I don't if its a planetary alignment,full moon or what but for some reason I am pulling married dudes left and right.
I'd say in the last two weeks or so,out of my usual contacts maybe three have been married,despite the requests I post in my profile clear as day.
Weekend before last from AFF:Got an email from a "divorced" teacher here in town who thought I was pretty cool because we shared the same music tastes.We chatted on IM and there I found that "he had someone" and claimed it was "open" yada yada yada.I asked him if that were the case,why didn't he just say so? He eventually told me that he could've just lied to be and kept the veneer of being divorced going,but he liked me so he told me up front....'Kay. Anyway,the dude was vile and relentless,whereas some men will bow out after one rejection,he cajoled,coaxed and played on my sympathies with no regard for how I felt ethically,he had a calculating intelligence.He tried all weekend,but I stood my ground and he gave up.
This weekend from AS(adultspace):Spent the past week talking to this pretty cool guy.He emailed me telling me my default picture of Capt. Piccard from Star Trek:TNG was hilarious(any of the AMDers that are members there know what I'm talking about).Anywho,we kicked off some lively email tag for the past few days.Being the cautious person I am,I usually check profiles but his was private, I figured maybe it was because of him telling me so many bisexual men harassed him.Well by the end of the week,he asked if it were ok if I could add him,and I finally saw his profile...yep,you guessed it...married. My heart sunk because he was a pretty good-looking guy with an insanely hot body and perfect cock.I pitched a mini-fit at my desk because it seemed that all the awesome guys are freaking married!!!! ARRRRRGH!!!!111 I surmised that nothing would come of anything because he lived in Canada,so definitely no outside chance at all.
Well,somehow my stance softened yesterday and I'm sort of conflicted...
See,despite the fact that he was married,I figured we'd still talk about music and mundane crap and nothing would happen..well...in the heat of lust we both engaged in cyber,complete with webcamming. Is this something that counts as "fooling around"? Yes,I care to discuss the semantics.
Lastly,anytime I get an email in my filtered box at AMD,I know its either a foreign guy with not much in the way of English-speaking skills,or a married guy.Today,I would've opted for a Nigerian guy posing as someone from the UK who was born in the US,but stranded in Nigeria,but need a plane ticket back to my state.
Yeah,this guy sounded great,too AND he was local which is rare to find since this area inundated with yokels and doofy college guys. Really,he was just my type but again...married. Its the same ol' S&D(song and dance):"I'm staying for my child whom I adore" bit. I gave him the weariest "no" I could think of and sent him on his way.
(SIGH)
It makes me want to flail around in frustration,it does. WHAT IS IT WITH MARRIED MEN!?
As long as I've been wanting true love and fighting to get it,some folks don't care about love and they squander it. I suppose I am not in the mood to intellectualize with evolutionary biology and sexual evolution as to why people cheat or can't stay with their mate...um,fuck it. Not today.
I just...I don't know.I say I'm okay with them,now I'm not,now I am,now I'm not...goddamnit,I'm so confused. 
Being single right now is the most dangerous time believe it or not.When you're in a loving LTR,its a beautiful and secure bubble.No one can touch you,its steady,its comforting and you're happy as compared to not being single which is like feeding time on the Serengeti. You can't see their eyes when they stalking you through brush and you can't run as fast when you have a debilitating weakness that they can prey on.
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lunanegra
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Aug 23 @ 6:50PM
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Yes,apparently I am still here if I just posted a blog. 
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tailchaser
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Aug 23 @ 7:34PM
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I am just curious as to why you are surprised at this 
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1bunny629
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Aug 23 @ 7:50PM
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I would rather be alone than thinking I was in a secure LTR and find out he was cheating...whether physically or emotionally. Yes, camming with another who isw in a relationship is participating in his emotional cheating.
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lunanegra
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Aug 23 @ 8:04PM
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I am just curious as to why you are surprised at this
I'm not surprised this happens,I'm just mad at the fact that it has to be me.Especially when I make it clear that I don't want no part in it.
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lunanegra
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Aug 23 @ 8:06PM
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Yes, camming with another who isw in a relationship is participating in his emotional cheating.
Ok.But does lust count as an emotion? Also,does it count that I did not know this guy was married until after I added him to my friend's list?
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1bunny629
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Aug 23 @ 8:22PM
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Yes. lust is an emotion, and no you didn't know, but now you feel shitty. I guess it would be best to find out first, or just have fun and don't be bummed when you find out he used you...like you used him.
