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I did it. I didn't break down yesterday morning

posted 8/25/2009 3:57:59 PM |
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Yesterday was the "BIG" day. My daughter went off to High School. I was up anyway because it was my day off and I had a early morning doctor appt.

We talked before she left. I didn't cry, beg her to stay..I had to let her go. Time for her to grow. I think she was a little scared. But she is better now. So far she said she likes it. It is only day number 2..Just wait until the homework piles up.

She has 4 college prep classes now instead of 3.

I was talking with a friend at work about kids. I told her it was hard to watch my daughter move onto another part of her life. I have people tell me I am over protective. I said maybe I am but she is all I have. I would rather be over protective than one of those parent's who don't care where they kids are as long as they are not in their face.

My daughter had a friend stay over a few week's ago. This girl's mom don't care what her daughter does. She is 13 year's old. This woman didn't know me. She had no clue where her daughter was at. I talked to this woman on the phone one time and she asked me if her daughter could stay here. I almost felt like saying "is she in your way" She has stayed here a few time's. I felt sorry for her. I don't think her mom pay's much attention to her because she was always wanting to talk to me. But the last time she stayed here my daughter and her though it would be fun to walk over to the small park a few block's away at 2am. I did find out and called my daughter's cell phone. They were in our yard. I told them they had no reason to be outside at that time. My daughter is normally a good child. I think her friend talked her into it. The next time her friend called my daughter told her she was grounded until school started for sneaking out. I didn't ground her she grounded herself.

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Dione

Aug 25 @ 4:04PM  
You did the right thing even though it is difficult to see our children taken flight. You've also obviously raised your daughter well. Good luck to both of you during the highs and lows of high school life!
Ewe_Wish

Aug 25 @ 4:07PM  
Each step they make in growing up we grieved.................our baby goes to school for the first time, to going to high school, to college, marriage................and so on................we are happy that they are happy but feel we are losing our child...............when in all reality as they grow older they know that they can find safety, encouragement, love...........................they come back to mom......................

You have done a good job................................have faith she will make good decisions in her life......................and be proud of her and of yourself for raising a good person...............
Wordsofwit

Aug 25 @ 4:52PM  
I hope that this doesn't come off wrong. What I tried to do when raising my daughter was to tune into my youth at her age. Now, I grew up in suburban LA, so I had a good reference point. We had sex, drugs, and rock & roll in high school, the only difference was the threat of being murdered.

That being said, expect all of the above as being likely. Beyond that, allow that life begins at three points: when you are born, when you get your drivers license, and when the last kid leaves the house.

While many kids are coddled and lazy bums that feel entitled to everything without earning it, prepare that she will be driving soon and probably working after school in the near future. She is evolving into a young woman and forging her own life, you need to do that also.
casuallylooking

Aug 25 @ 5:16PM  

Tammy, I know how difficult it is to let go, especially when they are your everything. There will be good days and difficult days, but you will both do well as long as you keep communication open.

My daughter just turned 31 and a few years ago she told me that the best thing I did was teach her to be independent, to think on her own and allow her to spread her wings while always letting her know that she had a safe landing place right here.

No matter where they go or what they do, they will always still be our little girls. We just can't treat them as such...lol
alybai42

Aug 25 @ 6:16PM  
Thanks for your comments.

One thing I have with my daughter is being open with each other. She has asked me a lot of questions through the years and I have always been honest with her. She has asked me if I did drug's when I was younger. I told her I smoked pot but never did enjoy it and didn't do it often. I think I did it to be Cool
I told her that I hung around with a crowd that liked to party every weekend but I didn't always drink. I would go just to hang out.

I am the mom to her that my mom was never to me. I could never talk to my mom about anything.

I pretty much let her be her own person. I sit back and watch for the most part. She will make mistakes. We all do.

I hope years down the road when she is married with kids of her own she will come to me and say I did a good job raising her and giving her advice and guidence.

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