manwithoutahorse
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Aug 20 @ 7:21PM
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Call the cops. Tell your supervisor. Keep a log of EVERY incident. And watch your back. Guys like that want to exert power over a weaker person. Be strong, but not antagonistic. Use the authorities, the law and your friends to watch your back. Then if he keeps up? Put him down. just my humble opinion
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lifeizabitch
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Aug 20 @ 7:21PM
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He is a coward and a bully, that much is evident. Calling the cops would be futile unless you had proof; revenge would feel good momentarily,but that might lead to an escalation of the problem and things could get out of hand so many ways; none of which would have good results. Step back, marshall your resources with others that feel the same way about him,and together present yourselfs to managment as to the seriousness of the matter..................................................................................................................................................................................................if that doesn't work,then take him on one on one in a public setting so that his peers will see what a coward he is; if he kicks your ass he looks bad,if he walks away he looks bad.
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juliecd
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Aug 20 @ 7:36PM
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What he is doing is harrasment.report it to HR if you have one.If you don`t,report him to your boss.Let your boss know that if nothing is done about him,you will seek legal action.
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Ewe_Wish
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Aug 20 @ 8:06PM
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I am not sure that the cops or management will do anything because it would be your word against his..........If it was me from now on I would make sure I was parked where people could see it and make it less easier for him to flatten a tire or anything else and I would make sure that I was never alone with him.......if he started walking over me I would join someone else so i had a witness...........now thats the most sensible thing i can come up with
otherwise........catch the mangy bastard and take him out into the woods nail his balls to a tree stump and set the tree stump on fire.........now that may be just a little bit overboard...........just saying......... 
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NightOfOld
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Aug 20 @ 8:06PM
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I would do as juliecd sugested. But still keep a record of everything he does or says whether to you or the others, and if possible get it on tape. Get witnesses
and seek legal action.
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ynot7769
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Aug 20 @ 8:18PM
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document everything and let your management know that there's a problem.... it seems that you have coworkers who have witnessed this guy in action and have even spoken up... rally them together and present your case (and the others that he has harrassed) remember there is strength in numbers... another suggestion is to contact your local domestic violence office, they have professionals that are trained in workplace violence and they may have suggestions and maybe even legal advice if needed............if that don't work........well...lets' just say da' mrs needs WATER....ROAD TRIP 
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sugarnspice005
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Aug 20 @ 8:19PM
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I agree...report his actions to Human Resources, let your boss/supervisor know what he's done. And like Dayna suggested, park your car where it can be seen, and don't let yourself be alone with the creep. Keep a report of every time he bothers you..and if nothing gets done...consider legal action. Just make sure you have witnesses who will back you up.
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sugarnspice005
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Aug 20 @ 8:20PM
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Oh yeah...if all of the above fails.......................................................
catch the mangy bastard and take him out into the woods nail his balls to a tree stump and set the tree stump on fire
Yeah!!! What she said! 
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Sunshine79
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Aug 20 @ 8:35PM
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I'm gonna send my suggestion to you privately.......
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theSkwirl
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Aug 20 @ 9:39PM
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Now see the lighter side of the Skwirl says: Talk to your boss, make sure you tell him/her how freaked out you are over the behavior..
the dark side... well let's just say.. I'd call his wife and tell her I'm pregnant. Or there's always a quarter cup of sugar to help the medicine go down.... but that would likely get YOU into trouble.
In all seriousness, the creep's abusive behavior needs to be dealt with immediately by a higher up. Why has this not been mentioned before?
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theSkwirl
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Aug 20 @ 9:40PM
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Oh and if you get no satisfaction from the Boss.. then call the cops.. toxic workplace can get really messy.
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aftershox
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Aug 20 @ 11:50PM
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Make a big deal out of the fact that "someone" let the air out of your tire. Make sure everyone you talk to knows that someone deliberately let the air out of your tire. Ask rhetorical questions like "Who could have done such a thing?" "I can't believe that someone could be sooo immature!" and laugh. Accuse no one. Dont let his name be uttered. Just shake your head and say something innocently condescending. Everyone will know who did it. You won;t have to say anything.