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lunanegra
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Aug 23 @ 9:28PM
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Yes. lust is an emotion, and no you didn't know, but now you feel shitty
Yes,well I do feel shitty but not as terrible,although I do feel bad.I don't know...if I had no remorse I'd have more married men up my ass then I do now.
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1bunny629
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Aug 23 @ 10:11PM
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easy come...easy go...the good ones will stay an you'll be glad the others go!
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lunanegra
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Aug 23 @ 10:37PM
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I suppose so.
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mcroxton
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Aug 24 @ 3:25AM
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Maybe it's a little off topic, but Jimi Hendrix said:
"You make love, you break love. In the end, it's all the same when it's over."
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tassie1
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Aug 24 @ 4:10AM
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yeah but in defense of the few decent married guys out there, I openly flirt and throw about compliments to lovely ladies,but my wife is here too and knows what i do .I don't see it as cheating to simply pay a member of the opposite sex a compliment.
at the end of the day,I am faithful to her and she knows it,but if I can cheer someone up with a compliment or some light hearted stirring I will openly do it if I know it doesn't cause offence or make the recipient feel uncomfortable.
as usual its the bad eggs that dis-respect their partners and only think of themselves that end up getting us all tarred with the same brush but please don't bundle all married men in the same group   
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theSkwirl
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Aug 24 @ 11:42AM
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Dissenting opinion from me.. duh.. like you are really surprised right?
Cyber and camming .. I don't feel that they are any different than reading a porn story or watching a porn video. Seriously. Sure it's slightly interactive but in the grand scheme of things you are still thousands of miles apart and not harming anyone.
Yes, he's married and that's his shame if it's anyone.. you didn't know.. so.. there ya go.
Sadly, I believe that a good portion of the married men who hang out at dating/sex sites are just bored. That's on him as much as on his wife. There are a few though, who have the other's permission to do so, aren't looking to replace 'her' but there are circumstances that make it ok.
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lunanegra
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Aug 24 @ 1:50PM
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Maybe it's a little off topic, but Jimi Hendrix said:
"You make love, you break love. In the end, it's all the same when it's over."
That's not off topic.Its not off topic when its a song lyric that relates to the current situation....in some form.
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lunanegra
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Aug 24 @ 1:56PM
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as usual its the bad eggs that dis-respect their partners and only think of themselves that end up getting us all tarred with the same brush but please don't bundle all married men in the same group
Tassie,you don't have to plead your case with me,love. I mean,its the ones who log-on to places thinking the "what she doesn't know won't hurt her" mentality and the ones with the "she's tired all the time and she's gotten fat so stands a chance she's useless" shtick. Those are the one's that disgust me.Of course when I'm cut-up about stuff like this,I don't take time to discern feelings,if I offended someone,my bad.
Its a slippery slope,a fine line,a thin line with subjects like this as always...
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lunanegra
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Aug 24 @ 2:16PM
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Cyber and camming .. I don't feel that they are any different than reading a porn story or watching a porn video. Seriously. Sure it's slightly interactive but in the grand scheme of things you are still thousands of miles apart and not harming anyone.
But is it really emotional cheating like Bunny mentioned? He liked me,I can't say that I was terribly fond of him after I found out he was married,that's what killed it.Yet,I sit here and struggle with peer pressure as if I never left that 9th grade classroom.If I condemn all married men "open","poly" or whatever I'm a "terrible person","I'm a closed-minded religious nut.","I'm this","I'm that"...
However,if I gallivanted with married guys and befriended them,hugged,kissed,cybered,and fucked them I'm a "homewrecker""slut","I'm gonna burn in Hell for fornication","I'm being used and he's going to go back to her when he's done" etc etc.
I may not be directly called that,but I know my contemporaries are judging me as such. I don't know,I didn't join places like these to be "caught-up" I come here for some ol' physical fun..not to have a crisis of conscience,and not to worry if a "divorced","single" or "separated" man is who he say he is. I've been having trust issues since I was a young lady..running into men like this is NOT making it any easier. I'd just rather I look up some of these muthafuckers and do a background check,but instead of going to extremes like that...
To all the married men who feel they have to lie:FUCK OFF. You want to be free to fool around,divorce your wife. Choose uncertainty over comfort.Yeah,its selfish,but so are you for not thinking of anyonelse except yourself when you log-on and try scam for some ass.Staying for the kids is a lame excuse,fuck that.My parents separated,that's just fucking life my friend.She's tired all the time from work? Pick up the slack for once instead of beating off to porn.Any other psychological problem,you better talk to a counselor for that shit..that's what they're fucking there for,dumbass.
/RANT OFF 
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