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posted 10/7/2008 11:01:40 AM |
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  dmbchick420

So, I FINALLY got to see pics of the person I have been talking to that was insistent upon the messenger thing and they finally agreed to email me pics. I get them and I like what I see, so we talk about possibly getting together and then the ball drops:

Her:

as far as me and you meet we have to find the tright time that will be good for both, i'm a domme, a soft one maybe, nothing extreme but still like to be in control and you have to submit to me totally and that include strap ons penetration with differente size and girth and anal is a must

Me:
can't do anal...not my thing. If it's a must, I guess no then? Sorry

Her:
honey anal is the most rewarding sexual act that a sub can give to her dom I'm disappointed of you decision but have to accepted good luck or your search sweetie

Okay, so now I don't get sex because I don't want an object shoved up by bung hole

So...anal is the most rewarding sexual act? Really? I don't think so Do you guys think so? Am I the only one that doesn't want to have butt sex? I mean...I poo from there I have tried it before and it hurts!!!

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bobbierob

Oct 7 @ 11:14AM  
Okay, so now I don't get sex because I don't want an object shoved up by bung hole

I have to admit that I don't want anything shoved up the ol' pooper either. Nor to I want to shove myself into a pooper..... that kind of grosses me out too.

Those who like it, though, REALLY seem to like it.

However, I concur with you on this one!!
dmbchick420

Oct 7 @ 11:18AM  
Those who like it, though, REALLY seem to like it.

I don't know how they could. I would think it would take a long time for your butthole to get big enough for that to even be enjoyable and then what...you have a stretched out butthole? Yeah..no thanks.
Hotlovin69

Oct 7 @ 11:19AM  
I myself don't think anal is the most rewarding sexual act at all. Nothing better than a sweet wet juicy pussy. Besides I love leating pussy and you can't eat shit !!
LOL...
onehornytoad69

Oct 7 @ 11:20AM  
I would like to answer this.. really I would.. but I'm not a Lesbian, well I am... but U R not... You are..Bi.. right? So Ask your Friends! (You know I'm just "Pokin" fun.. right? )
dmbchick420

Oct 7 @ 11:24AM  
yeah, horny toad...I know you are joking

Well...do you like butt sex?? hahahaha
onehornytoad69

Oct 7 @ 11:28AM  
Well...do you like butt sex??
I have to say.. No!!!
If my Lady does then I'll do what ever I can to please her!!!
Wordsofwit

Oct 7 @ 12:08PM  
I don't get into the dom/sub thing at all, so I have no opinion from that perspective. Anal is a different matter though. I don't consider it the most rewarding by any stretch, but I do like having a third hole available.

The key is to gradually bring it into play with fingers when incorporated with other forms of foreplay including oral and vaginal fingering after the lady has started getting off and is relaxed. Use a lube. A few drinks ahead of time definitely loosens up inhibitions. How the guy introduces her to it is the key. If is it pleasure, or at least not unpleasant, then she can acquire the pleasure. I imagine that less that five percent get into it.

It is a completely different sensation. Women who are into it are able to demonstrate incredible muscle control. After all, control in that area is part of the primary function. There is an art to it and a woman on top has the ability to milk a guy with her ass. Very few can do that vaginally with adequate muscular coordination.
dmbchick420

Oct 7 @ 12:13PM  
Thanks wordsofwit...it almost makes me want to try it now...almost!
Wordsofwit

Oct 7 @ 12:30PM  
I think that I should add that for first timers, it is important that it involve somebody that they trust. Ideally, the guy should be experienced in it and also know how to get the woman off with foreplay. It also is recommended that the woman play with the concept on her own with her toys when she feels adventurous and aroused.
MUDSHARK450

Oct 7 @ 12:54PM  
I'll do anything for love but I won't do that. Ycch
girlcountry

Oct 7 @ 1:06PM  
Nope! Don't go there!!
xquseme

Oct 7 @ 1:34PM  
I think that I should add that for first timers, it is important that it involve somebody that they trust.
Yeah. BIG TIME!

Dom/sub relationship? Strap ons? Anal a MUST?!? Doesn't sound like stuff for a rookie,
to me....I think I'd pull a "Monty Python," and....RUN AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!
dmbchick420

Oct 7 @ 1:42PM  
Dom/sub relationship? Strap ons? Anal a MUST?!? Doesn't sound like stuff for a rookie, to me....I think I'd pull a "Monty Python," and....RUN AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

The only thing I'm a rookie in would be anal sex and I'll always be a rookie in that, obviously lol. Well....this wasn't a man talking to me...it was a woman...hence the strap-ons, etc, but still.....run away is right!!!

xquseme

Oct 7 @ 1:56PM  
No, if you're a regular here, you've probably seen a few things; I get that....
But dom/sub, with anal?!? I don't think that "Let me up, please" will work, here...
Just a wild guess....
CompleteMadness

Oct 7 @ 1:59PM  
Anal sex is kind of like exotic food, it's an aquired taste. I've been on the giving and recieving side. The first time isn't pleasant unless you're with someone that's been penetrated, and they can keep themselves under control in order to accomodate a first timer. Good lube is a must, spit will not work. It may be because I'm male, and my anatomy is set where the orgasm control panel is by my ass, but I've never came harder.

