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Is the Lack of Oral Sex a Deal Breaker?

posted 1/15/2010 9:26:17 PM |
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  KitKat25

I've given the topic of oral sex a lot of thought recently...yes; I know...ooh la la... I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one on AMD thinking about this topic. Hey...it's a great topic. Anyway, I've come to the conclusion that there are those of us who love "it" and can't imagine life without "it"...and those of us who could live without "it" and be just fine.

For awhile, I thought I was a part of the first group, but I've come to the conclusion that this is not true. Partly because if you've never had great oral sex, you don't know what you're missing...and partly because I'm so tired of dealing with guys who think gals should be fine with giving them nice long blow jobs while they are lucky to have a guy go down on them for 5 minutes. Talk about a double standard.

So guys and gals of AMD...I would love to hear your opinion on this topic.

1. Is the lack of oral sex a deal breaker?

2. Would you be able to be a part of a committed relationship if you were not receiving oral sex and there was a good reason for the lack of "it"?

3. Is oral sex important to you, or could you live without "it"?

For me, I think there would have to be a REALLY good reason why I wasn't receiving oral sex within a committed relationship. If there wasn't a good reason, and he was expecting a lot of nice long blow jobs, I would definitely have to re-evaluate the relationship.

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Looking4ever

Jan 15 @ 9:29PM  
Lack of brains and passion are deal breakers...the rest? Meh.
theSkwirl

Jan 15 @ 9:39PM  
I love Oral Sex.. and I'm good at it.. not the best by any means though my g/f might argue that point when you peel her off the roof.

Lack of it is not gonna be the deal breaker though.. unless I am expected to give but not receive.. that pisses me off.. I mean it, seriously.. you want me to blow/eat you but I get squat? NO. forget it.. and I expect as much time and effort put into what you give me as what I give you.. why? because .. I do my very best for you. If you don't value me enough to do your very best for me? see ya.

Did that answer your questions?

oh.. no.. yeah I could go without it if there was a good reason.. like say a disease carried by body fluids..
StraddleMyNose

Jan 15 @ 9:43PM  
I love being sucked dry by her. And the fact that I would really REALLY love to go down on her sucking on her clit while reaching all the way to the back of her wall to get that really sweet spot, and then side to side on her walls with my tongue as I begin to curl the tip of my tongue upwards pressing on her g-spot to make her cum very hard. I love giving her oral that way, along with her facesitting on my face while I can do it that way too as she humps and grinds really hard on my tongue till she explodes in my mouth and all over my face.
gardasian

Jan 15 @ 9:51PM  
These are pretty good questions. First off, I wouldn't try to coerce anyone into anything they're uncomfortable with. Don't get me wrong...I love oral sex. Both giving and receiving. But if you really love someone, boundaries must be respected. I could live without it if I had to. A good reason for lack of it could range from a bad experience to a person just being turned off by the very thought (and yes, there are those out there who are turned off by the thought). There are a multitude of ways a committed couple could please each other in bed (or on the floor, in the bathroom, on the kitchen counter..ahem!) These things need to be discussed beforehand so that boundaries can be established. I, for one, certainly wouldn't throw away a potentially happy and productive relationship just because "Uncle Woody" wasn't allowed to tickle her tonsils.

There's my two cents plus change.
somnium

Jan 15 @ 11:02PM  
1. Is the lack of oral sex a deal breaker?

No- there are many other ways to satisfy and be satisfied! It's hard enough finding a caring partner as it is, without compounding the problem!

2. Would you be able to be a part of a committed relationship if you were not receiving oral sex and there was a good reason for the lack of "it"?

I would want to know what has changed in a relationship before I made a radical decision to break it off! There could be several reasons for not getting oral sex if you were and if you weren't and the rest of the sex and the relationship in general is satisfactory, then it's a moot point anyway IMO!

3. Is oral sex important to you, or could you live without "it"?

Of course I enjoy it but, if everything else in a relationship sexual wise and other wise is working well, why screw up a good thing?


DesertSmile

Jan 15 @ 11:47PM  
Not receiving I could get by with...but not giving...now that would be really difficult for me to do without.
yourfacefits

Jan 16 @ 1:15AM  
I rate how attracted I am to a guy by imagining (or really hearing) him say "Suck it!" And I could NOT fall in love with a guy who wasn't good at giving face. THAT's how important it is to me! If that goes, it's done...
1bunny629

Jan 16 @ 3:20AM  
deal breaker??? yep!...but if I am on that deserted island without any, I bet it isn't the first thing that I miss....
harddaddy

