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posted 1/27/2009 10:23:37 AM |
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  dmbchick420

I had another blog up, but I decided to remove it because my question was answered and I didn't really think it offered much dialogue, so here goes for a second try today....

I hear a lot of people talk about they are here for friends or a relationship or just to blog or whatever and it seems like the ones that are here just looking for sex tend to get a bad rap, so I've been wondering for a while now if that is why you are here, i.e. not seeking sex or flings, why are you on a sex site? Why not join a blogging site to blog or a matchmaker site like regular matchdoctor for a relationship or go to Myspace for friends (or other similar site)? Why did you initially choose this particular site if not for sex?

My initial thought when I joined this site was because I was looking for sex and nothing else and because it is a sex site. Obviously, now I am here for other reasons (to blog and because of the friends I've made along the way) and that could very well be your reason as well. However, it seems as though some people act like they are looking for their lifelong partner here and for me, this wouldn't be the site for that.

So, I'm just wondering....why did you initially choose this site? Please nobody take this the wrong way or be offended by it. I don't care why anyone is here and what their motives are....you can be here for whatever and that's fine and dandy...none of my beeswax. I'm just curious why some people seem to be "looking for love" on a site like this because frankly, I wouldn't be here looking for my soul mate. I'm just being honest

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dmbchick420

Jan 27 @ 10:37AM  
I also would like to add that I've had a few people (some here from the blogs) act as though I'm some kind of "slut" because I'm here wanting sex and nothing more....as though I should be looking for some sort of a relationship and chat with that person for months on end before anything happens. If that's your bag, go for it. We all go about pursuing our "relationships" different ways. I shouldn't be judged about my motives and neither should anybody else.
Wordsofwit

Jan 27 @ 10:47AM  
Good question!!

A couple of quick points. First off, I have a hard time relating to people on regular Matchdoctor. They are much to politically conservative as a group and there are more than a few extremists and kooks on there, that stay on there.

What one intends and seeks when registering on here and what I and many others find redeeming about it are two different things. This site is quite small. Consequently, it is relatively rare to find anyone a person wants to meet nearby for coffee, much less get naughty with. I don't know how many years I have been on here, but I have physically met one person for lunch and nothing more. She resides over 500 miles from me and we met up while I was on my way to visit my daughter. It was very enjoyable three hour lunch.

What has evolved is that many people stay and just come here to banter in the blogs as there are many cool, interesting, good people. It must be reiterated though, that the blogging quality has slipped from where it was a year or two ago.

My two cents.
dmbchick420

Jan 27 @ 10:52AM  
Thanks Bruce. I never thought about the "people being too conservative" part and could see where that would be boring. That's a shame about the blogging, but from what I've "heard", I think a lot of people here (or no longer here) are to blame for that with the bickering that used to go on.
Looking4ever

Jan 27 @ 10:53AM  
Originally I came to this site strictly out of curiosity. I stayed because of the types of people I interacted with...which is to say, the folks met in the forums/blogs. I also find that, in general, the folks I receive emails from (those not on the forums/blogs) tend to be more up front about what it is they are looking for too...and a lot less judgemental than those on 'vanilla' sites. I treat this place like a neighborhood bar...a place to hang out & socialize. If I meet someone that I am interested in on a personal/intimate level, GREAT! If not, no big deal...I'm still socializing and enjoying myself.
onehornytoad69

Jan 27 @ 10:53AM  
I came here "Looking for Sex!" Well let me... say.. I Joined AMD..for Sex...!
After a month or so.. I had seen all the Local Ladies.. so that was over with! (I am not saying I had sex with them BTW! )
Then "Hollie" returned an email.... asking me to go too the forums and check out a thread...
After I made a fool out of myself there!!! ....I came back and checked out the Blogs....
I am here "Now" for the friends...and to blog... sure if someone not to daymn far away... wants to chat ..and see where it goes.. I'm cool with that...! ...But I have said it before and I am saying it again....I Dont want to Chat for months before meeting!!! I am too real for all that!! Meaning.. I am a "Hands On Guy"
Good Blog! greenie for ya!
Wordsofwit

Jan 27 @ 11:02AM  
Excellent comments by all.

Now a question for you, DMB. I presume that you have not met a femme playmate through this site and yet we do (and I mean this sincerely) have the pleasure of your company. Perhaps you enjoy the interactions with us as we do you? Not to insult anyone, but this site does serve as a preferable alternative to daytime TV, even with hundreds of channels!
Lisa46

Jan 27 @ 11:04AM  
Well YNOT had me come over about 2 yrs ago I couldn't find a honest man for nothing. So......I came here I was terrified and he guided me thru the forums then made me read blogs so I could get to know his friends. Well I met two men from here. One well lets just say his profile said one thing and he IS attached The other one mislead me a few times and we ended up being FWB at his convience for over a year. After two failed attempts I decided to remain and keep my friends they love me for just me.
StraddleMyNose

Jan 27 @ 11:05AM  
Yep, count me part of the people that came here looking for sex. I found much more when the blogs started as far as meeting pretty cool people. Also discovered that once I wasn't looking for sex it found me.
dmbchick420

Jan 27 @ 11:11AM  
Now a question for you, DMB. I presume that you have not met a femme playmate through this site and yet we do (and I mean this sincerely) have the pleasure of your company. Perhaps you enjoy the interactions with us as we do you? Not to insult anyone, but this site does serve as a preferable alternative to daytime TV, even with hundreds of channels!