Ask other people if they had gotten flat tires the same day. Perhaps there is a gang of teenage hoodlums harassing the employees where you work. Make it known that you have taken pictures and documented the incident to prevent those "kids" from doing it again.
Don;t act scared or intimidated in the least. Whenever you see the bastard, simply smile sweetly. Look him in the eye and smile (don;t grin though). Ask him if he has had a flat tire lately. Apologize if he thinks you are accusing him,but keep up the strong eye contact.
Yeah, and document everything. By openly saying you are documenting this incident (as if it were some local teens who did it) you will let him know that his actions will be documented and dealt with. That should be a deterrent.
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Wordsofwit
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Aug 21 @ 5:57AM
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A lot of good ideas but they need to be put in writing. and include the phrase "created a hostile work environment". Demand remedy. Take your time in writing it so that it is clear and factual with dates, times, and the names of witnesses. Be certain it is succinct, clear and logical and doesn't come off as a rambling whine.
Do this via email also and include your personal email as a BCC in the thread. Send it to your boss initially Tell your boss verbally that if the problem is not solved that you will go further up the chain of command (if there is one). Encourage your colleagues to do likewise.
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gotsoe0011
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Aug 21 @ 6:44AM
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Well, whatever you do, alert somebody of authority about the situation.
They may not be able to do anything about it now, as it's just your word against his, but if his actions continue, and soehting major happens later on, the question will be why didn't you report it.
No video cameras anywhere, that would catch him in the act?
In the meantime, don't come across as flustered. He's obviously a bully, and he'll be getting what he set out to do if he gets into your head.
I've got a few other idea....but their really, really mean .
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bandengor
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Aug 21 @ 11:07AM
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If he is doing it to others as well as you then try to get them to go with you to the boss and complain. If it's more than just you doing the complaining, it won't be seen as "his word against yours" kinda of thing. A smart boss will address the problem before it grows bigger. If it does grow bigger then I would suggest actively and openly seeking other employment. This will allow you to see if your employer values you.
It is important not to retaliate in the same manner that he did, flattening his tires, keying his truck etc., you need to make him look like the villain. If he is willing to do that to you, imagine what he would do to his employer if he got fired. Does any employer really want a employee like that? So tell your boss what he did, and then if you can't get the others to stand with you against him (those spineless pricks), then tell your boss that you will be looking for another job. If he fires you on the spot, which is always possible, then maybe it's for the best. I wouldn't want to work for a place like that. There are other jobs.
my advice is only worth what you paid for it. 
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Thenewguy2957
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Aug 21 @ 11:36AM
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Make a big deal out of the fact that "someone" let the air out of your tire. Make sure everyone you talk to knows that someone deliberately let the air out of your tire. Ask rhetorical questions like "Who could have done such a thing?"
I like that.
The guy sounds like he has some issues with his self image and needs to put down other people in order to have self respect.
Depending on how violent you think he might get mentioning his poor self image might be a good retort next time he talks down to someone. If you all start doing it he might just leave.
Be careful, he might be a nut job.
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ynot7769
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Aug 21 @ 8:25PM
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sooo any of these ideas work?? we're just wondering 
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rescueremedy
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Aug 21 @ 10:08PM
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I tried some today ,but will most likely need all to get through this ....
Dayna .... Have a nice tree stump ... 
I told everyone at work i had a flat tire and did anyone else . I also told them i called the cops and i`m to keep everything documented . i blamed it on kids . He was beyond pissed . i talked to my leader and asked him if they had any trouble w/ kids here he said no ,but he asked if i could of run over anything ...... I said no the tire in still full and i was home longer than here and it should of lost some air . He agreed ,later ,i seen him talking that man . He tried staring at me to scare me ....I ignored him . I could tell he was very mad . Will have to see what Monday brings . Thank you all for the advice ...... i think i will need all of it sadly . 
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