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Most (if not all) people point out the flaws in others to deflect the attention off of themselves. If they can get the attention elsewhere, they can be in control, and people will not be focused on the mistakes they themselves are making.

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RevDocLove

Jan 11 @ 2:03PM  
I'm old, short, fat and funny looking...Does that count??
1bunny629

Jan 11 @ 2:06PM  
I was just thinking that.....
dmbchick420

Jan 11 @ 2:08PM  
I am looking for opinions about this and whether or not you (general term) do this yourself and how it makes you feel. Does it make you feel better about yourself? Does it make you feel guilty?

I am not just talking about on AMD either. I am talking about in real life as well.

I'm looking for an adult debate/discussion. Is that still possible around here?????
Wordsofwit

Jan 11 @ 2:08PM  
I don't buy into it but not inclined to want to spend any time discussing it.
girlcountry

Jan 11 @ 2:11PM  
I have known people like that...I don't do it because I know my flaws! I don't need someone pointing them out to me! And yes, I think people do it because they think that it makes them look bigger or more important. In my opinion, it just makes them look small and petty.
dmbchick420

Jan 11 @ 2:13PM  
I have known people like that...I don't do it because I know my flaws! I don't need someone pointing them out to me! And yes, I think people do it because they think that it makes them look bigger or more important. In my opinion, it just makes them look small and petty.

Thanks for your comment! That's what I'm looking for
RJ53

Jan 11 @ 2:18PM  
Yes, I was married to that person, we are no longer married. Enough said.
theSkwirl

Jan 11 @ 2:20PM  
I was married to RJ's evil twin..

I think everyone does it at some point in time.. and no .. I don't find that it makes me feel any better about myself.
DarkKnightWalking

Jan 11 @ 2:26PM  
Totally agree. And I see it in nearly every circumstance in society, where someone always has a thousand reasons why they did this or that. Bad childhood, bad parents, the laws, the government, their peers, their environment, the list goes on and on and on...people in general rarely step up and take responsibility for anything anymore.

While I am sure I have been guilty myself more than once, years ago I had a personal epiphany over this and TRY to ask myself first before pointing the fingers at others if I was at fault. Not a perfect personal philosophy in any form, but it has worked for me many times. I have long said the finger needs to be pointed IN first, long before it gets pointed OUT.
1bunny629

Jan 11 @ 2:28PM  
Kida do it when they are small and immature because it is a way of learning how to express themselves. Normally they realize it is the wrong way to act and curve it by paying compliments to those that either need a pick me up, or because they noticed something positive. Usually they learn by someonelse doing it to them and find out that it hurts, and their parents teach them the proper way to express themselves. Either, or; the learning process does happen and if it doesn't then those that don't get it will have a long road to hoe.
RJ53

Jan 11 @ 2:29PM  
I was married to RJ's evil twin..

That would be my ex-husband's evil twin. If I want to find fault with someone I can always go look in the mirror,
theSkwirl

Jan 11 @ 2:34PM  
Sorry RJ yes, your EX's evil twin.
dmbchick420

Jan 11 @ 2:35PM  
If I want to find fault with someone I can always go look in the mirror,

I think that's what people need to concentrate on first before pointing out the faults in others. Once you are able to do that and are comfortable with yourself, there is no need to point the finger elsewhere.
dmbchick420

Jan 11 @ 2:37PM  
I'm pulling a Skwirl....I kudo'd myself and it felt goooood
aspiringwriter

Jan 11 @ 2:37PM  

On first glance, I think that it may be true that most (or all) do this sometimes but it isn't the main reason that people point in the flaws in others...

IOW, I think the pattern only explains the behavior sometimes but that other motivations are more likely. Mind you, I'm not sure what I would say these motivations are.

I'll give it more thought.
dmbchick420

Jan 11 @ 2:46PM  
On first glance, I think that it may be true that most (or all) do this sometimes but it isn't the main reason that people point in the flaws in others...

I suppose you are right and I'm, of course, referring to recent events around this blogosphere and not every day to day life. I'm sure it depends on the situation.

RJ53

Jan 11 @ 2:48PM  
I have found from experience that people who tend to find constant flaws in another person also tend to be control freaks. If they can damage the other person's self esteem enough it makes them easier to control. It is the sign of an insecure person who does not have their own act together.
Wordsofwit

Jan 11 @ 2:51PM  
On first glance, I think that it may be true that most (or all) do this sometimes but it isn't the main reason that people point in the flaws in others...

I have found from experience that people who tend to find constant flaws in another person also tend to be control freaks.

I'll agree with those two.
StraddleMyNose

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Jan 11 @ 2:57PM  
not inclined to want to spend any time discussing it
Going to have to agree with Bruce on this one...
lunanegra

Jan 11 @ 3:07PM  
Won't lie- I was one of those people. That's why I spend most of my waking life going through introspection to make sure I never will be again.

However, my sister is another story..
dmbchick420

Jan 11 @ 3:34PM  
Won't lie- I was one of those people. That's why I spend most of my waking life going through introspection to make sure I never will be again.

At least you have learned from your mistakes, Luna. I think it's best to go through life like that anyways (in my opinion). I worry about those that continue to make these mistakes over and over again of pointing the finger at others even after they are told it's not a good thing. Everybody, including myself of course, should take a good hard look at themself and try to improve on that.
zaralyon

Jan 11 @ 5:05PM  
My fathers current wife is like this, and they (father and his wife) wonder why I can't stand the woman.
ksk72

Jan 11 @ 6:04PM  
I am not really much different in real life than I am on here. I avoid and ignore other peoples negativity and drama. I am the kinda person that will walk out of a conversation if I dont like the topic. The only time I really point out flaws is when their stupidity directly affects my life. Cept this dumb show on MTV right now thats kinda like jackass but not...those idiots deserve to be made fun of
aspiringwriter

Jan 12 @ 1:36AM  
I'm not generally inclined towards this kind of behavior. I don't really pay attention to other people's flaws. I figure everybody's a bit different and everybody makes mistakes. I am introspective and I think this helps. I certainly do it sometimes. Usually it's when I get frustrated with somebody. I should just chill out a bit or take a deep breath and count to ten.

I had an ex-girlfriend who frequently pointed out the flaws in things. This is why she's an ex. I find it really irritating. But I don't think she really gave it much thought. I think she saw it as a form of joking around. Teasing certainly has its place in flirtation. But it didn't come off that way.

I have known other people who seemed to feel an urge to point out people's flaws. Perhaps it was a control thing. The people I'm recalling didn't have very much power in their own life. So perhaps the two were related.

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