Most women like oral sex. While only 35% of women can have an orgasm via direct sexual intercourse, up to 60% can have an orgasm via oral sex. Improving your technique for oral sex can greatly increase the chances of your wife having a mind blowing orgasm. Here are some detailed and explicit pointers on how to give your wife oral sex. For a much more detailed explanation of different oral sex ideas and techniques, I suggest reading Lick by Lick by Michael Webb, a best selling author of sexual technique books - this book focuses specifically on giving a woman the best oral sex she will ever have.
The most important factor to consider when satisfying your wife with oral sex is her mental state of mind. Her mind is the most powerful sexual organ she has. While she might like oral sex, she may uncomfortable with it. During oral sex, she may be concerned with her odor, how she looks down there, how much you are enjoying yourself, is she taking too long, did she shave close enough and about one million other thoughts. Your first job is to allay those thoughts. First step to how to give your wife oral sex: put her at ease.
Here are 6 tips to put her at ease during oral sex:
Take a shower with her. Let her get as clean as she can be before oral sex.
Dim the lights - better yet: use candlelight. Most women do not like a spotlight on their genitals.
Make sure you express to her how much you love to please her with oral sex.
Let her know her chemistry is just right for you and is turning you on (she tastes good to you).
Show her how you'd like to give her oral sex all day long when she lets you - you really love it and there is no rush.
Do not feel frustrated in the event she doesn't have an orgasm - be happy with any amount of pleasure you can give her - she will be.
Now she feels at ease, so she will be able to relax into accepting oral sex. And remember: relaxed is good - very good. This is where oral sex technique comes in.
Build anticipation before oral sex. Be sure to do a lot of kissing and foreplay before you begin to move down her body do start giving her oral sex. Do not go straight for her clitoris at the beginning of oral sex. Kiss her gently on her inner thigh. Kiss her right on the side of her outer labia. Move your mouth across her genital area just brushing it and breathing warm breath on it. Then kiss directly on her labia a couple of times. You want her to want you to go further; watch her body language. When she is open to you or directly invites you, then you can go further.
Be sure to review my list of three common mistakes men make when giving their oral sex.
The article linked above mentions a test you can do: rapidly rub your tongue on a small spot on the roof of your mouth over and over again for 30 seconds. The roof of your mouth will get raw or numb. Once you realize your wife's clitoris is 1000 times as sensitive as the roof of your mouth, you will see how direct hard licking during oral sex can quickly become unpleasant for her; yet this is what most men do when giving oral sex.
The key is to giving your wife great oral sex is to educate yourself as to what works best. Again, I am describing one method here, and since there are many others, which will blow her away.
When you start giving her oral sex, lick around her inner lips - up and over her clitoris. Kiss her inner lips with your lips as well - with some pressure - this is a big turn on for her. Keep in mind: for her, pressure on her clitoris is as pleasant as stroking is for you. Instead of repeated licking, lick across her clitoris once and then use your tongue to apply pressure on it. Don't stab her with your tongue - your tongue should be a little soft and push into her. Do this several times at different angles. Then give a couple of licks. To avoid the numbing effect of the top of your tongue, you can also lick with the underside of your tongue when giving her oral sex. Use a right to left motion rubbing the underside of the tip of your tongue over her clitoris. Then alternate to putting kissing pressure on her clit and then move around to other areas of the inner and outer lips. Do not ignore the rest of her genitals.
Of course every woman is different. She may love a fast flicking motion; she may not mind hard licking; she may be almost ticklish and very sensitive - the point is to communicate with her (ask) and find out what works best for her.
One thing many women like (in addition to the above) is this: when she is turned on from your mouth and tongue, try moving your finger or thumb around the entrance to her vagina. When she likes it, try using your finger or thumb in rhythm with what you are doing with your mouth and tongue. She may want you to stay right at the edge or go in further - do what she wants you to do. Another thing you can try is using your finger about 1 - 3 inches inside her and doing a soft "come here" motion with it. This can stimulate the ever elusive g-spot.
Be sure to pay attention to her body language. When she is holding your head and moving her pelvis or pushing you with her thighs during oral sex, she is trying to reveal to you exactly where she wants you to be. Let her position herself and position you. Don't move when she stops moving. She will make small adjustments to get you in just the right place. Trust her - she knows where it feels best. Do not move (except with whatever you're doing with your lips, tongue and/or fingers).
You will find an oral sex rhythm right for her. It will be at her pace. Keep her pace. Don't speed up when she comes. Keep it at whatever pace and pressure you were at which made her come. She will let you know you when she wants oral sex harder, faster, or whatever. The rhythm may be lick, lick pressure, pressure, pressure - or alternating pressure - or all the same thing over and over. After she gets turned on, she may like licking only with the underside of your tongue - or she might like just repeated pressure, or constant pressure with only slight movement. She'll let you know with her sighs and her movements - or even by saying "mmmm, good". When she lets you know, stay put - don't get creative - it's working, so don't mess it up. Then watch the fireworks!
Once you find out what she likes, you can experiment with oral sex; just in case experiments are too much for her, you will know what to do. She will be happier for the great oral sex orgasms you give her and she will want you more than ever! Talk about a libido enhancer, oral sex can be the best libido enhancer there is!
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