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why is it hard to find a girl for a hook up on sites like this?

posted 11/30/2009 12:53:35 PM |
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OK, I'm new at this, but here goes:

I met a girl on Craigslist a month ago, and it seemed like I would get some love the following week. We chatted, sex-texted, and normal texted for 5 days. Something came up and she couldn't make the first date, and then the second a week later. In between she sent several x-rated pics and that got me oh sooo excited.

Sadly, she let it be known in the third week that she was "doing drugs", something she never clarified, and cut me off when I told her I was not cool with that, but wanted to remain friends. since then, all I find are women looking for gooey relationships or webcam girls taking me for a ride.

why is it so hard to find a girl for a hook up even on sites like this one? Few reply, those who do seem to always be from Nigeria or Russia, while the overtly naughty profiles haven't accessed their profiles in over 3 months. If hooking up is the new "date", it seems to me that this process shouldn't be this hard. Or am I missing something?

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Nov 30 @ 1:16PM  
How long have you been looking? Patience my friend...patience. It always seems to happen when you least expect it! When it comes to this site in particular, the best way to meet people is to participate in the forums and in the blogs, so you are off to a good start

Nov 30 @ 3:42PM  
Hello sir, I have been where you are, and have felt what you are feeling, so I have decided to comment here, and share with you, the benifit of "My Experience".

Before March of last year, I had never been on a dating site before, seemed to me that would be a great place to find a whole data base of women to choose from, sooner or later I would find what I was looking for. The following is my guesstamation of the facts:

Sex sites: On 99% of these, the men outnumber the women 50 to one.
Out of those women ,65% of the female profiles are scammers spammers, site hawks, cam girls, and kids pranking .
Then there is the unethical practice by some sites, of planting false female profiles.
Bottom line is, they are cash cows for the owners, who target men for there money, who think with there dick and not there brain.
That said, I will go to the next catagory.

Nov 30 @ 3:56PM  
Next are the vanilla sites,, Singlesnet, Datehookup, ect
these are sites supposedly full of women looking fo romance, dating and marriage.
Not so...again 1 in 35 maybe, the rest are also scammers, ect, and these sites are more expensive as a rule than the sex sites, but you will be just as frustrated.
Now, there are the free sites, AMD, MD, plentyofish, datehookup ect. These are ok to have fun and make friends on, but I have found as far as meeting a real live women go's, the old fashioned way works chance, in the real world. everybody in cyberland is here for the almighty buck my man, and that is the bottome line. it works like this. to attract women, the sites offer free membership to them. So all the cockroaches in cyberland get on board with a few file pic's, a phoney profile, and a line of bullshit. Why ? Your identity, your money, your address...on and off line, your phone number ect, all marketable items. So, you can disbelieve this, and keep spending your money and delude yourself, or you can put up with it, and try the unfatomable task of weeding them out, or go to church, a bar, a wedding, a party, a barmitzva, whatever, and do it like it always been done, cause there ain't no free lunch! What women in her right mind, is really going to join one of these, if she is not cautious, street wise and hip to all there about. Not many, and the real ones that do, are all of the above. Hope this was a help, it's all fact and truth, think about it!

Nov 30 @ 3:59PM  
Oh, and PS, out of all the ones I mentioned, craiglist is the worst, most of the scammers there are from other countries, really trying to fuck you. From places like Africa, South America, and Asia. And I am told craigslist is monitored by just about every federal law enforcement agency in the world, it's so dirty.

Nov 30 @ 4:03PM  

Nov 30 @ 5:51PM  
Or am I missing something?

Other then everything, almost nothing.

Nov 30 @ 7:32PM  
If you're looking for "instant hookup" it isn't going to happen. Like dmb said, "patience".

Nov 30 @ 8:35PM  
Sometimes it takes time, it's not easy for most men on these sites. Women can be picky because there are more men to choose from. Women don't have to be on a sex site to get sex, it's offered to them daily. Most women have to basically fight men off. Besides the scammers, lesbians, and women here just for entertainment and not looking, there are very few actually available and somewhat sane.
I'm not complaining I found someone, not perfect, but lots of fun.

Nov 30 @ 8:41PM  
thanks for the advice. Yeah, I know this sort of thing takes patience.

Nov 30 @ 9:08PM  
Just curious where this notion came from?

If hooking up is the new "date"

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