i have met a very beautiful man.  i met him about a month ago and we work together so i get to see him just about every day. the job we do is outdoors so he's usually in a t-shirt and shorts, but a couple of times a week we swim in the pool, so he shows off that beautiful "soccer-player" body.  everytime he passes me by he not only says hello in that handsome voice, but he makes direct eye contact and touches me in some way, either a high five, a pat on the shoulder, or a quicky hug. 
the other night a big group from work were going out for some fun. i didn't know if he would be there or not, but just in case i wanted to look pretty. it was my chance to let him see me in something that was more femine than our t-shirt and shorts uniform at our job. we're outside all day so my hair is always in a pony tail and i don't wear makeup because it melts off. so now was my chance to let him see that i can be pretty.
we all met up at a local pub and he wasn't there. then, about an hour later, he showed up!  i was getting a little nervous, but i was happy to see he was there. he came in with 2 other guys and 3 other girls. then....i saw it....he was holding hands with this blonde woman. my hopes crashed to the floor.  he came over, said hello to our entire group (of 20 people) but placed his hand on my shoulder and gave a little squeeze saying hello to me by name. i'm so confused. is he flirting or does he just pick a female friend to touch and stuff? 
so, he didn't opt to sit at the other end of the row of tables where there were two seats available for him and (eh hem) her. no, instead he pulled up a chair for her and he sat across from me. yes, our feet bumped each other a few times  and there were no "excuse me" exchanges, however, it wasn't exactly playing footsies either.
the girl he was with looked pretty from a distance, but when she sat down closer to me, she wasn't as pretty as i thought. however, she had a great personality so it was impossible to not like her for her  ...i just don't like her cause she has him.
the next day at work, he talked with me several times touching my hand or shoulder on several occassions and joking around with me a lot. i'm totally confused what to do with this now.  before the other night i would've sworn he was flirting with me, but now, i'm not sure. i don't see him treat other women at work like this, so is it special or a buddy-buddy thing? 
uuuuggggggghhhhhhh 
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missweet
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Jul 11 @ 7:56PM
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He is just a friendly touchy guy. If he wasn't with her he might end up flirting more with you because he likes you but right now I would just take it as he is being nice.
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wtxman
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Jul 11 @ 7:57PM
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Just have a heart to heart talk with him. I am a very flirty guy,and it has occasionally been misinterpreted, however I am very carefull at work about that because a misunderstanding in that respect could have dire consequences regarding your employment.
Of course you don't like the other woman,thats just natural; but as no bearing on you problem.
Larry AKA Ann Landers 
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lilmanintheboat
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Jul 11 @ 8:04PM
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Leave it alone. Enjoy that you have the time with each other and be the person you have alwys been. If he has thought of you in a way that was more than work buddies he would have said something. Enjoy the crush, it makes work more fun. If you are true to yourself, kind to others, and a nice gal...all will fall into place. You don't scare him, he has nothing to hide, and hey...maybe they will break up and you will be in the right place at the right time. Relax and enjoy.
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LoverWantedNow
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Jul 11 @ 8:21PM
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lilman,
i know it's selfish but that's what i'm hoping for but at the same time, i don't want him to get hurt by that. hope that makes sense.
a bunch of us are suppose to go out this weekend for drinks and dancing, so we'll see if he shows up. 
thanks to all of the comments so far.
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lilmanintheboat
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Jul 11 @ 8:53PM
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Don't wait for "it" to happen, you might miss what is right under your nose!
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straightup_9
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Jul 12 @ 10:10AM
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Yes, he is flirting with you....
Yes, he wants your body......
Try inviting him over on some "lame" excuse and see what happens...Try asking ...."The light bulb in my closet burned out, could you come over tonight after work, and help me change it?"....
Don't forget to smile, seductively, when you say it.....
...and all will be revealed...... 
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Thenewguy2957
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Jul 12 @ 11:45AM
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I wouldn't go too far and cross any lines just yet, remember if he shoots you down you still have to work together. What is his involvement with this other girl, long term, just met, engaged, etc?
Just get to know him, maybe become a friend and become part of his circle and in time an opportunity may present itself. If not maybe he has a 'friend' you'd like.
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LoverWantedNow
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Jul 13 @ 12:18AM
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i don't know how long they've been together but it seems like it's been a while just from how they act around each other. she's not shy about comments she makes to him like 'that's not a good dinner after a soccer game' (talking about him eating french fries), yet they're not lovey-dovey either. the whole time they were there they were sitting next to each other but he was focused on talking to the group (me included). they didn't hold hands or even seem to really touch until they left. then he had his arm around her.
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LoverWantedNow
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Jul 14 @ 6:38PM
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okay....today my heart was beating so fast that i thought i was gonna have a heart attack. 
a bunch of people were goofing off at work (we happen to work in a field that let's us goof off and be silly). someone was trying to toss water on him and he ran up behind me (because i don't like to get wet...with water that is  ) and wrapped his arms around the front of me ...for umm, er, uh protection...yeah, protection. 
oh my stars did he smell yummy! wow! of course i reached up and kinds held his arms there as though i was being his protector...which i kinda was.  he kept talking in my ear...nothing sexy or anything,  but just his voice melts me anyway and added to the sensitivity of my ears....oh man! maybe i should've let them splash me with water after all the hot and botheredness he put me in.
i'm dying here!!!!! please..someone wake me up or shoot the girlfriend! haha
p.s. i'm just kidding about shooting the girlfriend. 
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LoverWantedNow
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Jul 18 @ 9:02PM
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today was an awesome day at work! the temperature is pretty warm here right now so we do a lot of activities with water. bryan was in control of the water hose. i was his target of choice because no matter how hard i tried to get past him without getting shot at he still got me. he tended to aim at either my chest or my butt. good thing i wasn't wearing a white blouse.
anyway, this afternoon i was able to catch a glimpse of bryan while he was in the pool. he was playing with the kids showing off that beautiful smile. he saw me through the window and motioned for me to come into the pool area. he climed out of the water as i entered the pool area. my jaw about dropped to the floor as i saw that body. his tight, well formed six pack, rock hard chest, and beautiful biceps.  i'm not kidding either....he has a rockin body. so anyway, he walked up to me and asked if i was mad cause he'd sprayed me with the hose earlier. of course i said no. he said "good." then picked me up and jumped into the water with me! 
nothing like soggy jeans....again!! bryan was laughing up a storm. as i climbed out of the water he walked up beside me and invited me to a gathering tonight at his house. i sure his g/f will be there but i don't care. i'm going for the fun?? right?? hahaha just joking.
i'll have to update how things went. well, i'm off to get ready.
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