I've known people who couldn't be faithful to their spouse or significant other if their life depended on it. Actually a few came close to losing their life over it when they got caught. 
Then I've known a woman who wouldn't open her eyes and look at the male stripper across the room at a bachelorette party because she felt it was cheating on her husband.
I have to admit, that one completely surprised me.
If you were with someone in a monogomous relationship and they got invited to a bachelor/bachelorette party, and you were pretty sure there was going to be a stripper, would it bother you for them to go?
If you were the one to get the invitation, would you go? (yes, it's a pretty good friend or close family member)
Do you think there are justifiable reasons for someone to cheat?
Could you, or would you, forgive someone for cheating on you, once?
Would it make a difference on the circumstances or who it was with?
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LilGriz
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Aug 18 @ 6:53AM
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there was going to be a stripper Sure, I would let ya go  maybe encourage it...  ..for after the show  
would you go You betcha...nothin to worry about... 
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onehornytoad69
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Aug 18 @ 7:34AM
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If you were with someone in a monogomous relationship and they got invited to a bachelor/bachelorette party, and you were pretty sure there was going to be a stripper, would it bother you for them to go?
It would be No Problem!!! (as long as they "Looked"..and didnt Touch!!  )
Sure I would go...I behave quite well....when in a relationship! 
Do you think there are justifiable reasons for someone to cheat?
Could you, or would you, forgive someone for cheating on you, once?
Would it make a difference on the circumstances or who it was with? NO
I did...but I also learned...once a cheater..always a cheater!!! 
NO
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soft_touch938
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Aug 18 @ 7:45AM
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I know there was a time when I was younger that it woulda bothered me. I use to be the jealous type..but then again, I usually had a damn good reason to be.
I don't know about now. It would depend on the "who" and how secure they make me feel in a relationship. As long as I felt it was all in fun and I didn't feel it was a threat to the relationship, I'd be ok with it.
As for being unfaithful...can't answer that one either from this vantage point....single and no S/O. With Dan, he can screw anyone he wants just as long as he doesn't lie about it if I ask. But if I was in a commited relationship I would expect fidelety. As for forgiving unfaithfulness....yeah, once..after that I'd lose my sense of humor.
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fortysixandtwo
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Aug 18 @ 8:10AM
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I've known people who couldn't be faithful to their spouse or significant other if their life depended on it Huh ....what?....Did you say something?.............Is this the selective hearing blog?  .................. 
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surv6969
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Aug 18 @ 8:53AM
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If you were with someone in a monogomous relationship and they got invited to a bachelor/bachelorette party, and you were pretty sure there was going to be a stripper, would it bother you for them to go? Not at all I try not to be the jealous type.
If you were the one to get the invitation, would you go? I would go unless my wife could come up with a good reason for me not to or could persuade me otherwise. 
Do you think there are justifiable reasons for someone to cheat? Yes but it better be a fucking good one. 
Could you, or would you, forgive someone for cheating on you, once? See the previous and next question.
Would it make a difference on the circumstances or who it was with? Yes........ I would not be able to say no to Drew Berrymore 
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Wordsofwit
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Aug 18 @ 9:02AM
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Possibly
Maybe
No
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RevDocLove
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Aug 18 @ 9:37AM
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Jealousy or monogamy aren't in my vocabulary..
Why??? Nothing lasts forever..Might as well live
your life the best you can  
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sugarnspice005
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Aug 18 @ 10:06AM
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If you were with someone in a monogomous relationship and they got invited to a bachelor/bachelorette party, and you were pretty sure there was going to be a stripper, would it bother you for them to go?
For me, it's a matter of trust. If you don't trust, then the love isn't much.
If you were the one to get the invitation, would you go?
Yes, I would. And I would be totally honest to my significant other about it.
Cheating is cheating...and to me, there is NO justifiable reason.
Could you, or would you, forgive someone for cheating on you, once?
Been there, done that. Never doing it again. It's like if you forgive them once, it's like saying "go ahead and do it again". 
Nope, will not make a difference at all. Like I said, cheating is cheating.
JMHO
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somnium
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Aug 18 @ 10:18AM
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I guess age does make a difference! When I was younger, well in my 20s/30s, I wouldn't have been pleased to let either wife go to a bachelorette party with a stripper! But I wouldn't have caused an argument over it either!
If I were invited to a bachelor party with a stripper, I would go, unless my wife objected to it for whatever reason because in the end, she is the one I'm going to end up sleeping with and I don't like sleeping on a couch! 
I never cheated on either wife or even girl friend unless, I knew that our relationship was heading for divorce or splitting up and we were separated! Then, I'm ready to rock because we both (wife 1 or 2 or girlfriend and me) were seeing people at that point!
