I was looking over Scottishtease's blog asking "What are you here for?" My answer could've been simple and concise,but I wanted to have a long-form answer and I didn't want something epic and long to read in the comment section.I'm going to expand on it here..
At first it was just a sexbuddy.We hang out do our thing and go home;but ever since I lost my virginity at 22(shut up),I've had enough of those to last me forever.After my last FWB dissolved after 3 years(in brief,I fell in love;he couldn't-- "cultural constraints" as I put it) I'm shoved right back into "the jungle" again.Yet instead of a sexbuddy I want something more long-term.Yeah,it is because of most of my friends are married/committed now.
So there.
I know its fruitless to seek love from a place like this,but seeing people like PK&Argit,the Y's,Sun&Canu to name a few meeting here and getting hitched/committed, its got me sentimental and all starry-eyed,like awwww,that's so damn romantic..le sigh I'm thinking,hey borderline-misanthropic, jaded ol Luna hopes for love too.
Once again,sometimes I ask why bother? no one's going to read it anyway but I wanted to throw it outhere,since there's more of a chance a blog being read than a profile.Ok.Here it goes,what I think my kinda relationship would be like/what I want..
Goofing off at the 24 hr Wally World at 3am,acting like silly knights/pirates necessary..
Us arguing to the point that it looks stupid and we laugh at how dumb it was..
Him poking holes in my usual shittastic moods;not to say he would take my abuse,no real man would..
Spur of the moment roadtrips(beach,parks,springs) or annual vacations to somewhere in the US..
Morning sex...lunch break sex in the restroom...home from work sex...before dinner sex...
(in that similar vein,him being open-minded and secure in himself that he'd not mind me wanting put him in skirts,etc)..
Us doing the silly-costume thing(well some couples do it)..
I would want to share and teach and vice versa...
Date nights consisting of dvd's from Netflix or Futurama and Simpsons dvds sushi,wine,and homemade popcorn...
Him getting my jokes or quotes from obscure pop-culture or old 80s& 90's movies/music/phenomena.I would say:"Ohh,hey! You remember 'slap bracelets'?" And he would say "Shit yeah man!" The conversation would last all night...
Winter stargazing under a blanket in a field somewhere...
Us going to museums,art shows,pretentious arty movies,seeing local bands...
Him working on something(hopefully artistic) and he asks for my input and vice versa..
Him telling me,"At first I thought you were a bitch,but..."
Unconventionally romantic gestures of love;you know- things that aren't flowers, jewlery,perfume,candy,etc etc
And so on,(not enough room or patient readers),lol
But most of all,this love wouldn't be born of desperation or dysfunctional co-dependency and both of us would be secure in the knowledge that we didn't try too hard to make it work.It just did.Not perfect,but perfect for us.
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DesertSmile
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Jul 20 @ 7:20PM
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OMG Luna how did you manage to describe a realtionship so well. It's perfect and what everyone (well,...those that will admit it) want.
There are no rules where you search for love so even looking here could bring a surprise. Haven't you ever noticed that many of the same people on these so-called adult sites are also sitting over at Match & E-Harmony.
I know your last break-up hurt you deeply and it takes time (cliche I know but it's true) to move on. Wanting to move on is the important thing but please don't let the rest of lifes pleasure pass you by while you are waiting for Mr. Right.
Hugs !!!!!!!!!!!!
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Sunshine79
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Jul 20 @ 7:34PM
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I love it and especially this, I'm always down for this Morning sex...lunch break sex in the restroom...home from work sex...before dinner sex... 
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lunanegra
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Jul 20 @ 7:50PM
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Haven't you ever noticed that many of the same people on these so-called adult sites are also sitting over at Match & E-Harmony.
I noticed that the success rates for short-term hook-ups come from mainstream sites like Match and E-Harmony...go fig that.On the flipside,however,people have successful pairings from adult websites,who'd of known it would be like that? I think its the notion of the "try before you buy" idea on places like this.
Wanting to move on is the important thing but please don't let the rest of lifes pleasure pass you by while you are waiting for Mr. Right.