I most certainly enjoy everyone here (give or take a couple people...but they are easily ignored by me). My very first blog here was a rant because I was feeling pretty frisky that day, if I remember correctly, and really had no idea that it was going to be posted for everyone to view, which I quickly found out it was and I was attacked by a couple people in it, so I do tend to sympathize with the newer people because they usually don't know any better (I"m not talking about the guys that post those one-liners about giving it to women in the ass, etc...lol). I almost didn't blog after that, but thought fuck it and fuck them in their ear if they don't like it because I've always enjoyed blogging and here I can be vulgar and open about my sexual deviance

...and no, I have not met a women here and really don't intend to any longer. I've had a couple chances, but believe it or not I have some standards even though I'm not looking for anything serious (shocking I know lol). Most of the women here are too far away or they are part of a couple, like me, and want a 3-some and I'm not interested in fucking someone else's husband....I don't think that would go over so well with my husband either lol.
Xien607

Jan 27 @ 11:11AM  
Great Blog BTW!!!! A greenie for you!

I came to this site quite some time ago and met some people that I completely enjoy conversing with. I left the site for awhile because of the constant bickering and attacks that were happening. I see that they are now not on here. :)

I work at home, enjoy my life as it is. I see and meet people in the real world and as for this site there are some really nice people that share the same goals and interest as I do.

If anyone were to meet someone from here then great for them and you never know what is around the corner.
dmbchick420

Jan 27 @ 11:14AM  
BTW, if anyone tries to go looking for my 1st blog...I deleted it because I was embarrassed I do remember who was an asshole to me - one person is still here and still blogs and I've fogotten and forgiven. The other person has cancelled their membership and we actually became friends before he left...yes he....I'm sure you can guess who I'm talking about
dmbchick420

Jan 27 @ 11:20AM  
BTW, THIS IS BLOG #69......
rdsingle

Jan 27 @ 11:25AM  
I first came here looking for anything and everything. For various reasons i dont go out and socialize. The net is a lot of my social life. The blogs, email and of course the WOMEN. Now that i have a girlfriend, i only get to look and chat and blog. Here I get to say just about anything.
The other sights you have to be more carefull. Otherwise you get kicked off. There is a whole lot of more variety here than elsewhere that i have found.
themama

Jan 27 @ 11:33AM  
Great topic here!!! Greenie for ya ...
Let's see I came here to AMD to be a snoop for a friend of mine on his girl friend.. That was over 2 years ago..
Came to find out that a lot of great people were on here in the blogs.. so stayed..
Here for something else.... but well don't have it in my essay cause I got some wierd e-mails when I did have it posted..
Xien607

Jan 27 @ 11:36AM  
Wierd Emails, "themama", Darn, I thought I was the only one that got those.

I NOW FEEL BETTER!!!
themama

Jan 27 @ 11:39AM  
Nope your not the only one..Xein607....lol..
Have to change the spelling though... Me bad weird...
themama

Jan 27 @ 11:40AM  
Damn me bad again.. I give..lol Damn I" s & E's....
baddawg

Jan 27 @ 11:47AM  
great blog chick if i had a green one i'd give it to ya ! as a man with a very high sex drive i came on here to look for just that and i've yet to meet anyone but i enjoy being able to talk about my sexual preferances without freaking people out or being judged and as a bonus there are some nice people here and i enjoy the odd blog now and then blows another quick kiss at chick and leaves .
casuallylooking

Jan 27 @ 11:49AM  
AMD is much more than just a sex site. It is an option when you join to check what you are looking for and long term relationship and just friends are options.

I stumbled onto this site, and when I got some very graphic emails I was going to leave, but someone emailed me and told me to stick around for a week and then decide. He told me there were some really good people on here and he was right.

I choose my screen name because I was doing just that, casually looking. Definitely not expecting to find what I really wanted on this site. Or anywhere else. That wasn't going to happen.. Famous last words... lol

On reg AMD I was reading a blog once and a guy mentioned oral sex,and not in a lewd way or anything...I thought some of those people were going to hunt him down and burn him at the stake..It was rediculous!!

This place is just comfortable...for the most part. I've made some really good friends here that are in my everyday life outside of AMD or being online. And I've met that one man that I want to spend my life with. Had anyone told me that was possible, I would have probably just given them a look, shook my head and rolled my eyes.... thinking what a dumbass. I'm glad I was wrong.

