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My oldest grand daughter is now in the fifth grade... and in fifth grade they teach sex ed... Wait a minute! She's too young to know anything about that s word.. She's just a baby. Besides she's not even allowed to date til she's 30 and then only supervised dates.. Hey, I'm not the one that set that rule........ .I just agreed with it.

Anyways...my best friend and I were talking about it and she reminded me of when her son had sex ed part 2 in high school.. She was head of PTO and was curious what they were teaching so she sat in on the discussion one of the days..
The instructor did not just push only abstinence . Instead she taught them about STDs and how easy it is to get them without using protection and sometimes even when you do.

As an example she had a bag with pieces of sponges in it and had everyone reach in and take just one. She explained that one--only one-- had a solution on it that would show up under a black light.. This was going to represent an STD and no one knew who had that sponge (not even the person who had it) and there was no way of telling until the black light was turned on --- the black light represented an exam with their doctor--- then everyone touched their sponge against 3 other peoples sponges-- which represented having unprotected sex---. She asked them how many of them thought they were safe and most of them said they thought their sponge was okay because it wasn't wet, didn't smell or look different. She asked how many people they thought they just touched and the all said 3 and some said everyone they touched looked clean too.
She turned on the black light and all but one persons sponge had that solution on them.. Everyone had caught that STD, well except one person out of twenty something..
They were all amazed at the results..
She told them this is what can happen if you have unprotected sex with someone who has an STD..and doesn't even know it. Also if they are going to have sex to be sure they get tested so they know they are clean for sure and not spreading an STD without knowing.. To always use protection and it's not bad to ask the other person for proof that they are disease free.
I believe that they will remember that experiment...for a long time. At least I hope they will..

So I'm curious, if we teach our children, grandchildren, students , etc... how easy it is to catch STDs , why do so many adults disregard that fact and not practice safer sex or ever get tested?

And what do you think should happen if someone knows they have an STD and doesn't tell the person they have sex with?

Maybe neither my granddaughter will be allowed to date til they're 40...

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Ewe_Wish

Oct 2 @ 2:56AM  
I got my sex education at school.............well to be specific it was behind the school.........and he was 12 yrs old with blond hair..........blue eyes and he kissed me right on the mouth...............OMG that wasnt what you were asking was it?

And what do you think should happen if someone knows they have an STD and doesn't tell the person they have sex with?

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Charge them to the fullest extent of the law and give them jail time.
ynot7769

Oct 2 @ 5:32AM  
Charge them to the fullest extent of the law and give them jail time.

onehornytoad69

Oct 2 @ 7:41AM  
That was a good lesson for anyone!!!
Most people just dont get it!!! or dont even care!!!
We can still get STD's even using a condom!!! We listen but we dont hear!

And what do you think should happen if someone knows they have an STD and doesn't tell the person they have sex with?
Um... all Im saying is.... I'll dig a deep hole, in the Wilderness!
theSkwirl

Oct 2 @ 10:27AM  
When I was in school (back when dinosaurs still roamed the earth.. before moses was a pup) sex ed left us with far far more questions than answers. The 'films' with all their euphamisms and non anatomically correct drawings were worse than useless. I'm glad to know that things are changing.

I agree with Ewe, if someone has an STD and KNOWS it an still has unprotected sex with you.. or any sex at all for that matter.. then it's an assault with a deadly weapon and should be prosecuted as such. Or.. that thing Toad said.. yeah..
soft_touch938

Oct 2 @ 10:29AM  
Man I could write a book on my opinion of this....but I'll try to keep it short here

A little over a year ago a guy told me his DOCTOR told him you couldn't get STD's through heterosexual sex...can you believe that?? Needless to say, I never met him!

Recently a guy of whom I knew was swinging told me he wasn't really worried about getting anything. I tried to educate him on the cold hard facts but he wasn't listening...didn't wanna give up his fun. It's these kinds of guys that's scary...and dangerous because they spread STD's without a hint of conscience.

I think every town...not just a big city...but any town of reasonalbe size should have a free STD clinic.

