy...lol

so... these are all just fucks to me...

wanna fuck?
Wordsofwit

Apr 10 @ 4:39PM  
I believe that every fuck I ever had was given to me out of courtesy.

Hell, my experience was that they overwhelming wanted put their best forward (actually pussy or mouth) to secure a relationship if they were captivated. It didn't necessarily work. But you know what they say, "If they like the dickey, they tend to get sticky!"
nativeamr35

Apr 10 @ 4:54PM  
Courtesy Fuck??? hahahahaha

If you ever find yourself on a date/drink with me and I touch your wrist....



I'm checking for a pulse......

After that its not courtesy, its game on....lmao.
Dione

Apr 10 @ 5:12PM  
I'm just not wired this way so the answer is no...I could never give a guy false hope with a courtesy fuck. I would feel way too guilty afterwards.
No matter how nice a guy may be, if the chemistry isn't there I can't/won't do it... it's just they way I'm wired.
flavorbuster

Apr 10 @ 5:40PM  
To me it's like asking if you would fuck an ugly person just to be nice but I say just grudge fuck then you don't have to worry about being courteous.
TastyCupcake

Apr 10 @ 5:54PM  
If it weren't for courtesy fucks most men would never get laid and the human race would die of extinction.

I think maybe im in some kind of mood this morning...

DS


tassie1

Apr 10 @ 7:06PM  
so what your tellin me is ....

i may never get laid again.
KitKat25

Apr 10 @ 7:52PM  
Sunshinegal35: I know what you mean. I really suck at hurting other people's feelings and will go out of my way just to insure this doesn't happen. But I will only go so far. I would rather deal with the guilt of hurting their feelings as opposed to leading a guy on...whether he says he's fine with it or not.

Softie & Sunshine79: I've gotten intoxicated very rarely and even then I've always been able to say no quite effectively.

WoW: Hmmm...erotica and sleaze as a backup huh? Well...whatever floats your boat right?
Hell, sometimes it was terminated because somebody failed their sexual audition. I know in some cases for me, I went into the bedroom hoping to enjoy prime rib or leg of lamb only to be disappointed with the entree being fish.

Now this statement is too funny...and so WoW-like.

Straddle & ynot: You guys appear to be the exception today when it comes to the guy's POV. I like you guy's style very much indeed...and I find it very refreshing.

WhisperingComet: I'm glad you like the blog title. A friend of mine actually coined the term when I was talking with them this week. And I LMAO just like you did.

DS:
If it weren't for courtesy fucks most men would never get laid and the human race would die of extinction.

I have to respectfully disagree with this POV DS. However, I'm pretty sure you were joking when you made this comment...but if you weren't...I think most or all of the guys I've ever had sex with would completely disagree with you.

Lisa46: No...a one night stand is different. When I say "courtesy fuck" I'm referring to an interaction between two people that would take the parties involved longer than one evening to develop. You actually get to know a little bit about each other before sex enters the picture. It might be a day...a week...or a month. A one night stand IMO happens when both parties barely know anything about each other and jump into the sack the first time they meet.

1bunny629:
I have never done a courtesy fuck, but if I think I am interested I go for it so I can find out what size cock he has.
OMG...bunny! You are too funny girlfriend.
Now I have done a pity fuck.
Shhh! That's a whole other blog...
I have great intuition and I know myself pretty well. I can tell by one meet and great, sober or not, who I am going to get along with. Hell...I can tell by talking over the phone if I am going to take it any further.
Amen sistah...I'm pretty much on the same page as you.

Somnium:
Failing the chance to fuck, I'll take a 'courtesy' blow job anytime and not think twice about it! Label it anyway you want- I'll take it when I can- drunk or sober!
I'm quite sure you're not the only guy who feels this way. Perhaps you can tackle the topic of "courtesy blow jobs" sometime?
KitKat25

Apr 10 @ 7:57PM  
Pudge2you:
I believe that every fuck I ever had was given to me out of courtesy...lol
so... these are all just fucks to me...wanna fuck?
I have a hard time believing this ^^^ line ^^^ of malarkey. That's right...I said malarkey! And sure...I wanna...but it won't be a "courtesy fuck".

nativeamr35:
If you ever find yourself on a date/drink with me and I touch your wrist....
I'm checking for a pulse......After that its not courtesy, its game on....lmao.
Good gosh man...a pulse...really?! I simply cannot believe you are THAT desperate.

Dione:
No matter how nice a guy may be, if the chemistry isn't there I can't/won't do it... it's just they way I'm wired.

Me too girlfriend.

flavorbuster:
To me it's like asking if you would fuck an ugly person just to be nice but I say just grudge fuck then you don't have to worry about being courteous.
OMG...flavor! I'm not talking about fucking ugly people...or a grudge fuck.

Tassie1:
so what your tellin me is...i may never get laid again.
Ummm...Tassie? You're married remember? You've got what they call a "sure thing".

Well Pervia...I didn't realize so many of you would have opinions on this topic. I hope you learned something today...I know I did.

Be sure to check back often as the following peeps will be continuing Pervia's Sex Education Series with the following topics...

WoW: Erotica and Sleaze Sex as a backup...is this for you. And Sexual Auditions...how to interview successfully.

DS: If Courtesy Fucks are Not Extended to Men...Will the Human Race Die of Extinction?

Lisa46: One Night Stands...are you "doing it" right?

1bunny629: Pity Fucks...they're not for losers anymore.

