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It is not a lifestyle it is who I am and who I want and must be.
What I find a shame is that "some" people will ridicule someone for this statement because they do not understand it..nor do they want to try to understand or accept the person. People are so quick to judge and condemn others because they may seem to be different...But how many of those people are not who they truly appear to be..and I don't mean appearance wise..I mean people who pretend to be a friend but talk about the person behind their back... people who pretend to be honest or sincere but will lie or even steal at any given opportunity......people who hide their feelings about others, yet snicker or laugh, due to sexuality, color, race, social status, outward appearance or even financial standing.
So many time people don't accept others who are.... overweight...who have different religious beliefs...who have different viewpoints..who may look different than most people, by choice or not...who have different sexual preferences...who have a physical or even mental handicap..who are poor..and many other things...Unfortunately,.the list could go on and on..
I believe that If I want to be accepted, I have to accept...If I don't want to be judged, I can not judge...and If I want someone to overlook things I have done in my life that I am not exactly proud of, I must allow the same courtesy to others..
If someone is a nice person, I will be nice in return......If they are not a nice person, I may not be overly nice to them..BUT, I will still remember that I am an adult and only I can control my actions or reactions to them..
But I'm also not perfect and I have been known to bite back when provoked. Or someone I care about has been unfairly attacked.
However, I usually do not feel the need to stoop to someones level just to prove I'm a better person. I know the person I am.
I have done a lot of things in my life I am not exactly proud of..I have been a person that I didn't exactly like much. I worked hard to change those things in me and my life...I like who I am now and I know who I want to be in the future.
Whether others accept me for who I am or not.....I am, and will always remain, true to myself.and those in my life.
The quote I used at the beginning was taken..with permission..from a post on another blog. I applaude the woman that wrote the comment. I completely agree with her.. Being true to who you are is not a lifestyle but a must if you want to be truly you and be truly happy..
I'm glad I learned that lesson in life..while I can still put it to good use.
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wtxman
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Jun 30 @ 5:37PM
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Its hard to add anything to this except: 
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Ewe_Wish
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Jun 30 @ 6:17PM
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Treas...........Great Blog......You already know my feelings on do unto others as you would have them do unto you............but in all reality although I do try to practise that concept I dont always manage it.........I am human I make mistakes.........if I was perfect I would be walking on water. To do that for me, is being honest with myself........If i really want ppl to accept me as me, than I need to do the same for them............now even in that respect I dont have to like them and they dont have to be "good" people............just have to accept them for who they are............the good, the bad........and in some cases the ugly (personality) but I have no control over how other people are only myself..........
A kudo for you 
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1bunny629
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Jun 30 @ 6:23PM
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Normal...is a social stigma...who wants to belong? It is a group of people who sick together who as they see it appear normal...sad.
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rescueremedy
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Jun 30 @ 7:06PM
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Great Blog ... CL 
Like Dayna ... I try ....,but am only human ...
I do try to make someone`s day.. by a smile ...a kind word ....or make them laugh ....
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whisperingcomet
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Jun 30 @ 8:21PM
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Wow CL, you really knocked this one out of the ballpark....great blog.
I, too, try....and many times suceed....and sometimes, I fail too 
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sugarnspice005
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Jun 30 @ 8:24PM
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Great blog. So much truth to it.
I know if I want to be treated with respect...I'm going to show respect. If someone wants to be a jerk...I TRY to ignore them. Not always successful, but, I try. 
I'm gonna give you one of my cherished kudos...better appreciate it.  
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clickedanad2
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Jun 30 @ 8:56PM
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Is "Do Unto Others" an outdated concept? no
and
yes
more often than not - reciprocity is the norm
you respond to a positive with a positive
a negative with a negative
me - I don't give a fuck how you respond
you're gettin' a smile and a kind word or a thank you
whether you want it or not
and then I'm on my way
droppin' a greenie as I go
even though you made me think
which hurts
ya know ? ? ?
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31sunshine
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Jun 30 @ 9:30PM
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It's ironic you write about this as I have recently re-learned this valuable lesson. I had a friend stab me in the back and then have the balls to try and tell me it was my fault she has no integrity.
I believe we've all done things in our lifetime we aren't exactly proud of or wish we could do over. But I also accept that I am human and I make mistakes. And I'm woman enough to admit my mistakes and ask for forgiveness and make amends.
My fault in what happened is I tried to stay out of the fire, to not make judgements of her actions and be a neutral party. And in doing so I ended up being the one to take the brunt of 3 peoples actions. So, as much as I detest confrontation I'm making a promise to myself next time I'm in a situation like this to confront it head on rather than sit and wait. It never works, or maybe it's trying to be a neutral party that didn't work, I don't know I'm too tired to figure it out at this moment.
But I say what I mean and mean what I say. You don't have to second guess what I'm saying to you. It's often people come to me to hear the bottom line because I'll give it to them without all the bullshit.
And at the end of the day, I go to bed at night with a light heart, because I'm true to myself, true to my beliefs and I can't ask more than that.
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LilGriz
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Jun 30 @ 9:58PM
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Way to go Trease, and a big green thingy for you 
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BananaBoy4u
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Jun 30 @ 11:21PM
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Or there's always the AMD way.....
Do unto others as they have done unto you, then split.
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swyeter
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Jul 1 @ 12:50AM
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Thoughtful blog CL; I have never had a problem accepting individuals for what they are but I must admit I sometimes have difficulty dealing with the presumptuous ones who try and be something they aren’t. We are what we are and sometimes that includes things we cannot change but I believe it is better that you be yourself and to your own self be true.
I do subscribe to the “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” but sometimes it is better to “do unto others as they would like you to do unto them”. We forget that others are not like us and may not want us to treat them as we would treat ourselves or want people to treat us. Simple analogy, I am a beef and pork person but would not serve beef to a Hindu or pork to a Muslim. That is why I try not to assume but get to know the person as an individual because we are individuals and as such different; one size does not always fit all.
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ladybootscooter
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Jul 1 @ 9:14AM
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Or there's always the AMD way.....
Do unto others as they have done unto you, then split
Damn fine point there!! Acceptance of others that are different from me? Easy. Having those in your life still accept you when you're different from them? Doesn't always happen. Good blog Treas! Shiny green bloggy thingy to ya!
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Lisa46
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Jul 1 @ 10:02AM
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Way to go Trease, and a big green thingy for you
I'll give ya a greenie also but darn Griz is that all you got for her?? 
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StraddleMyNose
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Jul 1 @ 3:22PM
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Just noticed that Dayna is no longer here. What and when did this happen? 
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