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posted 11/17/2009 7:30:07 PM |
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I just broke up with my b/f and realize that he will always be emotionally detached with any woman. What's wrong with the men I pick? They tell me they love me, but that's only when we're about to have sex or during sex. Or else all they want is a blow job. I'm tired of it. I deserve better than that. How do I get it? At a loss here guys. Give me some good advice, please!!!!!!

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wolf_0089

Nov 17 @ 8:08PM  
Hey, i'm a guy and yes i can say there are a lot of dicks out there, guys who dont care about a womans feelings. I for one, have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now and i tell her i love her everyday and prove it to her. Its always hard finding a guy who cares that much, but to be honest, the next guy you meet or date, wait to have sex with him. Even if it takes 3 or 4 months. If he hasn't ran away by then, then you know for sure he is a caring loving man. Get him to prove to you that he cares about you and not just about sex. Every girl i know, has said they wish they could find a guy like me, im the only one they know. And yeah i can agree i hate most guys for that reason, because it was always hard for a girl to trust me at first, because most of them are the same. But just get him to prove to you that he loves you for what you are and you will know hes the right one. Thats about all i can say really, hope it helps!
rubenesque_04

Nov 17 @ 8:16PM  
I'm not a guy, but I'm just throwing in my point of view. Although we're on an adult site...I do believe that if the focus on sex happens too quickly when you're seeking a real relationship, it clouds your judgement in other areas. If you're looking for real love, take a step back & get to know the person. I think there are still men out there who want to get to know a woman & will respect you if you don't jump into bed with every guy you go out with. Yes, most men want sex, but if a man is interested in talking to you, calling you, taking you out, getting to know you, then maybe there is potential.

Check out Steve Harvey's book from a man's perspective "Act Like A Lady, Think Like a Man." I found some relevent things in his book.
somnium

Nov 17 @ 9:08PM  
Probably easier said than done but I have four thoughts on this:

1- use this as a learning experience- not all men are like that and:

2- better to find out now, than if it had gotten much more serious!

3- keep looking- don't give up!

4- allow for auto approval- you'll get more comments that way- how to do that, is in the Help menu files!

JMO

Good luck!


mrmagicwand

Nov 18 @ 1:15AM  
Hey HTT,

How are you meeting these "men"? If they're all "emotionally detached" they are not looking for a relationship with you, they just want sex. Saying they love you right before sex is a ploy, not a true expression of emotion. As the saying goes "a hard dick has no conscience".

If you want to meet men who are more mature and emotionally available, you need to do something different than you have been. Determine what qualities a man must have to meet your standards. And raise your current standards. And make sure you know exactly what YOU want before you go back "out there". Another time and tested maxim goes "If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything". Know what you stand for before the next guy is professing his love to you as he's tearing off your jeans.

A final note and it's a comment on your profile. You say you're looking for a one night stand OR a long term relationship. That's cool. But is that REALLY the message you want to convey. Because many guys will think "OK, I'll take the one night stand". So just make sure YOU know what you are truly looking for.

Also a good time to be good to yourself and do things you enjoy doing,

Good luck!

"Magic"
lkg4action

Nov 18 @ 2:07AM  
Theres good loving men out here that means it when they say they love you just gotta keep looking! My be look at what attracts you to these guys in the first place as some times have to decide what you really want!

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