If you were seeing a guy/girl for a few months and found out they were engaged the whole time you were dating....would you tell his/her fiance?
I am just curious because my friend just found herself in this situation and she is so pissed off that she feels telling the fiance will make her feel better, but I think it will only make things worse.
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featherone
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Jun 30 @ 1:53PM
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i wouldn"t! i be happy your not the one marring him! his girlfriend probly won"t believe you anyways:)
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manwithoutahorse
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Jun 30 @ 2:20PM
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When you pour gasoline on a fire all you get is a bigger fire...and an even better old adage (yes, I know, I AM an old adage) is that "revenge is a dish best served cold". There will come a time when she will get her chance. Now she should be satisfied to have found out sooner rather than later. The guy's fiancee will find out soon enough if that is his style.
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Lisa46
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Jun 30 @ 2:44PM
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IMO leave it alone. Why ruin her life, let her find out on her own just like your friend did. Who knows she might already be suspicious.
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somnium
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Jun 30 @ 3:11PM
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but I think it will only make things worse.
I do agree! I personally would just absolve myself and walk away! You're just asking for trouble!
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INFAMOUSJBIGGUMS
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Jun 30 @ 3:51PM
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well im usually no snitch but in this case yes because it would save a lot of trouble heart pain and cheating lies, as well as save the guy from parting with half his stuff and child support in the future provided they aint got a kid then. 
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paulywalnuts
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Jun 30 @ 4:05PM
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Life experiences has taught me "Silence is Golden" 
(Just my 2 cents)
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max49
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Jun 30 @ 4:43PM
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Tell the fucker you know he's engaged and that he better be sending alot of money your way or his fiance WILL be finding out about everything. 
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Thenewguy2957
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Jun 30 @ 5:18PM
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Send an official looking letter to the fiancee from the 'health department' advising her to have herself checked for an STD as someone has reported having contact/contracted one from her beau.
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aftershox
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Jun 30 @ 5:31PM
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My advice is for her to tell him that either HE tells her fiance about you or that she will.
But the reason for this should not be for revenge. She needs to think this through very clearly. It must not be for revenge.
It should be for the greater good. Their marriage doesn;t stand a chance if they start out with lies. If your friend were in her shoes, she would want the "other woman" to calmly and graciously (i.e. no drama) make the truth known. It should be a "pay it forward" type of thing.
If she says nothing, she may regret it. If she throws it out there to hurt and create anyone, she will prolly regret it too.
This approach is frequently used with kids too. LOL.
Mommy Shoxie
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1bunny629
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Jun 30 @ 7:30PM
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Hell....it won't get any worse for her if she does. I don't recomend telling or getting involved in the situation anymore than she has already. It would be fun to find out when the wedding is and maybe go have some cack....I mean Cake! 
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wstang69
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Jun 30 @ 8:02PM
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That sounds like something I would do, NewGuy.
And I agree .. tell, but it must not be for revenge. I doubt the GF will believe it, but, maybbe she will be watchful afterwards/
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Blueyesprkln
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Jun 30 @ 8:28PM
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I'm with the one's that say leave it alone. She'll find out in the long run. They always do.
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sugarnspice005
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Jun 30 @ 8:34PM
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As the old saying goes, "two wrongs don't make it right".
I can understand her being pissed off, but, stop and think. The fiance will find out, but your friend shouldn't be the one doing the telling, it should be the creep doing that. Although chances are that isn't going to happen.
Dump the fool and move on. Don't hurt someone who hasn't done you wrong...that's the way I look at it.
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belle1010
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Jul 1 @ 12:09AM
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I was actually surprised at the comments on this blog. I agree with aftershox, I also agree that it shouldn't be done because of revenge. Most of the time once a cheat, always a cheat. I think the other woman deserves to at least know what it is she's getting for a husband, and if she decides to stay with him it will be with the information she needs to make an informed decision. I also agree with whoever said that it's not your friends place to make that announcement, it should come from the cheater, if he refuses to come clean then yeah I agree with telling her.
I would want someone to let me in on that kind of information, it could possibly affect the rest of my life.
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drcocktail87
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Oct 21 @ 11:46PM
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What are you crazy? If I found my friends g/f fucking someone else (which I have) I'd just wait until it was my turn at the plate....lol.
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drcocktail87
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Oct 21 @ 11:49PM
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What are you nuts? I carry a loaded gun but it's not ever pointed at my own head....either one.
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sexychef069
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Nov 27 @ 10:41PM
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i think she should move on!
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