I just heard a song that I have heard many times and it made me wonder how many people really believe love is all you need... 
From the time I was very young I can remember hearing the sayings and songs about Love being all you need to make a relationship work.... Love is all you need...If you have love, you have everything...As long as you have love...etc..etc..
Do you think that is true?
Do you believe that as long as two people love each other they have everything for their relationship to last?
And if not, why not?
What else do you feel is needed?
I once heard someone say the only difference between love and the feeling of being in love, was lust.
Do you think there is a difference between loving someone and being In love with someone?
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ynot7769
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Jan 17 @ 3:25AM
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duno.........what's the diff 
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ynot7769
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Jan 17 @ 3:26AM
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and NO love ain't ALL ya need..............
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NSAlondonMAN26
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Jan 17 @ 3:28AM
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well, i believe that loving someone and being in love with someone are perfectly feasible seperately. you love your family but you're in love with your partner. where the line is, i guess, is in people who say they love their partners, but can't say they are in love with them.
on the point of "love is all you need", well it's a traditional way of thinking, which has been diluted by the way we live our lives these days. money, status, boredom, cheating, all of these can come in the way... so i guess it's down to the individuals involved... if their love is strong... i don't see any reason why they would need anything more...
if we think about the people in the world who have little or nothing to call their own, but can have very strong love for their partners/families, for them, things like money and status don't even come into the equation... in which case love is all they need...
long story short, (sorry for such a lengthy post!) if the love between the two people is strong enough, then love can be all they need... 
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NightOfOld
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Jan 17 @ 4:02AM
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Love is great. And they say if you have love. Nothing else matters. Some people have nothing but love, and are very happy. But you must have trust and respect to go along with it. All I can say is; Go for it. I would give all I had to find someone to love.
Good Luck to Both of you. 
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onehornytoad69
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Jan 17 @ 7:53AM
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I posted a blog not to long ago..asking "What is Love" and I am still wondering!!!....  Most ppl are in lust...and after that wears off, its Over..  Its a fine line between Lust and Love..&..Loving someone and Being in-love...(I hate it when someone tells me it didnt work out because they were not in-love..with their partner!!! Didnt they know that from the Start? Hello!!!! )
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girlcountry
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Jan 17 @ 8:37AM
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I agree with Chuck....you need trust and respect also. And yes, I alos believe that you can love someone but not be IN love with them. You care about them and their well-being, yet the passion and desire to spend the rest of your life with them isn't there. A big difference. Just my .02 worth.
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flavorbuster
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Jan 17 @ 8:51AM
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Leaning toward similar comments w/ todays prices if both aren't some what independent love can quickly turn to hate not saying it isn't real or felt in the beginning...
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casuallylooking
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Jan 17 @ 9:04AM
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Didnt they know that from the Start? Unfortunately, there seem to be many people who want to find that feeling so badly that they confuse it with lust and attention. I used to know a girl who's mom was "in love" many different times in the two years they lived near us. They would break up and she would be in love again within a matter of a few weeks with someone new. She kept telling her daughter "this is the one". Sad thing is, I think she really believed it ...for that moment anyways.
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rdsingle
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Jan 17 @ 9:22AM
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Oh yes there is a difference. I love my children. I love my family.
I still love my wife and she died from cancer. As for lust that usually is the difference between lovemaking and just sex. Being in love, well thats been awhile for me, over 5 years anyway. Hope this new relationship puts me back there. But this is the way I look at it.
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theSkwirl
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Jan 17 @ 9:28AM
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Nope, love ain't all you need. You also need communication skills, honesty, time, patience oh my farding gawds do you need patience.. I could really use some patience.. ok where was I? Umm a bit of money doesn't hurt cuz love won't get ya through times with no money .. like the song says... it will suffer and die when you are too stressed out about the cash flow issue. You need emotional and sexual compatibility, you need patience.. did I already mention that one? You need the ability to forgive but never to forget. You need a healthy self-esteem and hobbies. things you can do together and things you can do apart.
Other than that.. yeah.. Love is all you need!
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LilGriz
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Jan 17 @ 10:49AM
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Oh yeah, that crazy skwirl has it nailed down. The biggest thigs needed for a relationship to survive is trust, open communication, the willingness to give, and the belief in one another. 
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straightup_9
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Jan 17 @ 11:01AM
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Nope, love ain't all you need. You also need communication skills, honesty, time, patience oh my farding gawds do you need patience.. I could really use some patience.. ok where was I? Umm a bit of money doesn't hurt cuz love won't get ya through times with no money .. like the song says... it will suffer and die when you are too stressed out about the cash flow issue. You need emotional and sexual compatibility, you need patience.. did I already mention that one? You need the ability to forgive but never to forget. You need a healthy self-esteem and hobbies. things you can do together and things you can do apart
Hmmmmm....I guess I'm an odd ball...... .....I always thought LOVE.....real love, encompasses all these things and more...
I believe love IS all you need.....When two people have that....REAL LOVE.....everything else just becomes a minor speed bump... 
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casuallylooking
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Jan 17 @ 11:19AM
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I always thought LOVE.....real love, encompasses all these things and more... Although one would think so....and it should..... it doesn't for a lot of people.
that crazy skwirl has it nailed down. I guess she ain't so crazy after all...huh?
Although like I told her, I will add hopefully a sense of humor and the ability to laugh together.
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Sunshine79
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Jan 17 @ 11:28AM
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Sugar & Spice & Everything Nice, Snails & Puppy's Tails....and then some Love!!
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LilGriz
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Jan 17 @ 11:42AM
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laugh together And secure enough in your relationship to laugh AT each other when something crazy happens. BTW, laundry time....need anything washed???? I don't have a full load yet... 
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onehornytoad69
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Jan 17 @ 12:10PM
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Yanno... Looking back at the only time I really have been IN-Love... (Love on Both Sides  ) The best times were when all we had was each other!
I worked 2 jobs..and still had Nothing! I am talking food... or anything!!!...
Money...? No, thats Not Love!!! Gotta look deeper than Money!!! Love is soooo much more than that!  Its a Heart and Soul thingy!
If I die today...I have Loved..and I cant Complain!! Life is Good!
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borty293
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Jan 17 @ 8:54PM
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Some people are in love with the idea of love. I believe love is something you have to work at each day. This idea that love just happens is what books and movies are all about...it's a fantasy many people buy into ...check the divorce rates in your area...not to mention the relationships that never make it to marrage and peeter out.
Of course there's the white knight saving the damsel in distress fantasy that many people buy into ...over and over again.
Love is like a plant...it starts out as a seed and with the proper conditions will grow and become a flower. If it is neglected and not watered it just simply withers away. Both people have to work at it.
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ynot7769
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Jan 17 @ 9:53PM
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Is Love ALL You Need?
maybe a bigger garage??? 
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