I don't think 5th grade is too young to begin teaching this. I read an article a few years ago where teens were polled to see how informed they were on sex and their answers were appallingly ignorant. Their misinformation was staggering.

One more point. Those life like babies they use now to teach kids about parenting? That should be a mandatory class for every single teenager in my opinion. That demonstration you mentioned? Should be mandatory in every school.

Adults that are sexually active with or without condoms who aren't regularly checked...not occasionally but on a regular basis are just playing Russian roulette with their lives and those they have sex with....and that gun is nearly fully loaded.
dmbchick420

Oct 2 @ 10:43AM  
I don't think 5th grade is too young to begin teaching this.

Me either. My daughter is in the 5th grade and I've already talked to her about the birds and the bees. My mom never did with me and I learned the wrong way...from friends...luckily I never caught an STD or got prego in high school or anything like that...I guess I was lucky. Fact is, kids are growing up faster today then they did even when I was a kid and while abstinence would be the ideal situation, it's more likely than not that kids are going to have sex whether you want them to or not, so teaching protection and STDs is the best thing to do in my opinion!

And what do you think should happen if someone knows they have an STD and doesn't tell the person they have sex with?

I'm not sure about this one. I think it's the responsibility of both parties to make sure the other one doesn't have an STD. If you don't, I guess that's your fault...not that it makes it right for the person with the STD to be giving it to someone, but that is the chance you take if you don't use protection...and if you don't use protection, that's just plain ignorance!

funnywhapper

Oct 2 @ 11:06AM  
sex should be outlawed its dangerous to your health. physically, emotionally
mentally and spiritually. all most people get nowadays is 'make-believe' sex.
sex ed, when i was in high school was all about reproduction and pygmy complex
and inferiority complex stuff a bit thrown in. how guys lie all the time,
how they laid all the cheerleaders etc. and its bullshit. to cover for their
absolute inferiority. like guys go around saying they fucked so and so
and so and so and shit, and its bullshit. they try to teach guys not to
rape women etc. and to teach guys to treat women with respect and dignity.
then later on sex education became a deal where men were taught
to bring women to orgasm, each time and every time. there was class
participation. like, angela and johnny come forward to the front of the class,
and show the rest of the class how fucking should be done. then the class
decides if they should get married, have the kid or not, they vote.
best lover medals are given out at the end of the semester. films are made
for their 'memory book'. so many guys back when i was growing up,
hadn't the foggiest idea of how to give a woman an orgasm. they were
absolute sexual morons. there was much premature ejaculation.
many women want the man to go on and on and on and on for about two
hours every night. its exhausting, but its the man's duty to do so.
Looking4ever

Oct 2 @ 11:34AM  
Gaw! I love object lessons! They can really drive a point home when nothing else can. My hat off and major kudos to that teacher!

Fifth grade might even be a little too late to start teaching kids sex ed. Too many parents leave it up to the schools. Sadly, we hear of kids having sex even before they reach the double digits. Scares the hell out of me to think we live in a world like that. I've always tried to be open and talk to my kids in an age appropriate manner about their bodies...emphasizing that it is THEIRS and they should covet that.
rescueremedy

Oct 2 @ 12:25PM  
And what do you think should happen if someone knows they have an STD and doesn't tell the person they have sex with?


I agree w/ Dayna on this ...... If a person knows and says nothing or thinks they might and never get checked Great blog !!
bobbierob

Oct 2 @ 1:25PM  
Good topic....

I am frequently confused as to the teachings of children.

We, as parents are expected to teach them about morals and religion, and drugs, but the school system has to teach them about sex?



Let me teach my child about all of those things!!! let me do my job as a parent.

The other side of the coin is about the parents who are either not around, or too lazy to teach the kids about that stuff..... what of them?

I have no answer for that, but I do know I want to teach my son the values I believe in.
Sunshine79

Oct 2 @ 3:18PM  
Now, that was one great way to explain and show them what can happen.
I offended someone the other day who asked if I'd have a threesome with him and his girl. I asked if his girl was clean and he went off on me. I thought it was a legit question. End result, I'm not going there. I am clean, I have papers saying so and I'm not gonna risk that, so tough to him.
dmbchick420

Oct 2 @ 3:28PM  
I offended someone the other day who asked if I'd have a threesome with him and his girl.

