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Would you live together with your s/o before getting engaged or married?

posted 1/16/2010 11:35:48 PM |
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  StraddleMyNose

Would you ever live with your s/o if you had no plans on getting married at all, or do you feel like you need to be engaged with plans on getting married while you two were living together? I know some people feel like they can't live with their s/o before getting married, while others have no problem with it.

I personally, I have no problem living with my s/o whether I'm engaged or not to her. However, being engaged would be so much better than not being engaged.

How do you feel it?

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StraddleMyNose

Jan 16 @ 11:40PM  
Looks dead on here in the blogs tonight
MsHelle

Jan 16 @ 11:45PM  
I'll live in sin with ya but I ain't taking your credit problems as my own when the ink is dry on a marriage certificate. My sis found that out the hard way.
StraddleMyNose

Jan 17 @ 12:07AM  
but I ain't taking your credit problems as my own when the ink is dry on a marriage certificate. My sis found that out the hard way.
How long did it take her to get out of that mess?
lunanegra

Jan 17 @ 12:12AM  
Love is love without a paper and ring to bind us. I'd hope he'd be ok living with me as long as he knows I drool in my sleep, and fart when I first wake up.
selectusername

Jan 17 @ 12:13AM  
Heck, Rosy Palmer and I have been shacked up together for awhile!
somnium

Jan 17 @ 12:15AM  
Would you live together with your s/o before getting engaged or married?

Been there, done that with the 2nd ex for three years! Obviously, it didn't make any difference for a good marriage, as apposed to not living with the 1st ex! Next lady, I prefer to just live with from then on- UNLESS, she is truly exceptional from what I have experienced in the past and she thought the same of me!

However, being engaged would be so much better than not being engaged.

Is that the clanging of wedding bells I hear???


StraddleMyNose

Jan 17 @ 12:16AM  
hope he'd be ok living with me as long as he knows I drool in my sleep, and fart when I first wake up
TMI there, Luna, TMI...
RJ53

Jan 17 @ 12:46AM  
Whatever works for you. Every couple is different. I have done both in the past. I do not think it had any effect on how the relationship turned out.
1bunny629

Jan 17 @ 2:31AM  
I would probably still be not married if I hadn't married my husband.... ...HA! I mean...we would still be together.... ...never going to get that attached again, cause it just leads to unattachment.
flavorbuster

Jan 17 @ 3:19AM  
Been with s/o for 14 yrs & living with for 7. We have a commitment of understanding & trust. I agree with Helle a document doesn't make anything official or trustworthy & we have gone the route of just being together.
Sunshine79

Jan 17 @ 3:32AM  
Done it more than once....
KitKat25

Jan 17 @ 3:37AM  
I've done it both ways. I've lived with someone without being engaged, and I've lived with someone while being engaged. It really doesn't matter in the long run. What truly matters is the commitment between yourself and your partner. The rest is just details...and a piece of paper.
casuallylooking

Jan 17 @ 3:55AM  
However, being engaged would be so much better than not being engaged.
Are you looking at rings, Shawn?
lkg4action

Jan 17 @ 4:10AM  
Live your life with those you love and if you love each other enough you will live your whole life with them! If you love them enough and they love you enough you might get married and never part! You will know if she is the one and only one!
Detach

Jan 17 @ 4:31AM  
I don't think it's natural for men and women to live together. That's probably what leads to divorce. Just my humble opinion.
Wordsofwit

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Jan 17 @ 7:06AM  
Living together initially works for me. You don't know what you are getting into as much if you don't. We can dispense with the engagement unless it is truly important to her.
dmbchick420

Jan 17 @ 8:34AM  
What are we living in the 1800s? If two people love each other, it shouldn't matter. I lived with my ex-husband and current husband before we were married - I need to know what kind person I'm gonna be with for the rest of my life! Obviously, that didn't work out so well with my ex
RevDocLove

Jan 17 @ 9:09AM  
But of course..How else are you going to really know your SO completely
if not by actually living together and sharing bills and all the other
complexities of marriage..
Just another piece of paper..
Dione

Jan 17 @ 10:05AM  
I would live with someone, but I wouldn't be engaged and probably wouldn't consider marriage except under very unusual circumstances.
RJ53

Jan 17 @ 11:22AM  
There are some legal points I might bring up about not being married.

If you are not married and that person brcomes ill you are not next of kin and have no say over anything And if you are not best friends with their kids you could find yourself not allowed to visit them.

If you are not married and the other person passes away you could find yourself on the street if their kids decide that they want the property because in most states you will have no legal rights. Sometimes even wills are not enough to prevent that if the kids decide to contest it in court.

That probably would not be a concern if you were in your 20s or even 30s, but those would be a concern to someone who had lived with someone for years and was not young enough to start their life over again.

I have seen both these situations happen to older people. Just something to think about when you decide what kind of relationship you are going to have.
soft_touch938

Jan 17 @ 11:33AM  
Done both. But now it's N/A.....I don't care how much I might love a man I will never ever ever live with one again.

There.

Anything else ya wanna know?
lunanegra

Jan 17 @ 11:37AM  
TMI there, Luna, TMI...

BUT..I make up for such by being a great cook, an intelligent, consummate social companion, an attentive lover and devoted, romantic, affectionate girlfriend.

Or if he's cool, we could just live apart, having two homes separated by a bridge like Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera did.
LilGriz

Jan 17 @ 1:17PM  
Live together....ummmm YEAH, as soon as we can afford her to move up here
theSkwirl

Jan 17 @ 2:10PM  
I'm on my 9th year, as of next month, of living in joyful sin! I have no plans on changing that anywhen soon.
TastyCupcake

Jan 17 @ 3:21PM  
I wouldn't live with my SO whether we were engaged or not if we weren't legally married.
I've seen several women try to fool themselves that they were common law married when they never came close to satisfying the legal elements to be that. They just tried to make themselves feel better after several live in relationships failed.
sugarnspice005

Jan 17 @ 11:24PM  
Mick and I were living together for almost a year before he proposed.


















pssssssssssssst!!! I finally commented.
likearock69

Jan 18 @ 11:30PM  
I would actually prefer to live with my s/o before getting married. I want to know that her and I are compatible domestically before entering a "until death do you part" agreement lol. I think I would want to live together before we got engaged. I think it's kinda silly not to live together beforehand, especially for couples (what 99% of them lol) who have slept together anyway.

I don't think cohabitation before marriage leads to higher divorce rates, it might actually be the other way around. I bet a lot of cohabiting couples break up though...probably for the better before marriage than after. Messy divorce stuff. Men and women living together not natural? What could be more natural than two people who love each other with or without a ring and apiece of paper sharing int he wonderful intimacy and chemistry that they share. Showing each other what life will be like with that person. That, I'm sure, is an amazing experience. Besides, I would love to come home to woman after a hard days work.
kattoes

Jan 4 @ 11:02PM  
Better question!!

Would you ever consider marring, or getting engaged to anyone!!!... including a SO you lived with???

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Would you live together with your s/o before getting engaged or married?