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SHOCK & GRIEF. posted 11/17/2009 6:59:58 PM | 0 kudos what's this?     report abuse   JsGirl69 A friend of mine lost her 3mo old son to SIDS yesterday.Losing a child @ any age is just beyond my comprehension.My ? to you folks is if you were in her shoes,what could someone do to ease the pain? Copy & paste to friend: (Click inside box; Ctrl + C to copy; Ctrl + V to paste)

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ynot7769	Nov 17 @ 7:04PM
	nothing....all that i can imagine working is TIME>....
sugarnspice005	Nov 17 @ 7:08PM
	That would be an unimaginable pain. Best I can say is to be her friend. Let her know she can lean on you. Give her a couple/few days and see if you can get her to take a walk with you or catch a movie.
Taisen	Nov 17 @ 7:09PM
	No idea what i would do or how I would cope with losing a child. Just thinking about it upsets me. Sorry to hear of this. Hope she will be ok. Be there for her as much as you can.
riverman73	Nov 17 @ 7:15PM
	feel bad for her lost ill pray for her
JsGirl69	Nov 17 @ 7:18PM
	I just cooked a cpl meals & took it over.Her 10yr old is spending the night.Its just soo fuckn SAD!
msvoluptuos	Nov 17 @ 7:29PM
	I have a 3 month old Grandson, I can't imagine her pain! She & her family will be in my prayers!
Wordsofwit	Nov 17 @ 7:31PM
	There is nothing one can say when such a tragedy occurs that seems adequate.
PinkToeNails	Nov 17 @ 8:30PM
	There's no way to ease that pain for her... all you can do is be there for her! I'm so very sorry to your friend.... and I'm thankful she has a friend in you!
JsGirl69	Nov 17 @ 8:38PM
	Thank you,Pink.
somnium	Nov 17 @ 8:41PM
	Sorry to hear that- just being a friend for her is all I can think of right now!
Exothermic	Nov 17 @ 9:32PM
	all you can do is be there for her! Pink's said it all. Don't try to come up with an answer or fix things...you can't and that's all there is to it. But, being there makes a huge difference. I can't imagine what your friend's going through. Even more, I can't imagine getting through it alone.
Looking4ever	Nov 17 @ 9:43PM
	Right now she is probably going to be surrounded by offers of help and comfort. Be there when everyone else is gone. Let her know you are available to her. Call her and invite her to lunch, to join your family for dinner. Treat her like she is still a whole person. Keep making the offers even if she doesn't say yes. Eventually she will take you up on one. And will feel grateful that you are still there.
theSkwirl	Nov 17 @ 10:13PM
	Nothing is gonna ease it.. but you can be there for her when she needs to hold on and cry.
lkg4action	Nov 18 @ 2:17AM
	Believe it or not the hardest time for her will be in a couple of days when the funeral is done and it all sinks in! Thats when life doesn't go back to normal and she will need a friend! Spend a little time with her if she will let you and let her know you care. There really is not much more you can do!
JsGirl69	Nov 18 @ 10:28AM
	Thx everybody.Its nice to be a newbie & see the same type of down to Earth ppl as the sites where Im considered an old-schooler.lol.I asked her to write a letter full of her hopes & dreams for him & we sat around my firepit talking for hrs last night,where she eventually threw her letter in.She seems more @ peace,but I know thats just a stage.I think shes being kinda overwhelmed by everyones need to talk,it feels like shes taking solace in the fact that w/me theres no need to fill the void. Our Silence is comfortable...