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  MamMan

Not a man of many words nor one to offer several blogs...but.....
a thought crossed my mind while listening to a few music videos today.

Would you prefer ....and, I can easily understand the desire for both , but....if you HAD to settle for either

A) would you want to have meaningless sex with someone whom could never love you/ you could never love???

OR


B) Love someone that you could never enjoy deeply personal, enjoyable sex with???

Knowingly, this is AMD, and the answer should be obvious to me . But, as a man that does not place alot of faith in prejudgment of others ...I will offer each of you the opportunity to express your views on the topic. The floor is open and this blog is yours>>>>>>>

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onehornytoad69

Feb 15 @ 9:58PM  
A) would you want to have meaningless sex with someone whom could never love you/ you could never love???
Nope!!!

B) Love someone that you could never enjoy deeply personal, enjoyable sex with???
You Just dont get it...
If you LOVE Someone...... Any Sex is Awesome!!!
Wordsofwit

Feb 15 @ 10:01PM  
I prefer love and romance but as that is extremely rare, erotica and sleaze is a wonderful option.
PinkToeNails

Feb 15 @ 10:03PM  
It's too bad that some have to make these choices but it happens....

Both can bring their fair share of heartache to someone....

I agree with Toad.... the sex can awesome when you love someone!
MamMan

Feb 15 @ 10:04PM  
[QUOTE]You Just dont get it...
If you LOVE Someone...... Any Sex is Awesome!!!

YOU have not understood the question.

You can receive SEX but NO LOVE.

OR

LOVE without ANY SEX.

But, thanks for taking the time to express an opinion.
MamMan

Feb 15 @ 10:08PM  
I agree with Toad.... the sex can awesome when you love someone!


PTN, I am total acord with the both of you, that when you can have it all....life is bliss.

But, the tone of the selection that I have offered is this.....
A situation that a CHOICE must be made.....
A) SEX without LOVE


OR


LOVE without SEX.

Thank you taking your time to express an opinion.

MamMan

Feb 15 @ 10:11PM  
I prefer love and romance but as that is extremely rare, erotica and sleaze is a wonderful option.

WoW, I can fully appreciate that if you cannot gain the former......
that a person can become satisfied ( or is that, get some satisfaction) with the latter?

Thanks for the comment.
Wordsofwit

Feb 15 @ 10:12PM  
B) Love someone that you could never enjoy deeply personal, enjoyable sex with???
LOVE without ANY SEX.

Respectfully, make up your mind. Those are two different questions. The first is crappy sex (the proverbial dead fish) and second no sex at all.

I know some married couples where it was the first one after ten years of marriage and the second after 20.
onehornytoad69

Feb 15 @ 10:13PM  
Well ... take away my comments please!! Cause... thats not what the blog says!!! TYVM!!
Say what you mean.. and mean what you say!
1bunny629

Feb 15 @ 10:17PM  
I am very aware that you are asking which would you rather have; one or the other. You can ask any question you want to, but from my experience here the crew, including myself may and can answer it anyhow they want and usually don't stick to the format. As for my answer; I have had it both ways. Now I chose meither of your choices. If I can't have it all, I don't want any of it!
MamMan

Feb 15 @ 10:19PM  
Say what you mean.. and mean what you say!

I felt that I had clarified the question, initially.
But, it was lost intranslation.

SO........

To simply.....

SEX no LOVE >>>> you're getting some but your/ their heart ain't in it.

LOVE no SEX >>>> you're mind, heart & soul is into them, but your body parts aren't involved.

Hope that this has made it reasonable easier to qualify/quantify an answer to the blog.

Thank you for notifying me of any confusion, Horny.
onehornytoad69

Feb 15 @ 10:20PM  
NP..!
fantasyfactory

Feb 15 @ 10:25PM  
Let's see.....Love but no sex, or sex but no love.....cake with no icing, or icing with no cake........ ....been there, done that, dont want that again. Incomplete relationships are just that.
MamMan

Feb 15 @ 10:27PM  
may and can answer it anyhow they want and usually don't stick to the format.

Thank you, Bunny. I have observed during my ventures into Blogland that what others choose to do with it can be across the board due to viewpoints of each involved.......and, I am thankful to you for sharing your desire to have all or nothing.

I am actually not wanting to censor nor steer anyone one way or another. Just seeking some discourse on the topic.

I appreciate you taking the time to drop in on the discussion.
MamMan

Feb 15 @ 10:29PM  
Incomplete relationships are just that.

Ah, a gentleman that has learned from past situations and agrees with Bunny....ALL or NOTHING.

Thanks for the comment, FF.
Wordsofwit

Feb 15 @ 10:37PM  
I have posted this before as a comment, usually about once a year. It pisses some people off but I still laugh about what my friend says and a few others will get hoot out of it also.

It involves the ending of a friend's marriage about 30 years ago. I think the marriage lasted nine years. Once they got married his wife had not intention of working. They quickly had two kids. She got to be increasing lazy and the housekeeping was substandard and she just watched soaps all day. She also picked up a lot of weight and put forth little to no effort in the bedroom.

Well he took it to the streets. He claimed he had joined a bowling league. Well, her sister saw him driving with another woman in the car and followed him to her place. Busted.