I thought you weren't into chicks! I'm clean!!!!! lol
StraddleMyNose

Oct 2 @ 4:49PM  
And what do you think should happen if someone knows they have an STD and doesn't tell the person they have sex with?

I have no use for a person that does something like this. I'm not sure what can be done to someone like that, but a person who does that should have to pay for what they did.


She's just a baby. Besides she's not even allowed to date til she's 30 and then only supervised dates

That's how I felt about my daughter at one time. But so much has changed for her and I worry for her about other things now.
keepinganeyeout

Oct 2 @ 6:42PM  
knowledge is power.....why should children be powerless against std's (jmo)
casuallylooking

Oct 2 @ 6:54PM  
I realize it may be a little late to add this but...I got off subject about my grand daughter taking sex ed (other than the kidding about her not dating til she's 40).. I meant to go back and add that I do not think she is too young for sex ed. I was just being dramatically over protective in print.. .I wish children that age had no idea what sex is, but I also know there are kids having sex already at that age...And that's scarey as hell!!

I want her to know the facts, both of my grand daughters and my grandson, before they learn things the wrong way..

As was already mentioned sex ed at our school was just more confusion. It was a teacher talking in the cafeteria for about half an hour and I went home more confused than ever and had no one to ask questions...
Like dmbchick said, I was one of the very lucky ones that didn't catch anything or end up pregnant as a very young teenager.

I always made sure to explain everything to my daughter as she was growing up.. The facts, the myths and the things she would probably hear.
casuallylooking

Oct 2 @ 7:07PM  
knowledge is power.....why should children be powerless against std's
Very good point....

Charge them to the fullest extent of the law and give them jail time.
Yeap!! that sounds good to me..but then again so does Alex's idea...

sex should be outlawed its dangerous to your health. physically, emotionally
mentally and spiritually. all most people get nowadays is 'make-believe' sex.
Is that why there are people out there dying from AIDS or aids related complications everyday?
Or teenage girls are having babies when they can't even take care of themselves yet ?

That takes more than make believe sex...
Maybe youu aren't getting any...but too many of our children are and they need to know what they are facing and what can result from it.
Stupidity is dangerous!!
alybai42

Oct 2 @ 7:08PM  
I got my sex education at school.............well to be specific it was behind the school.........and he was 12 yrs old with blond hair..........blue eyes and he kissed me right on the mouth...............OMG that wasnt what you were asking was it?


I saw you dayna...
ynot7769

Oct 2 @ 7:17PM  
upon further reflection................. ya shore it's not just porn
Ewe_Wish

Oct 2 @ 7:32PM  
I saw you dayna...
I know you did Tammy........of course it might have went over better if he hadnt been your boyfriend................
belle1010

Oct 2 @ 10:13PM  
That demonstration is one that should be used in every school in every state! It makes it more real, to actually see it. We can talk all day long til we're blue in the face and still not get through to our children. I always told my step-kids who were 10, 11, and 13 when I married thier father that if they had any questions, no matter how silly they thought they were to come to me (It was easier to talk to me than thier parents) and I would answer to the best of my ability, and if I didn't know, I would find out for them. Knowledge IS power, and the more you know, the better decisions you can make. My mother didn't talk to me about sex, or menstration. I learned the hard way (from friends had less of a clue than I did).

An abstinance only policy would be wonderful, but it's not reality, and I think we all know that don't we??

Oh and my grandbabies aren't allowed to sit next to a boy/girl depending on gender til they are at least 40!
belle1010

Oct 2 @ 10:22PM  
Damn, damn, damn............I forgot something else I wanted to say. I thought I read somewhere that if someone that is HIV positive or has AID's and doesn't tell thier partner or any prospective partner that info BEFORE having sex with them, it's the same as attempted murder.

If that isn't a law, it should be.

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