Jan 16 @ 6:28AM  
IF A MAN OR WOMAN LOVES ORAL SEX YES ITS A DEAL BREAKER.MEN SOMETIMES TRY TO MAKE ALLOWANCES BUT MOST MEN LOVE TO HAVE THERE DICK SUCKED AND I WOULD BET A LOT GET IT SUCKED ELSEWHERE WHILE STAYING IN THE RELATIONSHIP.I'D BET SOME WOMAN JUST FIND IT ELSEWHERE ALSO..
aftershox

Jan 16 @ 8:12AM  
1. Is the lack of oral sex a deal breaker?
Yes

2. Would you be able to be a part of a committed relationship if you were not receiving oral sex and there was a good reason for the lack of "it"?
No

3. Is oral sex important to you, or could you live without "it"?
Oral sex is not particularly important to me.

The real deal breaker would be in the attitude of the other person. I have no use for narrow-minded, stuck-in-the-mud thinking,. Sex should be wild and creative. Life should be wild and creative.
ynot7769

Jan 16 @ 8:47AM  
ummm YES...what can i say
soft_touch938

Jan 16 @ 9:24AM  
I'm with Looking4E on this one.
dmbchick420

Jan 16 @ 9:34AM  
1. Yes

2. No

3. I can't live without it. My motto is “You get what you give!”
whisperingcomet

Jan 16 @ 10:21AM  
yep, its a deal breaker for me
Dione

Jan 16 @ 10:24AM  
Let's face it (pun intended), most of us enjoy oral sex. The lack of it is not the only issue for me. The quality of oral sex is what can be a deal breaker for me... some men and women just don't know how to do it well, aren't interested in learning how to please their partner or just don't care as long as they are satisfied. So:

1. If oral sex is non-existent, but everything else is agreeable it wouldn't be a deal breaker.
2. I was in this situation... sex life was fantastic, then changed with a diagnosis which prevented oral sex. It didn't have any negative affect upon our relationship, but I missed it.
3. Oral sex is important, but it is not the only sexual component that brings satisfaction. I could live without it... I mean I live without it now, so what's the dif—LOL!
ksk72

Jan 16 @ 2:32PM  
Life should be wild and creative.
KitKat25

Jan 17 @ 9:31PM  
Thanks so much Pervia for the very interesting and diverse comments. Many of you made some excellent points...and caused me to look at this topic from a different point of view. Thanks again for your participation.
YohanLondon

Jan 18 @ 8:03PM  
I take the opinion that it is more blessed to give than to receive. Oral sex is top priority for. I get more pleasure in seeing my partner enjoying..especially the moans and groan just before the squirt.....hmmm.
I will feel denied if I was not allowed this privilege.
likearock69

Jan 19 @ 12:42AM  
I love giving oral sex. I think I like giving it more than receiving it, but I do like getting it. A woman that isn't willing to go down on me after I do so for her...yea, I'd have to re-evaluate the relationship too.
chuck111

Feb 3 @ 9:24PM  
sure it is she gets it or he and you dont not cool

but it is funny

chuck
tassie1

Feb 28 @ 2:30PM  
hmmm, musta missed this topic...

I'm more of a giver than a reciever.
but being on the recieving end is awesome too sometimes.
1bunny629

Feb 28 @ 2:45PM  
I've never experienced anyone that doesn't go down. If I did, I would wonder...and probably not have sex with that person again....
Wordsofwit

Feb 28 @ 2:58PM  
It is a case by case thing, but, yeah, points are deducted. If a woman doesn't gobble the goop, it ain't worth a poop.
flavorbuster

Feb 28 @ 6:22PM  
1. Is the lack of oral sex a deal breaker?

2. Would you be able to be a part of a committed relationship if you were not receiving oral sex and there was a good reason for the lack of "it"?

3. Is oral sex important to you, or could you live without "it"?
To answer all three lots of couples have resorted to plain old grudge fucking because one, the other, or both are pissed off about something & literally settle for mad fucking because they are committed & will not cheat. On the other hand some men go outside the box to get their jollies inside another box. Some women cheat as well. To avoid heartache & frustration a good majority get into swinging & don't worry about the lack of oral because somebody in the crowd is up for it if not your significant other.
Gearing back to question #1 Not really if you are committed you just miss out.
StraddleMyNose

Feb 28 @ 8:45PM  
Yep, it's still important to me!
PetePuma

Mar 12 @ 11:20AM  
1. Is the lack of oral sex a deal breaker?
Yes. If she won't let me go down on her then I'd have to find someone else that will.

2. Would you be able to be a part of a committed relationship if you were not receiving oral sex and there was a good reason for the lack of "it"?
Unfortunately I am. But what's a good reason?

3. Is oral sex important to you, or could you live without "it"?
Oral sex is extremely important to me. I can't feel totally satisfied until I've eaten her out. I can't live without dining on pussy at least several times a week, it's as important as breathing. I love receiving too, but I don't need to receive as much as I need to give.

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