I got divorced 2 1/2 years ago. Before that the youngest woman I'd ever dated was five to six years younger, never older. Didn't plan it that way. It just happened.
Now, all the women around me are 20 to 40 years younger. I'm not complaining, just looking to figure it out.
Here's what I'm hearing from them.
"The men my age are total jerks." I hear that one a lot. I remember in my 20s, I was mostly interested in getting laid. I had no clue about creating the necessary emotional parts of a relationship. One young woman told me last year, "It's so nice to be appreciated for my mind too."
Their next complaint says, "I'm so tired of his juvenile ways." She didn't mind being silly and having fun with him, she was just fed up with the "high school" antics he still clung to as being fun, so an older man was her solution.
Doing that solves a number of issues, and at the same time, it presents a whole new set of challenges.
The big challenge is...well, the big age gap. Some women accept it.
Some are just totally weirded out by the thought of kissing a man the age of their father. For me, each woman gets to make that choice for herself.
Actually, most never bring it up. They are more interested in the other aspects of relationship, like building trust, sharing warmth and mutual respect, and age is rarely a concern. Maybe it's just me coming to grips with the issue.
For woman who feel age is an issue, they need to do what pleases them. For those more concerned with the qualities they might gain, share, and cultivate, I guess you're already nodding with what I write here.
My experience with younger women has been only positive. There's much to share in ideas and of one's attitude about life. After all, who knows more about life than someone who's lived it a while.
Of course, mere age is not a standard for living a quality life.
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