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I came across this article and wanted to share to see what your thoughts were regarding this.......

Just the other day I heard a disturbing news byte. A registered sex offender was crying about his ruined life as a result of the undeserving label as a sexual deviant. Under normal circumstances my attitude; you got what was coming to you nasty bastard but I stifled that feeling for a minute to listen to the entire story. You make the decision folks because I could just be out of touch.

As I understand it kids are using their cell phones to send scandalous pics of themselves to friends, boyfriends, FWB whatever (sexting) and the penalty; being charged with disseminating child pornography. As a result of the prosecution they are forced to register as sex offenders. This monogram will follow them for life.

The sexting thing isn’t a new phenomena I guess parents are just catching on but I am digressing.

Digest this for a minute folks and while you do stew on this tidbit. If innocent teenager number one (Billy 16 for the sake of argument) were caught with innocent teenager number two (Claire also 16) having wild monkey sex in Claire’s parents home while angry parents would surely follow no charges could be brought against either teen. Following this line of thought means in the eyes of the law it’s perfectly fine for Billy and Claire to fondle and play just the tip but it’s completely unacceptable and quite punishable by law to e-mail or text body parts they’ve probably seen live and in color to each other.

Not sure about you but I see some problems here. Of course I’m not a parent so I might be way off base. However, I do think its funny maybe not ha ha funny that Claire and Billy can perform the act but can’t capture the goods in photo form. Even funnier or more appropriately odd, that one would go so far to call this child pornography. Granted, the picture is of a minor and satisfies some hormonal teenage sexual urge it’s very different from some crack pot manipulating a 13 year old to perform a taped sex act.

If I am not mistaken, and this is quite possible because I don’t proclaim to be any type of legal guru I just watch a lot of Law & Order SVU, the sole purpose of child pornography laws are to protect innocent kids from deviant adults hardwired to believe that watching ankle biters in the park is a form of erotica. Not only that aren’t we holding children (by nature immature and relatively reckless due to age) to a higher standard than adults.

For the sake of argument if I were to capture the midgets on film and send it to the Spaniard (you know just for the sake of argument) no harm no foul. This is equally immature and no less stupid than if a teenager did the same but since I’m over 18 my lack of maturity isn’t being questioned and no one would accuse me of a crime, just a lapse in judgment maybe.

Bottom line, I don’t get it. Aren’t there enough real criminals to prosecute? Not that this “deviant” sexual behavior should go unpunished. But wouldn’t it be more appropriately handled in the home by parents who should be monitoring their children’s internet and cell phone use anyway. Sorry I grew up in a home with very little privacy so I’m not used to these new parents who blindly trust their children allowing TV and the internet to raise them. Not saying that my parent’s way was the best to rear a child but it definitely stopped me from I don’t know sending pics of Ms. Woochie to horny little boys.

But who am I, just a raving and ranting quarter lifer who thinks scarlet lettering a stupid teenage mistake no more harmful than seven minutes in heaven pedophilia or trafficking kiddie porn completely ridonkulously asshole backwards. Of course I could be wrong and we should definitely seek out the sex crazed maniacs and fill the offender registries with 15 year olds sneaking a peek at their girl/boy friend’s goodies. Yup that makes sense, it’s not like rapists and murderers are running the streets. I know I feel safer knowing that Billy and Claire are getting locked up, don't you?

I agree with the author:

Bottom line, I don’t get it. Aren’t there enough real criminals to prosecute? Not that this “deviant” sexual behavior should go unpunished. But wouldn’t it be more appropriately handled in the home by parents who should be monitoring their children’s internet and cell phone use anyway.

Doesn't this (having to be registered as a sex offender) seem a bit extreme? Has anybody else heard about this sort of thing?