Somnium: Courtesy Blow Jobs...they can be a man's best friend.

nativeamr35: If you have a pulse...it's Game On.

flavorbuster: Ugly People Need Sex Too. And Grudge Fucks...are they for you?

Thanks for all the fun comments and participation peeps. It was very much appreciated.
onehornytoad69

Apr 10 @ 8:38PM  
I did give a couple of "CF" after chatting with them for months....(and many heated conversations......!!) (hours and hours wasted!!)
Which.. I will not Do again!!! That happened right after I separated..from my X, and didn't know betta!!! !!! Yeah, I waited Months before I did the XXX

Online, Most/Some women want to wait forever before meeting.....it seems like!!!
...But yanno what...? If the lady wont meet me in a few weeks of chatting (and they are Local, and have time...)...then its all over with...this Homey don't play that game!!! They are hiding something..or....are Scared...and I don't do either!!! Been there did that!!! But that's just me!!!!
mrknowuwell

Apr 10 @ 10:27PM  
not giving a courtesy fuck.....is plain....dis-courteous
1bunny629

Apr 11 @ 3:52AM  
...
1bunny629: Pity Fucks...they're not for losers anymore.
...what does that mean?
tassie1

Apr 11 @ 7:03AM  
a gentleman never tells.
but if your feeling sorry for me ..
KitKat25

Apr 11 @ 8:11AM  
OHT: Hopefully, you've fine tuned your technique and it will be successful in the very near future. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you just in case.

mrknowuwell:
not giving a courtesy fuck.....is plain....dis-courteous
I guess we'll have to agree to disagree.

1bunny629:
1bunny629: Pity Fucks...they're not for losers anymore.
...what does that mean?

I was just being a goofball Murphey.
Several people mentioned different sex labels...and just to be silly...I expanded on their comments at the end of my blog when I thanked everyone for their comments.
I stated that certain individuals would be doing future blogs based on the sex labels mentioned within their blog comments.
Since you mentioned pity fucks in your comment...I did a spoof blog title based on pity fucks. I hope this makes sense to you.

tassie1:
but if your feeling sorry for me ...
Nope...not even a little bit.
theSkwirl

Apr 11 @ 12:20PM  
*sigh* I dunno... I really really really like sex.. so I might would... but I'd make sure it was known that nothing else was gonna happen.
nativeamr35

Apr 13 @ 9:27AM  
Desperate? Nooooo... Just loose. I think the term is man-whore. Any port in a storm and its raining all the time.
1bunny629

Apr 13 @ 4:30PM  
It's raining men...halalujeh It's raining men! ...never heard of a port raining woman!
andy614

Jan 20 @ 10:37AM  
Does Rosey Palm and her five sisters count as a coutesy fuck?
If so, then Yes. I have done it.
aftershox

Jan 20 @ 9:49PM  
I might give myself the courtesy of a good fuck, if I thought it was going to be a good fuck.

Or are you talking about being courteous to the other person?

In the world of BDSM, I need to feel submissive to the Dominant man. I explain upfront that not every Dom evokes that sense of submissiveness in me.

So I can easily say "You seem lot of fun and very sexy, but I don;t really feel submissive to you". And if it doesn;t seem like it is worth the time and exchange of emotional energy, I have a graceful out.

Or I can be a slut and fuck him anyways knowing I never want to see him again.

Mistress_Brandy

Jan 27 @ 11:24AM  
I wouldn't give a guy a curtosy fuck because I wouldn't want them to get a false sense of attraction. If I went out with a guy and realized I wasn't as attracted to him as I thought I'd try to learn his dislikes and use them to my advantage to make myself more unappealing to him.
JustDoIt459

Jan 27 @ 12:00PM  
Definately give Her a Fuck! Things may change afterwards! Never Know unless you try.
swoope69

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Feb 7 @ 10:56AM  
yes i would love a courtsey fuck with you anytime .swoope69
davjg

Feb 12 @ 8:12PM  
I dont think so. Whether drunk or not. Even if we got to know each other really well. But if over time we hit it off. Maybe. And when we are so close to be in each others skin or even marriage then its possible.
PinkToeNails

Feb 12 @ 8:56PM  
How about a good old grudge fuck!??!?!?!?


I can't believe I've never commented on this blog....LOL
slobo421

Feb 13 @ 9:37AM  
the courtesy fuck thing works both ways...ive definetly met up with a women and then had her turn out to be a bad kisser, or really nervous, or really bad at giving head. at that point im just like the ladies, i feel bad so i knock the bottom out and move on. no call back, no nothing, but the sex is usually bad, for me anyway.
visionquest82

Feb 15 @ 6:52PM  
No courtesy sex here. Tried once and "it" didn't work. She was very hard on herself afterward - never again!
theSkwirl

Feb 15 @ 8:04PM  
Well, ok, but only cuz you asked so nicely.
beerman

Feb 16 @ 10:35AM  
Hey. I'll take all the courtesy I can get.
bbadny

Feb 17 @ 9:02AM  
I'm in dire need of a courtesy fuck! nothing since 2003
capodominicano

Mar 8 @ 11:17PM  
I'm young and i live in New York City so a courtesy fuck is bound to occur here and there
jscout334

Mar 18 @ 7:28AM  
Honesty...is the operative term here (oh yes, some will say look who's talking...he is married and on here). In my entire adult life, I've never experienced a real memorable fuck that was not mutually entered into by BOTH partners really wanting each other.
oklahomabred

Apr 7 @ 4:40AM  
I wish things worked this way

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