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posted 3/17/2009 6:50:19 AM |
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I need some help here and I don't know what to do about it. I met a gentleman a couple of weeks ago from another sex site - I know, my profile says that I didn't want to meet anyone right now, but I just HAD to meet him, but anyway, I drove to where he lives this past weekend - 118 miles away to spend some time with him. (He already came to Austin to meet me >2 weeks ago, so it was my turn to see where he lives.) Anyway, he was a great host, cook and masseuse - he gave me a really great shoulder and neck rub and he was a PERFECT gentleman. He wasn't making a move, so I went in for a kiss. It was a nice kiss - one of those not-to-long pressed-lip ones followed by some lip pecks I call "bird kisses". I'm the type of woman who is passionate and I love to kiss, so I tried to get him to do some French-kissing and it was like opening a bear-trap. I mean, his mouth was open, but not open wide with enough tongue. I'm not sure if he knows how to KISS or what. I'm a very passionate woman and I love to kiss - I was in a >8 year relationship several years ago where my ex didn't like to kiss and when he did kiss me, it was like kissing my brother - ewwww! (Maybe it was like that because he wasn't a kisser and I was so deprived all those years. I don't know.)

Anyway, I told my best friend about it and all she had to say was "Oh no! Maybe you'll have to teach him." I told her "What? Teach a 51 year old how to kiss?"

Am I being weird about this or should I just be grateful that he's a nice man, a good cook and can give a mean neck/shoulder massage or should this be a deal-breaker? I need PASSION in a relationship and this one doesn't appear to have the makings of passion in it...at least that's what I'm thinking.

I welcome comments from all, but most interested in comments from the men...

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manwithoutahorse

Mar 17 @ 6:57AM  
My experience is to never make any assumptions. You never know what he knows or doesn't know. Sounds like a great topic for an intimate conversation. Could be quite sexy. Good luck.
bobbierob

Mar 17 @ 7:12AM  
it was like kissing my brother

Its interesting to note that you know what its like to kiss your brother.

lol


Why wouldn't he wanna kiss you? Although I doubt it, it could be that he doesn't know how. Could be that he doesn't like to.

However, I would think that he if he was being a gentleman, perhaps he felt it was too early for a frencher. On the other hand, if he is 51, perhaps he wants to be the one to initiate it.

selectusername

Mar 17 @ 7:29AM  
This could be a sign that he just isn't very

skilled with his tongue...
Wordsofwit

Mar 17 @ 7:32AM  
I know, my profile says that I didn't want to meet anyone right now.

I have heard between one one and thousands of women say that! They always believe it and I never do.

Am I being weird about this or should I just be grateful that he's a nice man, a good cook and can give a mean neck/shoulder massage or should this be a deal-breaker? I need PASSION in a relationship and this one doesn't appear to have the makings of passion in it

Weird, possibly. Unrealistic, probably. We, myself included, all say we want, need, or require this, that, and develop a shopping list a mile long. The fact is (and, again, I include myself) that just about anybody that meets those specifications won't want us.

Too many people of both genders allegorically are are offering to trade their 1997 Chevy Impala for 2008 Cadillac STS and wind up not only single, but alone, for a very long time.

Once a person gets to around 30 YO, what you see is what you get, and if there is change, it is usually not for the better. Additionally, in the early going is when a potential relationship is at its best. After that, people revert to being themselves as the best foot is not put forward any longer often resulting in a crash and burn in 90 days to six months.
onehornytoad69

Mar 17 @ 11:21AM  
I am a Big kisser...if you hadda been Kissing me... I would have done my Very best.. to knock your socks off!!! But... everyone is different...
Maybe you need to make a "Kissing" date....just to make sure... ...
zena343

Mar 17 @ 1:00PM  
Ahh man that would really suck major bad!! A hott kisser can make your toes curl!! But true there are men (women) who really don't know how to kiss sensually or passionately.....don't want a pecker or bird kisser as you say.
dumblonde

Mar 17 @ 5:32PM  
my suggestion for a "not-so-good" kisser...tell him you want to give him a little treat...tell him you want him to just BE kissed...play it like a fun game (it is fun)...tell him NOT to kiss back, but only allow you to kiss him (this kind of restraint is fun too)...then give him the most passionate, loving, sensous kisses, remind him that YOU are doing all the work...this should demonstrate what you like, a lesson w/o telling him....

hopefully, he will catch on to the way you like to be kissed and he will want to let you take a turn at the game..

if he doesnt catch on, he probably never will...

and poor kissing is a deal breaker...it is highly unlikely that a poor kisser knows how to use his mouth for other things....
somnium

Mar 17 @ 9:41PM  
I'm leaning towards what bobbierob says! You say he was a gentleman through out the meeting? Than maybe he was just being cautious, maybe overly cautious- afraid he might ruin a good thing- that can happen, I'm sure!

I let my date set the tone- she'll let me know! At the risk of touting my own horn, I'm a very good kisser! It's not with open mouth with a little tongue action. It's open mouth with a lot of tongue action, deep tongue action, running my tongue around her lips, nibbling on an ear lobe and then running the tip of my tongue from the one ear lobe, across the front of her neck to the other ear lobe.

I kiss all over her neck, shoulders and face, her nose, eyebrows, eyes, cheeks- and repeat it! Anywhere I can plant one, I will!

These are passionate kisses and I give it my all! I had one lady fanning herself with a magazine after we finished.

I'm not apologizing if it sounds like I'm bragging because it's how I kiss!

So tigress, don't give up too quickly- I'd give it a shot again and again and so what if you need to train him, how kewl is that??

somnium

Mar 17 @ 9:53PM  

Ooops- got carried away there a little! First meeting yes, I let her set the tone- later, if we connect and start kissing more passionately, then I get into it!

That would scare a lady away if I jumped right in like that! Or, maybe not- just depends on the lady and how things go- 'nuff said!

onehornytoad69

Mar 17 @ 11:11PM  
you want to give him a little treat...tell him you want him to just BE kissed...play it like a fun game (it is fun)...tell him NOT to kiss back, but only allow you to kiss him (this kind of restraint is fun too)...then give him the most passionate, loving, sensous kisses, remind him that YOU are doing all the work...this should demonstrate what you like, a lesson w/o telling him....
Can You teach me DB? That Sounds Like a Lot of FUN!!!
bustybettyboop

Mar 18 @ 11:08AM  
ohhh girl i met a guy who was terrific except he couldn't kiss..i too looove to kiss and it drove me bonkers to the point that i sat him down and tried talking to him..nicely of course and he still got his feelings really hurt but was willing to let me try and help him but to no avail..he was unteachable...and since that is a big part for me the passion in a relationship it ended. hope you are able to figure something out though! {{hugs}}}
mrknowuwell

Mar 19 @ 4:14AM  
casuallylooking

Mar 19 @ 5:45AM  
Have a conversation with him about how and where he likes to be kissed and tell him How and where you like to be kissed.
Tell him that the two of you kiss differently and you would enjoy working on that difference.

I couldn't settle with just the bird kisses, tried that once. I prefer he has a tongue and knows what to do with it............................... umm, I meant kisses. and they can lead to so many other enjoyable things.....
Good luck.

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