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If Given The Chance...Would You Change A Decision You Regret?

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I've been doing some soul searching over the past week since I've had a lot of extra time. During this soul searching, I've been asking myself a lot of interesting questions. I suppose when you do a lot of soul searching you sometimes recall things you wished you may or may not have done in the past. Regrets… I have a few...just like I'm sure we all do. So I started wondering...What kind of regrets do my fellow Pervians have? So here's the question...

If given the chance...would you change a decision you regret?

Me? I have 3 regrets I think about.

The 1st one involves turning down a 4-year university scholarship, and the 2nd one involves getting married at the age of 18. Despite the amount of grief I went through over both of these decisions, I wouldn't change their outcome. Why? Because if either event was altered...I might not have my wonderful son today...and I did eventually get my college degree.

The 3rd regret is one I'm still digesting and I haven't quite decided if I would change its outcome if I could.

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Jan 2 @ 7:31AM  
may sound like a trivial thing, but I once broke my better halfs heart , all from a mis-understanding and wish dearly almost every day to this day I could go back and change how i handled things
its definately number 1 on my list of ; dumbest things I've done in my life.

Jan 2 @ 7:31AM  
for most of my life i only had ONE....never havening smoked cigarettes ...but i've added one more....never having taken my last job at a transmission shop.....ewwww big mistake and cost me dearly

Jan 2 @ 7:48AM  
There would be some, ranging from a few to thousands depending on the level of significance.

Jan 2 @ 8:33AM  
I sure am glad that I've lived a perfect life

No regrets..Whatever grief I've had in my life is irreversible and
it doesn't make one bit of difference by rehashing the mistakes..
It can't be changed, so I live with all my FU's

Jan 2 @ 8:43AM  
I was talking about a major regret...if you had a chance...would you change a major decision and its outcome if you could?

Jan 2 @ 8:44AM  
I'm still thinking about it, but I think I should have waited for more time to pass before declaring my true feelings to my gf over on MD. As more time passes I'm not sure she's really the right one. Guess we'll see.

Jan 2 @ 8:57AM  
I don't regret much. All things I've chose to do, I've choosen myself. All things I've done wrong, I'm still here. And all mistakes I'm made, I've learned from. I can only be a better person and make wiser choices from here on out. No time to ponder the past, just look ahead to a better future!

Jan 2 @ 10:08AM  
I don't necessarily regret my decisions in life. There were times when I wished I didn't have to make the decision and that the situation could have turned out differently. But regret my decisions, no I don't.

Jan 2 @ 10:55AM  
Ya know Kat I've spent 6 yrs. (since my husband died) mulling my life over and that includes regrets...and there are many.

Yet even those I would change I have approached them from every direction thinking on how I'd do things differently if given the chance.

My conclusion?

Every one of those ill-fated decisions, screw-ups, wrong turns...they taught me, strengthened me, furthered my education albeit the hard way and left me smarter and wiser.

Change any of them and I would not be who I am today. Who knows...maybe I'd have been a better person....ironically that is more than likely to be so. Yet I've walked my own path as it was meant to be and I believe the reason for that was those I gave life to was meant to be and as I walked that road I've touched lives that I was meant to touch for whatever reason unbeknown to me.

I think no one ever walks the path God intended for us but looking back I can see that a lot of good things came out of the bad and for me, I believe that was by His hand, His doing. I have reasons to believe that and I won't discuss them here...personal and up close and not up for discussion.

Ok carried away...

Jan 2 @ 11:32AM  
There are many things I regret and wish at times I could go back and change them. With changing things though, it would probally would change me as I am.

I regret marrying at 17 just to get away from my mother, but to this day I am still friends with him. We should have just stayed friends to begin with.
I wouldn't change having my kids BUT if I could go back I doubt I would have married again at the age of 20 to an abusive person.
The BIGGEST regret, letting a so called friend in my apartment and getting raped. The is one I would change in a heart beat.

Don't want to keep going on but those are a few.

Jan 2 @ 11:35AM  
I'm sure there's one or two things that I regreted doing over the years. Going to have to come back to this blog later on...

Jan 2 @ 11:56AM  
Two comes to mind. I should never and I mean never have uprooted my life and left New York City. And I should never have married my last husband. The first one because I had built a pretty good life there for myself and things have never been the same anywhere else.There it seemed to be more of what a person was capable of doing and less to do with being female or a person's religion or personal lifestyle. The second one because the guy turned out to be a jerk who was pretty good at hiding his true personality for the two years we were dating like the fact he was a control freak. Those were both life changing events and not in a good way.

Jan 2 @ 12:41PM  
I've made a couple of regrets in my teens, I wish I could change- one involving a girl friend and no, I didn't get her pregnant but, a little longer down the road and I probably would have! But what's done is done!

In my late 20s, an idea I had, might have been best and if I had pursued it, I might now be living in the Caribbeans, sucking on Mai Tais and nipples! Oh wellll!

The last one, was my biggest regret!


Jan 2 @ 12:53PM  
Good blog with a tough question. Like has been said, changing some things might change an entire avenue of yours or others history. Have to be careful about that one. Other times I can remember, even though something went wrong, it (much) later on caused something else to go right. I am a believer that everything happens for a reason. While I would change somethings that have happened, it would take some deep thought on which ones and how to change them.

Jan 2 @ 1:02PM  
I don't do regret or guilt. If I screw up, I make reparation if possible, if not, I forgive myself for having been human and endeavor to do better.

From the Play RENT

The heart may freeze or it can burn
The pain will ease if I can learn

There is no future
There is no past
Thank God this moment's not the last

There's only us
There's only this
Forget regret-- or life is yours to miss.
No other road
No other way
No day but today

There's only yes
Only tonight
We must let go
To know what is alright
No other course
No other way
No day but today

I can't control
My destiny
I trust my soul
My only hope
is just to be

There's only now
There's only here
Give in to love
Or live in fear
No other path
No other way
No day but today

Jan 2 @ 2:20PM  
I regret. And then I stop worrying about it. As long as I'm still young and living, its never too late to redress my mistakes.

Jan 2 @ 4:15PM  
My only true regret is that I did not continue to college after high school. Following closely is that I didn't apply myself more in high school. I had brains but I didn't push myself. What an idiot.

Jan 2 @ 6:20PM  
Thanks for all your great comments Pervia. I knew I wasn't alone, but I also agree with a lot of you in that you shouldn't get bogged down with regrets. Instead, you should move forward without wasting time and more importantly...let go. Now if I could just get myself to do this at those moments when I start having those pesky 'lil regrets.

Jan 2 @ 6:24PM  
The one decision I'd like to go back and change would be when my Mom asked me if I was going to college after I graduated high school. She told me that Dad had set some money aside over the years to help pay for it. Like a typical 18 yr old, I said "no, I want to take a year to just be "free"". Yeah...I should have taken up their offer instead of racking up student loans.

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If Given The Chance...Would You Change A Decision You Regret?