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posted 1/6/2010 1:47:56 PM |
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  soonersoccer

I hate repeating myself, but I'm definitely a person who thinks about sex a lot. Rumor has it that most other guys think about sex a lot too. Despite how much I (we?) think about it, I've never been able to get a good grip on how important sex is or is not. I'm not a guy that has sex very often. This often leads me to worry. I worry that I'm not good enough in bed, that I'm lacking in size or stamina or experience, that I'm not good looking enough, or that I haven't had enough sexual partners. Most people on here tell me that those things don't matter. But it still matters to me; it must mean something because otherwise I wouldn't obsess over it. It's hard to take anyone's advice on the matter. The people giving advice eithe get laid a lot, so it's easy for them to dismiss something that is easy and regular in their lives as unimportant or not difficult, or they don't get laid a lot, so they can't say what they're missing out on. I don't want sex to be a big deal for me. It shouldn't matter. When I have sex, it doesn't seem like that big of a deal. It's fun and all, but what I like best is still just laying in bed holding her in my arms. Maybe if I could have that more often I'd stop worrying about sex. I dunno. I think I've gotten off whatever point I was trying to make. I just wish life could be simpler sometimes. Sex isn't supposed to be a big deal, but it's everywhere in society. All of my friends come home from college and tell me stories about all the girls they hooked up with. Every TV show, movie, and magazine is filled with sex. Every night on the news there are tons of stories about teen pregnancies, abortions, and STD's. We have college classes about human sexuality and sexual ethics. Tons of people's blogs are devoted entirely to talking about sex; all the ones about relationships and dating still talk about it a lot even if it's not the point of the website. Sex is everywhere in our culture. It's hard for me to keep trying to convince myself it doesn't matter.

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Dione

Jan 6 @ 3:02PM  
Of course sex matters! To deny it would be lying to yourself and the entire planet. We are wired to be sexual creatures... it's how we propagate the species.

The media has self-wired into sex because it's a subject everyone is interested in whether we admit it or not. It's a sensational subject that SELLS - it feels good - and some of us want more than what we receive. So it isn't surprising with the advancement of technology and availability of sexual subject matter that we are inundated with it everywhere we turn.

Personally I wish we took a more understated approach as most Europeans do... yes, sex exists, they enjoy it, but they don't obsess about it or pass judgment of others' sexual proclivities the way many uptight American zealots do.

Your pleasure 'after' sex comes from cuddling, being close to your partner and receiving the comforting reassurance we can receive from another... the act itself can be exciting, but the comfort of just being close to your partner is equally important to satisfaction. Why do you think we sleep better and are less stressed after having sex? t's natural and has it's purpose as many our behaviors do. However, only you can control how much sex influences your life and your self-confidence. You decide and no one else, so don't let the media or others dictate your sexual feelings or how imporatnt sex is in your life.

A greenie for you... good blog.
lunanegra

Jan 6 @ 3:25PM  
Good news, dude- there's a blog below yours of a *very* horny woman, apparently.
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Jan 6 @ 4:14PM  
Good news, dude- there's a blog below yours of a *very* horny woman, apparently
Luna, you're bad!

Dione had some very good advice and perspective in her comment on here.

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