The whole idea of having a stretched out hole is a bit of a myth. Unless you're getting fisted or having something larger than 6 inches in width put in there, the backdoor will not forever swing wide open. The sphincter is a muscle, anal sex is a compressive workout, which is roughly the equivalent of a bicep curl. Unless it's suddenly required to accomodate a very large object, it's not going to stretch out.
Because of the nature of muscle memory, the sphincter will be able to more easily accomodate the act of anal sex.
1bunny629

Oct 7 @ 2:22PM  
I don't have a problem with it, but i do know i don't want a strap on stuck in any of my orifices. I can milk the mans cock with my tight cunt as easily as with my ass. I am bilingual that way! HA! what word am I supposed to use for that skill? I haven't a clue. There is nothing like sticking your ass up in the air and submitting it to you lover, or mounting it in a lap style. I just really don't like to be fingered. And why does everyone want to eat my ass out?, or is that just a figure of speech? Good luck honey, but I don't particularly like to be told that if i don't do something right off the bat then it isn't going to happen. The all or nothing tactic doesn't work for me.
Wordsofwit

Oct 7 @ 3:14PM  
Anal sex is kind of like exotic food, it's an aquired taste.
It is sort of like drinking scotch in that it is an acquired taste with little middle ground, you either like it or you don't.

I don't particularly like to be told that if i don't do something right off the bat then it isn't going to happen. The all or nothing tactic doesn't work for me.

She is right on. Comes off as a shallow, self centered ultimatum to me and not the kind of person you want to try to have trust in that will put your feelings first. That is essential in a going beyond a taboo to explore.

I recall that song by the New Bohemians, What I am. "I not aware of too many things, I know what I know if you know what I mean. Take me into shallow water, before I get too deep. What I am is what I am and what you are is what?"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nPs7-5feq-M
Sunshine79

Oct 7 @ 4:17PM  
I don't care for anal either. I also recently had a FWB get upset at me too because I didn't want anything to do with anal with him. For God's sake, he's very well endowed, I don't want my asshole stretched and hurting, sorry....I'm not so into it.

Yes, I do have a small butt plug in my toy collection & it's rarely used. I have to totally be in the mood for that.

Fuck off to all those who want it. If I wanted anal I'd be a homo. (and i'm sorry if that offends anyone!!)
wildokie

Oct 7 @ 5:11PM  

I don't mind it, sometimes...
mrknowuwell

Oct 7 @ 5:50PM  
should have asked if u cud do her......and send me the pics
flavorbuster

Oct 7 @ 6:51PM  
Post an exit only sign & you should be safe.....
MsHelle

Oct 7 @ 9:46PM  
ok, stupid question time - did you know she was a Domme right off?? Sounds like she wasn't even trying to negotiate a situation that would be agreeable to both of you. I'm kinda new to the D/s scene and have been getting lots of help and support from older/more expererience Dommes and sub on how to negotiate what is and isn't acceptable. I'm also finding that some don't know the "rules" of BDSM and think just because they declare themselved Dominat, you are suppose to do what they ask/require/demand of you without any regard to your own personal welfare. A potential sub or even playmate has the right to say NO otherwise it is a misplace of trust.

My Nickel Ninety Eight

Helle
slohand_47

Oct 7 @ 10:16PM  
Nope, don't want nothing in mine.

I HAVE dated a couple women who wanted a finger inserted in theirs while other things were going on. Didn't do anything for me, but I was ok with it as far as pleasing them.

Bottom line, if you don't like it, don't do it..... and don't let anyone make you feel guilty or inferior just because you are not interested. Shame on her.
asnet

Oct 8 @ 12:26AM  
No.
I think it's a symptom of boredom.
lunanegra

Oct 8 @ 12:50AM  
I heard its like taking a really hard shit in reverse...sorry for being so vulgar.
dmbchick420

Oct 8 @ 9:22AM  
Thanks everybody for commenting! I was thinking about all this last night and was almost considering it with her because she is smoking hot, but you guys are right....that shit is shallow and I can't get over the fact that I might not sit right or poop right for a while lmao

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