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posted 12/3/2008 1:15:48 PM |
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  Johndo3476

After being on this site awhile I thought I would post something about one of my ex-girlfriends that changed what I thought I wanted in a relationship. She was very attractive, had a great sense of humor, and very “normal” to anyone who met her. However, she had a sort of secret slutty side. We worked together and I never heard anyone saying anything that would have led me to believe that they knew. I didn’t even know until she told me point blank (before we started dating). She told me she cheated on her past boyfriends but it was always only physical. Of course, her past boyfriends didn’t understand or like that so typically the relationship ended. When she cheated on me a couple of times after we started dating I didn’t mind because I knew it was only physical. Eventually though she had to move across country so we had no choice but to split.

So here’s the weird part: I still think she was the best overall girlfriends I have ever had. I didn’t know it until then but I realized that I really like having a girlfriend who has a slutty side that only a few people know about. She was an exciting, supportive, fun girlfriend and I think that her slutty side only made it all the more fun. I think it would be great to meet a girl like her again but I wonder if it’s even possible. I just never knew that I could have a girlfriend who cheated yet still be a great girlfriend. Moreovoer, I never knew I would be OK with a situation like that and want to find another relationship like that.

Sorry for the long post but I just wanted to tell my story of what changed me a lot and maybe get peoples opinions. Has this ever happened to anyone? Are there more girls like this out there or was this just once-in-a-lifetime? Anyone currently in a relationship like this? Anyways, post your thoughts if you like.

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straightup_9

Dec 3 @ 1:36PM  
It's called an "open" relationship...Lots of people have them, and are quite happy.
dmbchick420

Dec 3 @ 2:02PM  
Is that the sort of relationship you are seeking then? An open one? Because if you are not, then having a girlfriend who cheats on you shouldn't be the type of girl you seek and if it is an open relationship, then it wouldn't be cheating because it's a mutual agreement between both of you.

40DWM

Dec 3 @ 4:27PM  
Most of my life, I've heard wimmen bitch 'bout what a bunch of cheaters men are.
It was later, that I noticed that most of the wimmen that really bitched about
men's cheating ways, were often the 'other' woman in some other guys cheating
life.
Many of the women I've been with, kept their options open....even if I was
married to them. ex: "It's not really cheating, it's just something different".
I've heard of monogamous wimmen, just have not met one yet.
Most of the ones I've known, thought monogamy was a hardwood, that makes
nice furniture.

As long as you pretty much KNOW she's fekkin other guys, won't break your
heart as much.
funnywhapper

Dec 3 @ 7:59PM  
being married to an insanely jealous husband or wife, makes it all the
more fun. and exciting. and dangerous. porn stars have husbands,
kids and family life too. porn stars still have sex for fun.
sex is not love, its sex. it can be an expression of love however.
most porn stars want you to express your love for them through
your bank account. they so love the beautiful smell of untraceable cash.
nice and green and black. the kind that washes so well in the laundry.
southerngent64

Dec 4 @ 4:58AM  
Cheating involves deception. She told you up front she wasn't monogamous and you agreed, so she really wasn't cheating. Reading between the lines, I gather the two of you didn't find a third for some MMF fun.

Like straightup said, you were in an open relationship. It works for some but not others.

Yes, there are girls out there open to these types of relationships. Some are swingers, others are poly (AKA polyamorous).

Good luck with your search!
evild614

Dec 4 @ 4:15PM  
There is one way this can work- if she's a polyamorous type but didn't know there was such a thing. Then it's excusable if the two of you can work out that kind of relationship.

If you start opening up the relationship and she starts drama when you start sleeping with other girls, then you know she's not polyamorous- she's just a cheater. Dump her and move on- it's not about what kind of relationship structure suits the two of you, it's about her getting what she wants, no compromise, even if it hurts you.

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