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posted 12/7/2006 3:26:06 PM |
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  Rockstar8869

The biggest problem with relationships that get boring or go bad I found has more to do with security of one's self, In my experiences If one of the partners here is insecure with them selfs they will not be able to trust and respect the other partner.Trust and respect IS the foundation of a great relationship/marrage and with out both people having solid unconditional trust it will never work, and the only way for REAL trust to develop you have to like yourself and be secure that if they stray there was nothing you could do about it anyway, it was their issues of insecurity that made them not feel complete.

Another problem insecurity breaks a relationship apart(see nuclear weapon) is the person feeling insecure will violate the other person's right to independence;going thru caller ID,going thru bank accounts,emails,wallets/purses,question friends and family. which will build tremendous grudges and disrespect. further damageing the way you feel about that person.

Another problem, people get comfortable in their situations, even before they get married half the time, they know they are not happy and they have yet to feel their soul mate has really been found. BUT they get married anyway and go with the flow, then 2,3,4,5+ years later they are misarable and looking around but without the guts to ever end it. so they SIN and cheat, and YES it is a sin, I am not that religous but if all I have to do is read the 10 comandments to find it right there.
Its a Sin, Bad Karma to follow, believe me I know.

I think people need to first become who you are and feel great about the person you have become, Life is full of lessons and everybody always evolves through this journey, the idiots are the ones that never find a way to love THEMSELVES first before you could actually know who makes you complete. And they are also the ones that play the most games and blame the secure partner for everything.

The worst feeling is jealousness and the only cure is love yourself first and foremost so you wont feel jealous feelings with your partner and can give everything to them.

That is why some couple's can sucessfully live in the swingers lifestyle, because they know trust and boundrys and completely know who their best friend is and nobody can come between them, just play partners.....

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StraddleMyNose

Dec 7 @ 3:38PM  
I think you're right. And here's a reminder of how true that is with a song by Whittney Houston called "Greatest Love Of All". The greatest love of all is loving yourself, and you must before you're able to love others. I really do believe there is some truth in that. Self esteem is very important to have, and so is trust. Too many people are insecure because they have no faith in themselves.
tlc0766

Dec 7 @ 4:20PM  
WOW, how true trust, is a very important part, I have always believed jealousy is simply not trusting the one you are with. It is amazing how one can cheat, but yet turn all the blame on the partner, communication is another issue. If you don't talk to each other if there is a problem or something bothering you then how can you work on it and fix it. Good Blog by the way
LadyMaura

Dec 7 @ 4:25PM  
Just like the reply you gave Me on My blog. Nice first blog, good subject choice.
ponme

Dec 7 @ 4:33PM  
I will respectfully disagree with sin.. but you are right.. if you cannot trust, respect and love yourself, you will never be able to do the same with another person.
Rockstar8869

Dec 7 @ 4:34PM  
Thank you everyone, keep the opinions coming and LadyM, you inspired this with your blog, I think its a great thing to try to figure out, and the more minds on it the more we can figure some things out in this life.
canuhelpme258

Dec 10 @ 6:41AM  
I'm still coming t grips with myself, I can relate in a lot of ways man, really

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