Ah no. I'm not going to close myself off to fun in the meantime.
Sun79,I think this is why I want to be in a relationship.You can't beat a man on-call living under the same roof,I mean the dick is right there for easy access,lol 
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StraddleMyNose
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Jul 20 @ 9:26PM
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seeing people like PK&Argit,the Y's,Sun&Canu to name a few meeting here and getting hitched/committed,
Yeah, this place made it possible for these three couples. 
Hang in there, this site will work for you as well.
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lunanegra
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Jul 20 @ 10:08PM
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Yeah, this place made it possible for these three couples
Well don't forget yourself and Kim;also Casually and Griz,too and probably lots more.. 
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needsomenow83
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Jul 21 @ 2:55AM
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You tapped into [exactly] why I'm silent. heh, so much "gold" going on inside, yet............ silent.
Profile: silent.
Essay: silent.
no......... it's not because I'm a freak, or a predator, or any semblance of the like.
All you've got to do, is peer into the things I've said. There is a heart unlike anything ever encountered. The deeper I think about loves vapors, the more hopefully depressed I get.
I too, have been the "if only" kid.
"......... if you were just such-n-such years older/younger, I'd be interested"
"...... if you were only (a culture other than the one I happened to open up my eyes as) I'd be all over you.
if only, if only, if only.
of course, someone can easily say, well......... eff 'em. Their loss.
.......... but is it ?
.........is it really
There are entirely too many ideas for romance and things I desire to give while in love and have recieved in love (notice the way it's worded) that i just started writing. Part of me feels futile in the pages and pages and pages and pages of muse and writings, and quotes, and thoughts and poems I've written. (run-on sentence for desired effect)
I can't quit. As much as it seems befitting to take a knee and concede that people are just out to satiate their corroded impulses, stopping not to consider their blows will find them out. There's warrior blood in my veins.
It's out there.
She's out there.
Ironically enough, .......... probably confused about the same things as I am.
*shrugs*
Carry on. What do I know ? 
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mrknowuwell
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Jul 21 @ 9:41AM
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i came here thinkin i could get my parkin ticket validated
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BritnBrat
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Jul 21 @ 12:19PM
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i came here thinkin i could get my parkin ticket validated  Good one!
I only came here looking for people to hook up with for sex, what I found was a wife (yep Princesskissy and Argit01 are now officially married). Who knows what will happen but I do know that I have seen people hook up only to fall apart again, the fact that Sunny & Canu and the Ynot's have lasted is because they made the comittment to do so. PK an I almost didn't make it but I held onto the belief that she loved me as much as I do her. We both made sacrifices and although our journey to be together is not yet over we both move forward knowing that we grow stronger in our resolve with every passing day.
To sum up we are both strong minded (make that bloody minded) and stubborn!
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lunanegra
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Jul 21 @ 2:59PM
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Carry on. What do I know ?
You know more than you think you know.You're a pretty wise person.I think the thing about love is,we have to sit and abide,never try to seek so hard..pfft,if it were only that easy.
i came here thinkin i could get my parkin ticket validated
So this is where they do that? Cool.
I only came here looking for people to hook up with for sex, what I found was a wife (yep Princesskissy and Argit01 are now officially married).
Mazeltov! I like that people still have dedication towards eachother.Sometimes we say that were here for only hook ups,but we end up getting just what we needed all along. :)
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TheBlkSiren
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Jul 22 @ 11:37PM
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Ahhh, LunaNegra! Don't give up hope on finding love off adult sites. I've had marriage proposals and guys wanting to me to be the mother of their future kids (I know, quite a compliment...huh?) from adult sites. All said they only wanted a "friends with benefits" type of arrangement in their profiles. But what I realized is there are great guys out there who are just lonely as hell and tired of hiding behind their bravado and hard cocks. Since I wasn't emotionally open to a LTR (hell, not even a STR), I ended things pretty quickly. But they are out there...just keep your eyes open. He'll come along before long.
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