His wife went ballistic. If the deal wasn't already dead, it was when he said, "Even if you're used to prime rib, you still would enjoy some leg of lamb every once in a while, and ever since the girls were born, all I've been served is pork and fish."

He moved out the next day.
1bunny629

Feb 15 @ 10:46PM  
you get what you give.
MamMan

Feb 15 @ 10:53PM  
"Even if you're used to prime rib, you still would enjoy some leg of lamb every once in a while, and ever since the girls were born, all I've been served is pork and fish."



MamMan

Feb 15 @ 11:02PM  
you get what you give.


Alot of truth in that statement.

And, on most occasions (not all), we receive what we seek out.
When we are miserable, we generally make others around us miserable (the cycle continues).....and, when we are happy we want to be around other happy people. (don't want to be brought down)

When horny, we want to be around those that want to get laid. Please do not tell me you have a headache.

Time and effort can prove successful, Bunny. But, may I ask....what if neither is given nor sought out???

And, as a follow-up...the reality is that people change....should life need to evolve with it???
soft_touch938

Feb 15 @ 11:06PM  
I've been widowed 6 years. I went through the years of sex but no love...with lots of regrets I might add. But I learned how empty that lifestyle is and it's no longer an option for me.

I would gladly take a relationship of love but no sex. I miss someone to share things with, arms to hug me, someone to watch t.v. with, quiet talks, a phone call just to tell me they're thinking of me.

It's much easier living without sex then it is without that someone special that just makes me feel special.
1bunny629

Feb 15 @ 11:08PM  
Time and effort can prove successful, Bunny. But, may I ask....what if neither is given nor sought out???
...If neither is given or sought, then you have no life. The key is to find one who is in tune with you and vice versa. Should life evolve...well yeah!
MamMan

Feb 15 @ 11:17PM  
It's much easier living without sex then it is without that someone special that just makes me feel special.

Thank you for offering your personal experience, Madame S_T, and I appreciate your honesty about your willingness to feel love...even in the omission of sex.
1bunny629

Feb 15 @ 11:19PM  
I know I sounded defiant, but I am getting closer to feeling what Softie feels everyday.
MamMan

Feb 15 @ 11:20PM  
The key is to find one who is in tune with you and vice versa.

Brava!!! I concur with this statement.

Whether it is sex or love.....if one must be lost/not given....you shoud BOTH be on the same page as to what each of you need.
MamMan

Feb 15 @ 11:24PM  
I know I sounded defiant

Defiance was part of the stimulus that formed this nation, and brought this country together during wars against England, Nazism, and terrorism.
Differing views, styles, and thoughts can be very interesting.

Thank you, once more, for your comment.
evild614

Feb 15 @ 11:59PM  
If someone loves you, they'll suck it up and learn how to fuck you proper... well, any girl I'd be likely to fall in love with would. I know there are some very repressed people out there who just couldn't be bothered to experiment sexually no matter what the lousy sex was doing to their relationship, but honestly, why would anyone want to settle down with someone like that? Probably other people who don't really place sex very high on their list of priorities. Sorry but I'm just too much of a sexual creature. I wouldn't establish a relationship in the first place with someone who couldn't do sexual things well, even with the prospect of having sex with other people on the table.
SleepingDreamer

Feb 16 @ 3:04AM  
It would be like marrying my husband and he becomes paralyzed or was paralyzed in when we met. Intimacy doesn't always have to include sex. I'm deeper than that, a lot of people are.. although we do have needs that should be fulfilled. I'd give my left arm for my husband so obviously I'd give up a lifetime of no more sex for him too.

Besides, you can do a lot more than sex in a relationship and now-a-days you don't even need good old fashioned sex to make children.
dmbchick420

Feb 16 @ 1:45PM  
I'll take love over sex any day of the week and twice on Sunday
blakknight420

Feb 16 @ 4:52PM  
i would choose the LOVE SOMEONE without having enjoyable sex WITH ONE CONDITION.........SHE LET ME JACK OFF TO PORN AS MUCH AS I WANTED .......LOL ID STILL BE LOYAL in the sense that i wouldnt have sexual physical relations with another woman while in the relationship BUT>>>>>> AS LONG AS I CAN JACK OFF .....IM GOOD
blakknight420

Feb 16 @ 4:54PM  
but TOAD WHAT IF THE PERSON YOU LOVE........CUMS or has an orgasm 5 seconds or 10 seconds IN Or everytime you touch them in that WAY THEN THEYRE DONE.......... THAT SEX WOULD NOT BE PLEASANT EVEN IF YOU DID LOVE THEM......ITD BE OVER BEFORE IT STARTED
blakknight420

Feb 16 @ 5:03PM  
if she let me have sex with other women as long as shes there THAT WOULD BE COOL TOo.......
Cootiesprayer

Feb 16 @ 5:09PM  
would you want to have meaningless sex with someone whom could never love you/ you could never love???

much easier this way, no hearts getting broken no worrying if they will be home that night free to go & do whatever you want whenever you want. Dont have to answer to any one. Excellent blog mamman.

aftershox

Feb 16 @ 10:16PM  
A funny thing happened to me when I met someone at a hotel strictly for wild sex. We connected. I might be even be in love. He might be too. I still laugh at how "shallow" I was.

I wasn't choosing sex instead of love. I just like to keep ALL my options open. Nice guys show up in the funniest places.

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