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He was only 7 years old

posted 8/30/2008 7:04:50 AM |
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Yesterday at 5:15 PM, a middle-aged man who had been drinking most of the afternoon came barrelling through a stop sign at a Tee intersection on a country road and broadsided a car. Police estimate the impact was between 65 and 75 miles per hour. My grand-nephew and his grandmother were in the car he hit. It rolled three times. Both were strapped in with seat belts; Kathy in the driver's seat, Christian in his booster chair in the back seat. Of course, all the air bags deployed, but to no avail. The roof of the car was crushed and Christian received massive head injuries. He lived just long enough to get to the hospital. Kathy received multiple broken bones.

When I was drinking heavily, I was invincible and way smarter than the law. I knew nothing like this would ever happen to me. Never! They were totally wrong about the impact of booze on my reactions. Those statistics did not apply to me!

The man who was driving drunk is an alcoholic, just like me. He attended AA meetings regularly until about a month ago when he just stopped coming. Had been for 17 years. 17 years clean and sober...and he made a choice to let his disease take over again. In just a month, he threw it all away and became the man who murdered my grand-nephew.

I know this man. I have known him since he joined AA. I usually sat with him at meetings. Knew his wife. Knew his three little kids. We went places socially together. They came and swam in my pool. It's hard for me to say right now, but I considered him a friend...a friend who, after years of drinking, had his act together and had built himself a good life as a good man with a good family.

For whatever reason, he made the choice to drink yesterday. He MADE the CHOICE to drink...

Today I mourn my nephew. I mourn for his family. I mourn for the drunk's family. I really want to mourn for what he did and what he is and will be living with for the rest of his life, but, right now, that just won't come. Perhaps in time.

My reason for writing this note??? Friends, if you are going to drink, do so responsibly. Please! And, friends, if you HAVE to drink, seek some help before it is too late for you, too. Too late for you and for yet another child whose life you could snuff out even before it really got started...

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casuallylooking

Aug 30 @ 7:53AM  
OMGosh..how truly horrifific and heart breaking.
Scott, I am so so sorry for your loss and your heartache...For that dear little angel that never got a chance to know what life truly is.For Kathy who will need to heal both physically and emotionally.I pray that she will know it was not her fault and truly be able to forgive herself. For Chriatian's family who will always have pain and a void in their hearts and miss him. And for the drunks family, as they will probably live with the guilt, that is not theirs, for the rest of their lives as well..
I wish there were something I could do or words I could say to help for just a minute, but I know that is impossible. I will keep all of you in my prayers and hope that healing will someday be able to happen.

Please take care of you...
Ewe_Wish

Aug 30 @ 7:55AM  
Sweetie.........left a message on your cell........you know you can call me if you need me anytime...............everything else i have to say to you I will send in private email........lubs ya
zena343

Aug 30 @ 8:03AM  
A story that touches me deeply (personally)!! I am so sorry for your loss and without a doubt, countless of others loss aswell!! Take care.
borty293

Aug 30 @ 8:34AM  
Hang in there...sorry for your loss.
manwithoutahorse

Aug 30 @ 8:40AM  
My condolences. Am so sorry. And thanks for the reminder to those of us who drink to be responsible. If we can't, don't drink.
StraddleMyNose

Aug 30 @ 9:03AM  
Oh wow, I'm so sorry for your loss
keepinganeyeout

Aug 30 @ 10:17AM  
My prayers are with you.
themama

Aug 30 @ 10:18AM  
Sorry for your loss.. And thank you reminding others why not to drink and drive..
theSkwirl

Aug 30 @ 10:40AM  
Your family has my prayers.
Sunshine79

Aug 30 @ 11:14AM  
I'm sorry to heard of the bad news and bad choice. I'm sure he will regret it the rest of his life. I'm being taken out tonite for drinks for my b-day. I probably won't have but 2 beers over a period of 6 hours. Babysit them drinks. I'm not much a drinker....I enjoy the socialness of being out with people. Usually I just hold the same drink in my hand the whole nite. Gives people the notion that I'm drinking right along with them. Better then the consequences........
rescueremedy

Aug 30 @ 11:39AM  
I`m so sorry for your loss ......Thank you for sharing and hopefully it will help someone to stop before getting behind that wheel drunk . You are in my thoughts and prayers , J
Lisa46

Aug 30 @ 11:49AM  
Your story broke my heart. I quit drinking over 20 yrs ago and just picked it back up a few years back. When do i drink?? After I mow the yard i'll drink a beer or two. That is it. I'm not much of a drinker either and I don't think I will do so. I cannot imagine your anguish or the what your friend is thinking or feeling. But I can see his face full of heartache and asking himself over and over "why"?
redbronze

Aug 30 @ 12:43PM  
hugs I am so sorry..
Hevn84

Aug 30 @ 3:06PM  
So sorry :(

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