And for the record, no I don't think you are a slut. I think that from what I have read you are a kind, caring woman who seems to know what she wants and has a sense of humor in her writing..
And even if you were a slut....it's your life, not mine.

Really good blog and well presented... Kudos.
Xien607

Jan 27 @ 11:51AM  
Wiered = Weird

4 years of college, what a great help that was.

I have been reading to many emails from Nigeria!!!
lunanegra

Jan 27 @ 11:51AM  
I don't have a set objective anymore,I'm just *here*.
casuallylooking

Jan 27 @ 11:57AM  
btw, I just read my first comment and if I didn't know me I would think I was a prude or something. I swear, I'm not a prude, I just wasn't expecting the emails I got the first day I joined and I was shocked by some of the forwardness and bluntness from strangers I never never even spoke to or emailed with..
Swede

Jan 27 @ 12:01PM  
Hmm...well I am one of those on AMD primarily for sex.

So far, I can't claim that I've had success...there have been some near misses that for various reasons didn't work out, as well as several instances of girls vanting vanilla sex, trading pics...and even two from women "seeking a man for marriage to be faithful etc" even though my profile clearly states that I am married and looking for playmates. This is what (to many people's irritation and amusement) sparked my first blog post.

Now, I've only been here for a few months and only sporadically, so it's too early to give up looking and just hang on the blogs just yet.

I probably won't blog regularly, but I will stick around and keep saying what I want from time to time
dmbchick420

Jan 27 @ 12:03PM  
btw, I just read my first comment and if I didn't know me I would think I was a prude or something. I swear, I'm not a prude, I just wasn't expecting the emails I got the first day I joined and I was shocked by some of the forwardness and bluntness from strangers I never never even spoke to or emailed with..

I didn't get that impression and I can understand why you felt that way
dmbchick420

Jan 27 @ 12:06PM  
I probably won't blog regularly, but I will stick around and keep saying what I want from time to time

I think you should be a regular blogger. I think they are well-written and good topics and I hope you DO blog more
girlcountry

Jan 27 @ 12:21PM  
I or we, came on here to look for a playmate....found one, but not on here. Now, like the rest of you, I am here for my friends that I've made, the blogs and to once in a while write a blog.
onehornytoad69

Jan 27 @ 12:45PM  
Oh I forgot...I am here cause I "Wanna Fuck!" So ya "Wanna Fuck"? Happy 69 !!!!
BTW..where is Sunshine today?
dmbchick420

Jan 27 @ 12:51PM  
Oh I forgot...I am here cause I "Wanna Fuck!" So ya "Wanna Fuck"? Happy 69 !!!!
BTW..where is Sunshine today?

I always wanna fuck I was wondering where she was too...
Xien607

Jan 27 @ 1:00PM  
Don't forget, "I want to FUCK" also


paladin1aa

Jan 27 @ 1:09PM  
I don't get on here much now, but came curious if sex was here. Its really just a tease site and I've found lots of sex on regular sites. Since I avoid bars because of the drunks, disease and druggies, I limit my hunts for casual sex to places that are fruitful. Since thats not here, I don't spend much time here.
dmbchick420

Jan 27 @ 1:12PM  
Its really just a tease site and I've found lots of sex on regular sites.

Please do share these other sites, if you don't mind...
Wordsofwit

Jan 27 @ 1:18PM  
Hell, honey, even an over the hill has been like me has succeeded on the other free sites, but not here. Pick one, pick all.
JOHN7AZ

Jan 27 @ 1:22PM  
Well, at first it was because I was horny and just happen to be on the computer at the same time. Then I realized that there were alot of people here( but not from my area, so I remained horny) The blogs are fun, I like to make jokes or be witty without having to watch my filthy tongue (sometimes it's funnier to say in a filthy way . But over all, this is a pretty cool site!
Sunshine79

Jan 27 @ 1:24PM  
My answer is I've been here since this site started and I was SINGLE then. I've remained here over the years, used this site to meet people to fuck and eventually found someone. However, I've made friends along the way and I choose to still come here and be around them. I'd miss them alot if I didn't come here.
dmbchick420

Jan 27 @ 1:33PM  
Hell, honey, even an over the hill has been like me has succeeded on the other free sites, but not here. Pick one, pick all.

LOL...well I have been successful once on another site, but that was a big let down
Cootiesprayer

Jan 27 @ 5:40PM  
Seems it's the same as most here. Came looking for sex, I am still looking. But have friends that I like to conversate with on here so I guess both. Good blog. Kudo for you.
zaralyon

Jan 27 @ 5:52PM  
I came here looking for sex, after a while i started reading the blogs and occasionally chit chatting, very occasionally as i'm shy, and now i come here to read the blogs and talk with others on occasion.

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