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NightOfOld
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Aug 18 @ 11:07AM
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as stated; Cheating is cheating...and to me, there is NO justifiable reason.
Would I take her back ? NO. If they do it once, they'll do it again.
In my opinion. You do things together or with the other persons permission or
you don't do them at all.
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McBunman
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Aug 18 @ 12:34PM
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I wouldn't care if she went to see a stripper at all. For the first time in my life I am with someone I trust. And to be honest, for the first time in my life I am with someone who can trust me. I used to think there were justifications for cheating. But if you truly love someone there just isn't any excuse in my book.
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shewolf53
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Aug 18 @ 1:22PM
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I've known people who couldn't be faithful to their spouse or significant other if their life depended on it. Actually a few came close to losing their life over it when they got caught.
Didn't know you knew my ex Would I go to a party with a stripper. Yes been there done that and nothing happened but the show. Would I let my S/O go if I had one? Depends on some of the other guys there and if they were known to cheat on their mates. Sometimes you get a bunch of guys together and things start to sound like a good idea that they would never do under normal circumatances. Is there an good reason to cheat on a person? Hell no. If things are that bad you get out of the relationship before you start screwing around. Would I forgive them? Maybe, but they would be on a very short leash for a very long time.
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flavorbuster
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Aug 18 @ 3:51PM
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If you were with someone in a monogomous relationship and they got invited to a bachelor/bachelorette party, and you were pretty sure there was going to be a stripper, would it bother you for them to go? I wouldn't mind if I knew & trusted her well enough but then again that would be the test to find out if the relationship is really monogomous
If you were the one to get the invitation, would you go? Only if she trusted me the same
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theSkwirl
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Aug 18 @ 3:57PM
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I am secure enough in my own skin to not worry about anyone seeing a stripper.. so yeah I'd encourage it.
Yes, if someone were holding a gun against someone's head or otherwise threatening their or the lives of someone they cared about.
We are all human.. one mistake doesn't make us horrid people.
Yes actually it would... if it were someone very close to me? then there would be issues with both people.
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alanwestmorelandATyahoo
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Aug 18 @ 4:09PM
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Do you think there are justifiable reasons for someone to cheat?
Could you, or would you, forgive someone for cheating on you, once?
Would it make a difference on the circumstances or who it was with?
ANSWER all i can say is that it hurts my ex of 9yrs cheated on me 13x!!! 2x with my best friend who was married to my friend that i knew for 20yrs but she didnt care. i have a big heart and have to learn to forgive thats what the lord wants from us all. it took me over 2yrs to stop crying after she cheated on me the last time and kick me out of the house for another guy she meet on the net i hated to leave my 3 boys but what could i do NOTHING
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Detach
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Aug 18 @ 4:31PM
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I have no problems letting a significant other go to a party where there are strippers. So long as there was no sex going on, hopefully it will re-instate their interest in men. Women nowadays seem eager to convert to homosexuality when men hurt them often enough. 
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Jumpback
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Aug 18 @ 5:12PM
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I don't think I would go. Being in a relationship would not enter into it, I would not go either way. Now if it was a private party just the stripper and me and she was going to spend the night and it didn't cost me any money .......
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StraddleMyNose
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Aug 18 @ 7:45PM
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If you were with someone in a monogomous relationship and they got invited to a bachelor/bachelorette party, and you were pretty sure there was going to be a stripper, would it bother you for them to go? NO
If you were the one to get the invitation, would you go? (yes, it's a pretty good friend or close family member) I Might
Do you think there are justifiable reasons for someone to cheat? Nope
Could you, or would you, forgive someone for cheating on you, once? Depends
Would it make a difference on the circumstances or who it was with?Not sure
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31sunshine
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Aug 18 @ 9:34PM
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I'm not a jelous person so I'd have no problem with man going to a party, of course that being he didn't lie to me about what was going to happen. And hell, if he's coming home to me, he'll be nice and primed for some fun so go for it.
And rolls reversed, I'd go too.
There is NEVER any justification to cheat. If your that miserable, leave. You got two feet. Respect yourself enough to walk away. I'd never forgive someone cheating on me, nor would I forgive myself for being the other woman. It's just not a roll I want to play. I respect myself too much for that. And, besides trust is the one commodity I can't give twice, you break my trust it's never going to be repaired. If I could have a lobotomy so I wouldn't remember the act then maybe I could forget and trust again, but that's a really long shot.
I don't think you can qualify when it's ok to cheat and when it's not. It's either right or wrong. I wouldn't ever do something to another person that I wouldn't want them to do to me. I don't think you can go wrong if you live by this rule.
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