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posted 8/31/2009 10:45:16 AM |
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There are many out there who are looking for a love to complete them. Looking for a love to define them. I am no slut, I do not seek to bed as many as I can, and yet I can be owned by none....loved by many.
Our culture is multi-faceted and rapidly changing. The traditional american family does not exist....or is just a meaningless term. It is possible to be open and love without deceit, shackles or expectations. I'm just curious how many other polyamorous people there are out there.



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Aug 31 @ 10:59AM  
The traditional American family most certainly does exist. Do what you feel you need to do, but be mindful (and respectful) of the fact that MANY people want a normal, sane, secure, loving, MONAGAMOUS relationship with just one man/woman, and that there's not a THING in the world wrong with that.

Me, personally, I'm not looking to get married, or even live with someone. I do insist upon sexual infidelity, though, even in a "casual" relationship. I don't like sharing and the thought of a man being with another woman during the same time period he's with me literally turns my stomach. I know... that makes me "weird," particularly amongst this bunch. Sexual fidelity? WTF!??

Well, maybe Im weird and old fashioned, but at least by insisting on sexual exclusivity I significantly narrow my chances of contracting an STD.

I dont believe in polyamarous "love," I don't believe one can become romantically attached to multiple numbers of people. I just don't believe human beings are "wired" that way. That's my opinion, which may or may not echo anyone else's.

Aug 31 @ 1:10PM  
Thank you for the feedback. I certainly do respect people's lifestyle choices, whether it's monogomous, gay, straight, poly, whatever. I also can appreciate that a poly view point may be difficult to accept or adopt. It does challenge us to overcome jealousy and possessiveness.
I have been poly for the past year...and it has been a very eye opening experience.


Aug 31 @ 1:20PM  
I do insist upon sexual infidelity, though, even in a "casual" relationship.
You insist on cheating............thats what infidelity means.......

Infidelity is a violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of an intimate relationship, which constitutes a significant breach of faith or a betrayal of core shared values with which the integrity of the relationship is defined. In common use, it describes an act of unfaithfulness to one’s husband, wife, or lover, whether sexual or non-sexual in nature.


Aug 31 @ 1:39PM  
I think she meant sexual fidelity. Any yes, cheating can ONLY occur when one violates the mutually agreed upon boundaries of the relationship.


Aug 31 @ 1:42PM  
I too am in a poly relationship. However I do have a permanent partner, others may come or go as they choose. It's hard for a lot of people to understand the mentality that is not living in a drought condition. There's enough love to go around.

Aug 31 @ 2:29PM  
The traditional american family does not exist....or is just a meaningless term. It is possible to be open and love without deceit, shackles or expectations
I don't agree with you about the traditional American family. There are many that still happily exist. And there is nothing meaningless about it.

I don't condem you and your way of life, don't condem me and mine.

If you (and your wife) both choose to live a poly life, then that is between the two of you and anyone that either of you become involved with.
I have friends on both ends of the scale,some who live poly and others who live monogomous lives, and they are all quite happy with their life style and them selves.

Not my cup of tea, as I don't wish to be with anyone but him and I don't share well.
But I believe that what consenting, non-cheating, adults do behind closed doors, is no one elses business.

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