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Apr 22 @ 10:20AM  
Wow, thats taking it a lil far I think!!!
Personally...I think Kids have to much "Freedom" ....Why does a 15 or 16 yo need a phone from the Start? I know..some will call for Mom and Dad to come gettem..and all that...!
Moms and DADs..need to Step up to the I see it!!
No.... you cant put all of the Blame on Mom and Dad...but... We could make it harder for them to do stuff like that!!!
I Wish I hadda!!!
But, thats just my 2 cents!!!

Apr 22 @ 10:24AM  
yes i agree dmbchick. There are some people who should not be on there. I know a young man who is 19 he is registered. He had a girlfriend who when they first got together they were both minors. Her parents didn't like him, so when he became legal even though they had been together they got him for it. Now he is a registered sex offender because of that.

In the circumstance you are talking about, I would think that it would be better for the kid to do community service, that seems a bit extreme.

Apr 22 @ 10:24AM  
I agree with the author also...
Let it be handle by the parents...

Apr 22 @ 11:05AM  
There are certain instances where common sense should play a part. This just happened to one of my sons friend:

The couple started dating when they were 15. The girl is 4 months older. Both sets of parents agreed at age 16 they would not prevent the kids from having sex. Upon the girl reaching age 18 the boys rescinded there side of the written agreement. The installed hidden cameras around the house and caught the two going at it. Now the girl is listed as a predator. She is also trying to sue for entrapment, but her name will never be removed from the list.

Apr 22 @ 11:29AM  
It is going one step too far......really, don't they got better things to persue?

Apr 22 @ 12:26PM  
Ditto with the author That's just crazy & little out of hand..

Apr 22 @ 12:29PM  
I have to agree with the author.... Although admittedly, IF it were my teenage daughter or grand daughter I believe I would most likely HURT the boy, being a registered offended for life doesn't seem quite right.
And, in my opinion, not so humble as it may be, if they keep doing things like this then when an actual sex offender moves into your neighborhood and you are notified people are going to start thinking it's no big deal cause they are everywhere and it's usually for reasons like this and so no attention will be paid to his actions, until it's too late.

Apr 22 @ 4:31PM  
Sorry to offend, but the line must be drawn.....YES , 16 year old Billie needs to pay the same price for the same offense.

Let's just say, that everything is the same, except Billie is 18 (his birthday is today)...would it be ok then? (remember, Claire is still 16)

Was it ok when he was 17 years, 364 days?

What if he was just an immature 26 year old (and you know they do exist....)?

And perhaps, just perhaps, by requiring Billie to be registered as a sex offender for life, you help a few hunderd children to decide to NOT sent their various snippets out into the cyber world.
Or, maybe, cause a few parents to actually pay attention to what their teens are doing.....



Apr 22 @ 4:35PM  
Everyone else stated what I was thinking. Ditto with Chick and the author.

There's this one case here in NC of a registered sex offender who married the person he "had underage sex with." He was 18 and she was 17. The parents never liked their daughter's bf, so they thought getting him arrested would remove him permenantly. After he got out of jail, the girl and him married. The kids were only a few months apart and been dating for years. He's now in his 30's and has children and live in a lovely house with his happy "victim". Neighbors were wary of him moving into their area until they heard his story. He's one of the folks trying to get he label removed for people like him. I think that label should be used by a case by case basis. I don't understand why parents have to involve the law with juvie romance issues.

Not related but interesting--Strange law in NC: Having sex with a 14 yr old is illegal by anyone over 17. But marrying a 14 yr old is perfectly legal. Thus, a 50 yr old can marry a 14 yr old and have sex with him/her without being seen as a pediphile. I wonder who thought and passed this law.

Apr 22 @ 4:51PM  
I agree with the author.
Judges should use common since.
The label is pass out without much thought.
In Indiana there are or were don't know if they have been changed or not, sex age laws. A 14 yr old can have sex with a 14 yr old, a 15 yr old with a 15 yr old, and 16 is legal.

Apr 22 @ 10:28PM  
I wonder why teh judge didn't throw this case out......

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