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What do you really want... an LTR, Live-in, FWB or a Sleep-over?

posted 8/14/2009 5:15:35 PM |
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  Dione

Since February of this year I've stepped out of my comfort zone and began to explore what I really want. I've discovered some things I really like about myself and also a few things I don't like. I've learned that I am perfectly suited to living alone. My life hasn't fallen apart because I'm flying solo. In fact, I've had more time to get to know myself and develop a life where I'm happy. The missing element is someone with whom I can share my happiness and interests.

However, will my life actually be enhanced by finding someone willing to share my life with as a mature woman with a mature man... in becoming a couple? If I were to find someone agreeable would we get married, live together, be friends with benefits or just have an occasional sleep-over with a few outings interspersed? There are advantages and disadvantages to all of the choices. Some of the benefits are obvious, but others are not.

Depending upon your circumstance and personal preference, which would you choose... an LTR (marriage), Live-in, FWB or a casual coupling?

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shewolf53

Aug 14 @ 5:29PM  
Can't say until I meet someone and get to know them and see what works best for both of us. It could be any or all of those over a period of time, who knows?
casuallylooking

Aug 14 @ 5:41PM  
Out of the last 15 years, by my own choice, I have been on my own for all but 4 1/2 of them.
Living on my own, except for my daughter part of that time, has made me very independent and set in my ways. Which may or may not be a good thing.

I honestly thought I would never ever want to live with anyone, get married or anything of the sort, again.
Well...until I fell head over heels in love with this wonderful man in my life and can't imagine being without him...

So now I want to have a the rest of our lives long term relationship with him, where we live together, are the best of friends with benefits that no other friends get and sometimes have just casual sex on the spur of the moment... but only with each other.
In other words... I want it ALL and then some.... but only with him.
Dione

Aug 14 @ 5:49PM  
It could be any or all of those over a period of time, who knows?
It's true, I don't think these things can be "planned" easily if at all due to different circumstances. Although some people know exactly what they will and will not do before they become involved with someone.

I want it ALL and then some.... but only with him.
I can't help but wonder if some may want too much, but I'm happy for the people who think they have it.
PinkToeNails

Aug 14 @ 6:20PM  
I'd love to have a sleep over tonight!!

casuallylooking

Aug 14 @ 6:21PM  
I can't help but wonder if some may want too much, but I'm happy for the people who think they have it.
I know there are no guarantees in life or love, but you asked what I really WANT.




sugarnspice005

Aug 14 @ 7:10PM  
Honestly, I couldn't say for sure right now. I do like having my house to myself, but, it would be nice to share it with another human being. Which leads to my next issue, I have 5 dogs...and I'll be the first to admit, they're not the friendliest dogs in the world. But, that's because I didn't socialize them properly either. And, I will not part with my dogs. No way, no how. Then there is the idea of sharing my space with someone else...and I'm not all that sure I'm ready for that.
alybai42

Aug 14 @ 7:42PM  
When I got a divorce almost 10 years ago I swore I would never marry again. I still feel that way. I had thought about it while I had someone that really wanted to marry me but I knew I would never be happy.

If that special someone comes along I think I would rather just live together.
somnium

Aug 14 @ 8:38PM  
Hmmm... well... at this point in my life, on the one hand- pencil in each choice on a piece of paper, fold them two or three times, put them all in a hat and I'll reach in and grab one! On the other hand, I'm greedy... I'll take 'em all!

In other words... not a clue! But like shewolf, it really depends on whom I get next to, that we're compatible and enjoy doing things together!

StraddleMyNose

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Aug 14 @ 8:50PM  
Casual coupling works for me right now
31sunshine

Aug 14 @ 9:27PM  
Living on my own, except for my daughter part of that time, has made me very independent and set in my ways. Which may or may not be a good thing.

Wow, that's true for me. I've been happily single for 6 years now, with a few minor stints, but where I always lived on my own. And I love the no drama zone that I've created. I get time with my kids and time to myself. It'd take a really special man to make me want to give up my independence and share my living space again.

I've learned about myself in the last 6 years though that I'm not meant for FWB or casual relationships. I either want it all or nothing. I deserve to have a committed relationship and I can't settle for a hop in the sac every once in a while. I end up feeling worse after the encounter.



zaralyon

Aug 14 @ 9:55PM  
I've been single for most of my adult life, with a few menfriends here and there. i dont' think i'm cut out for the marriage thing and am unsure if I could do the living together thing either, but would like to someday see how much I could do.
borty293

Aug 14 @ 11:10PM  
I've been thinking this over and I have come to the conclusion, I don't know what the hell I want. Sometimes I think ..my gawd ..I better find someone to share my sunset years but then I think..do I really want to live with someone.
I've been a bachelor for so long that living with someone might be quite tramatic.. ..might be best if I just had a girlfriend and then if it worked into living together...then maybe.
sarafinablu

Aug 14 @ 11:50PM  
hmmmmmm I think......at my age....after being single so long and living on my own.....a casual coupling would be for the best......and then if anything else developed...........
selectusername

Aug 15 @ 12:34AM  
A sleep over with a woman in Flower Mound, Texas!
RevDocLove

Aug 15 @ 8:07AM  
No sleep overs for me..If I'm in bed with a woman it's a guarantee there'll
be a lot of action but very little sleep
Wordsofwit

Aug 15 @ 8:49AM  
I think it depends upon the people. The more committed it becomes, the greater the complexity. Being around somebody 24/7 might be a bit much after being on my own so long. There is much to be said for simplicity and not having to compromise. All decisions are unanimous.

On the other hand, two people in one house is cheaper than two people in two houses.

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