Luna's recent blogs, touched on obesity, societal views a nd a morbidly obese fat chick flaunting her stuff.
http://www.adultmatchdoctor.com/blog_36409/Do_you_really_know.html
http://www.adultmatchdoctor.com/blog_36476/An_apology_An_explanation_but_not_a_retraction.html
But did you know there is a whole group of people dedicated to ENCOURAGING this type of obesity ? And in their small group of large they do feel empowered.
Here is one of many websites dedicated to this fetich.
http://fantasyfeeder.com/cms/index.php
I started a convo with a gentleman who sounded very interesting, and he did describe himself as a BHM which is the make equivalent of a BBW (I didnlt know so I figured some of you might not as well).
I always google screennames, so I googled his and found his posts on some "FEEDER" sites. At first I was amused at the prospect of being considered "skinny" in this community. But then I became horrified as I realized how totally unhealthy and insane the feeder lifestyle is.
From WIKI
A feeder is an individual who feeds another person. A feedee may be characterized as an individual choosing to gain weight with the aid of a feeder. A gainer is similar to a feedee, but gainers generally seek to gain by their own hand- although they may welcome encouragement by an encourager. A maintainer is one sympathetic to the gaining community, who has intentionally or unintentionally put on weight and is happy to remain at that size, or is reluctant to gain more. An appreciator is a fat admirer in the gaining community who is not interested in either gaining or encouraging, but is content to appreciate what progress has been made by other individuals.
In some circles, the terms "gainer" and "encourager" are viewed as homosexual terms, whereas "feeder" and "feedee" are viewed as their heterosexual synonyms. While this a common perception in the weight gain community, it is not a universal attitude, as many heterosexuals who are gaining weight of their own volition, without the aid of a feeder, generally characterize themselves as gainers rather than as feedees. It should also be noted that many participants in the community will use gainer and feedee interchangably. This is also true of feeder and encourager.
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Wordsofwit
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Jun 28 @ 10:31AM
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Different streaks for different freaks I guess. There used to be a strip club in Dallas called Plumpers that catered to that crowd. I never went nor would I want to. Not sure if it is still around.
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Roustabout
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Jun 28 @ 11:28AM
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That was kind of the point with my initial post on the "Do you really know..." blog, that there comes a point where preferences stop being preferences and become fetishism, and move from there into a realm entirely sick.
As as ardent lover of the female form I have to admit that there are lots of women out there I find genuinely gorgeous who are pretty heavy.
In the popular arena, Queen Latifah, pre-op. She's still beautiful post-op but now looks oddly off-proportioned to me. She was just made for a big woman's frame with an ample, matronly bosom.
In the pornography arena, a woman called Samantha (some number) GG. I saw her once back when she was much thinner during her early porn days and she's just so, so much prettier with the extra weight. It may not be healthy, and I may not care for a lot of the business she's in, but she's still extremely pretty to me (and I'm not even much on blondes).
From The Gilmore Girls -- was I all hot and bothered over the character of Lorelei? No! Give me the character (OR actress -- YUM!) of Sookie St. James any day!
The point is that I have NO problem with women who are packing some weight.
But there comes a point where weight is no longer "fleshed out" or "pleasingly plump"; no longer matronly, nor festive, nor womanly, nor curvaceous, nor even rubensesque. There comes a point when someone has allowed themselves to become physically disgusting, unhealthy and worse yet, incapable. They can't sit on normal furniture but they're angry when they're not catered to. "It's discrimination," they'll cry. No, it's not; it's that you don't care about yourself enough to care about other people as well.
My wife watched a show called Ruby for a while, some claptrap on Lifetime or one of those, following a fat woman around during her trials and tribulations with overcoming her weight. Sometimes I'd be in the room working on something, so I'd see an episode here and there.
Okay, this woman had gone too far with her weight; it happens. Still, the supposed pretext of the show was that she was working on losing this weight, so I kept an open mind.
Then they showed an episode where an ex-fiance returned for a few days. While they showed their interaction they also gave some backstory.
Apparently he had been dating Ruby for a long time and was very much in love with her; but her weight began to pass that "plump" area and became a real problem for appearance and health alike.
Ruby had trouble going through doors. Ruby couldn't sit at a table because she A) couldn't reach her food and B) broke chairs. Ruby couldn't find normal clothing anymore. The couple couldn't go places - because of Ruby's weight.
According to Ruby herself this man, who seemed like an okay guy to me for what they showed (not the brightest, but nobody on the show is), had pleaded with Ruby to lose weight. He'd offered to diet with her, join gyms with her, perform any program she wanted with her, but he wanted her to lose the weight before he'd marry her. He never said he wanted her skinny, but he DID say he was worried about her health and their joint future. When Ruby refused, he finally left her.
Flash forward a few years to this woman who now has her own tv show about her struggle to lose weight. Her reason? The doctor, after some kind of collapse, told her she was going to die if she didn't lose the weight.
I've no idea how much weight she'd lost by that episode but I stopped caring -- because Ruby, having slimmed down by what was an apparently significant amount, spent some time with this old fiance and then on the "aside" comments was gloating about how if he wanted to get back with her he was just out of luck, because NOW she "...knew what she was worth" and NOW she "... didn't need him anymore". Et... damned... cetera. She was unbelievably smug and feeling very, very self-empowered.
My wife said "Good for her!" And I stood up to leave the room before I went off.
My first thought was, no punches pulled, "You stupid, fat fuckin' bitch. You had a man who cared enough to want to be with you, cared enough to BEG you to watch out for your own health, cared enough to offer options and offer to join you in those options, to encourage and just fraggin' TRY -- and you gloat now about how you'll kick him to the curb because you're losing weight FOR THE VERY REASON HE BEGGED YOU TO LOSE WEIGHT IN THE FIRST PLACE. You deserve to wake up gasping at night because your belly is crushing your lungs and you deserve to be alone."
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Cootiesprayer
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Jul 1 @ 5:05PM
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On the Tyra Banks Show they had a couple that were into this lifestyle. they seem genuinely happy. ok done for now :)
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