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I think I got more than I was asking for..

posted 3/11/2010 7:41:01 PM |
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  alybai42

I was bored one day and decided to post a ad on Craig's List.
I have gotten a ton of e-mail's from men. Most of them I weeded out. Got rid of the one's I knew would not work out.

Now I have like 5 that want to meet me and I am scared. I have only met two men in person that I found online. I am always too scared. I do know to meet in public. I am not looking for sex. I wanted a friend at first. And see where it goes. I am in no hurry to find someone long term.

I just got out of a long term relationship and we are still friend's. He is very sick at this time and I still worry about him. Right now he is back in a hospital. I care about him but we just couldn't make it work. Or rather I didn't want to. I tried but grew tired of him and his way's. I do miss him cleaning my house. He was great for that. I never had to do anything. Now I need to find a man maid again. I should of put that on my ad for Craig's List. Maybe no one would of e-mailed me.

Speaking of Craig's List I wrote in my ad that I wanted someone close, I get e-mail's from men far away. What part of close don't they understand?

I remember hearing horror stories about women who met men from Craig's List and were found dead. It is a big trust issue with me. Like I said I know better than to meet someone in a private place. I am thinking of a place to have coffee?

How do you know if you can trust someone you talk to online?

The couple that I am talking to on yahoo I have told I am in no hurry to meet. I want to get to know you first.

I have told them upfront I am not looking for a fuck buddy. Or a married man. They could lie and say they are single but yet have a wife and kids at home. Now I am talking myself out of all of this. Maybe I better take that ad down.

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StraddleMyNose

Mar 11 @ 7:46PM  
How do you know if you can trust someone you talk to online?
Well, you can start by talking with them over the phone for a while and see where that goes. After that meet in a public setting. If all goes right after this, continue to take it one step at a time until you get totally comfortable with that person.
weylinalastair

Mar 11 @ 7:59PM  
The truth is, meeting anyone is a risk on or off line. Doesn't mean you shouldn't, but a public place is quite acceptable when meeting someone from the net.
featherone

Mar 11 @ 8:01PM  
what he says ^ he has the experiences in this thing!
sugarnspice005

Mar 11 @ 8:07PM  
Meeting someone for the first time is always risky. Best thing to do is to meet in a public place like you've already said. Take it from there. If you at any time feel uncomfortable, make up and excuse to leave. And, let a trusted friend or loved one know where you are going, what time, with who, and a time you will call them to let them know how it went.
RJ53

Mar 11 @ 8:07PM  
Meeting someone online is like meeting someone anywhere else. Just because someone lives down the street from you for years does not make them a good person or mean they are not a liar. Just because someone meets you online does not mean they are an aspiring Jack the Ripper. Just use common sense and caution no matter where or how you meet someone.
onehornytoad69

Mar 11 @ 8:40PM  
Meeting someone online is like meeting someone anywhere else. Just because someone lives down the street from you for years does not make them a good person or mean they are not a liar. Just because someone meets you online does not mean they are an aspiring Jack the Ripper. Just use common sense and caution no matter where or how you meet someone.
AMEN!!!!!!
What are You Looking for? A Live in Lover or a Roomate?
The couple that I am talking to on yahoo I have told I am in no hurry to meet.
Yanno...I have found out that "Most".... not all of the Women that Put off meeting..are Big Bull Shitters!!!! and are Really Never gonna Meet anyone!!!!!
Guys get burned also!!!!!
Doing it Public is the Only way to Go!!!
longhorn386

Mar 11 @ 8:48PM  
Women, they don't know what they want. Men, the suckers that they are, will do anything for women but nothing is ever enough. So many men, men everywhere, too many men, must be great to be a woman. You should have put, want to find a man maid again in your ad! Probably would have got almost as many replies!
RJ53

Mar 11 @ 9:03PM  
Yanno...I have found out that "Most".... not all of the Women that Put off meeting..are Big Bull Shitters!!!! and are Really Never gonna Meet anyone!!!!!

That is fine,meeting is one thing, but the one thing I have a little problem with is someone who e-mails you one time telling you almost nothing about themselves and then think they are doing you a favor by wanting to meet you or if they live somewhere else try to invite themselves down in about the third e-mail to stay in your house. That usually gets them on my no way in hell list.
Wordsofwit

Mar 11 @ 9:03PM  
I remember you posting about the past drama. All I can say is that we are responsible for our choices.

Now I have like 5 that want to meet me and I am scared. I have only met two men in person that I found online. I am always too scared. I do know to meet in public. I am not looking for sex. I wanted a friend at first. And see where it goes. I am in no hurry to find someone long term.

I have met many. Meet in a public place. If you relate to them after meeting, walk don't run. Try to set up a foundation of friendship. Keep your libido out of it. This will serve you well as fast food romance is usually a recipe for disaster.
lunanegra

Mar 11 @ 10:06PM  
I'm just coming to terms with the fact that, if you want to meet someone worthwhile- meeting them online isn't it.

Places like this are merely for entertainment value, I'm starting to think.
aftershox

Mar 11 @ 10:35PM  
LOL. Women aren;t the only ones afraid to meet.

There were 4 or more that were too afraid/intimidated or something to meet. No shows. Rude no shows with a lame excuse after the fact or a last minute cancellation. One guy wouldn;t even answer his phone, and we had said I would call between 5:30 and 6 pm. 6:05 still no answer. Go figure. I figure he was staring at the phone shaking in his boots.

I have probably lined up dozens of first meetings. Phone calls, email chats etc first, I never give them my real name off the bat.

One or 2 that I met were stammering and nervous and obviously uncomfortable at the idea of meeting anyone. At least 2 others lied about their age, weight etc and didn't look like the pic they had offered.

I always know their real identity before going anywhere privately with someone. And I have a trusted girlfriend know where I am going, often with a text containing the guy's DL number. If I am really concerned I may have her call me 1/2 or an hour into play time. And I always check in with her afterwards, with at least a voice mail.

I sometimes write all my passwords, screennames and email addys with key info on a 3x5 card under my monitor at work. If I show up dead, they will be able to find what they need quickly.

I also make it clear to whoever I meet that I have a "process" for staying safe. I don;t tell them all the details of the process. But mentioning that should act as a deterrent if in the worst case I run into some one really bad.

Ewe_Wish

Mar 12 @ 1:07AM  
Just take your time getting to know them and see which one you are the most interested in getting to know further............than take your time with him............when you are comfortable make a date for coffee...........not a meal.......than if you dont care for him or there is something off..........you can get out of it faster........................I have met lots of men online............and Im still alive..........lol

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