OK, I've been at my job a year now. I've met a few people here and there that catch my eye. One I've fooled around with on occasion. No actual sex. But, there are 2 other potential people. Is it ok to go past flirting with eachother? Should you draw the line there? Or is it ok to pursue eachother outside the workplace with the understanding that that's as far as it goes and it's a secret?  Does it matter if they are married? Is it better that they are at another branch or store so you don't have to face them everyday?  End all question, is it ok to have a work romance?
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rnj1013
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Jun 28 @ 8:49PM
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NEVER dip your pen in company ink 
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Sunshine79
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Jun 28 @ 8:54PM
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NEVER dip your pen in company ink
Cute!  ............ ............ ..........
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MsHelle
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Jun 28 @ 8:55PM
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As my dear old Pop used to say - You Don't Get Your Meat Where You Get Your Bread!!
Believe me, it never works and on the rare occasion it does, it's only for a short period of time before insecurity/jealousy sets in and ruins a slightly good thing.
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1bunny629
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Jun 28 @ 9:00PM
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It's hard enough to find someone to have sex with that won't go Nutty on you...do you work at a peanut factory? HA! Lets just say your adding fuel to the fire if you go there! 
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ThePurpleProphet
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Jun 28 @ 9:06PM
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It depends on how descreet you are.
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mcroxton
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Jun 28 @ 9:12PM
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I had an ex-girlfriend who I used to work with. We only got to know each other because we worked with each other - and she was SMOKIN' HOT! But she was separated at the time, and that kinda made things even more complicated. But I couldn't resist. I eventually quit working there, but still kept seeing her, which was better. Anyhow, it was like a bright flame that burned quick...
There was this HOT MILF at my old work who used to flirt with me a bit... I've sometimes wondered how far it would have gone, if I really wanted it to - but I didn't because she was married.
I think the more distance (within the company) between you and your love/sex interest, the better. But I guess in all reality, as rnj103 said, one shouldn't dip one's pen in company ink... although I must admit it can be hard not to do.
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clickedanad2
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Jun 28 @ 9:12PM
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I vote
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Detach
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Jun 28 @ 9:22PM
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Sunshine- I am currently wondering the same thing. I had a rather huge woman working security at my place of work. She was definitely interested in me, but she never really turned me on.
Another co-worker mentioned that a particularly attractive woman may be interested in me. I made a crack about mayby asking her out on behalf of the co-worker and she laughed. Nothing built on that since that comment.
And now I've been on my job for a year. A new hire seems to be interested in me (either as a partner, or her gay friend, I'm not sure yet). But I've started pondering the same thing you are currently mulling over.
Sure it would probably be wise to just remain co-workers, but man is the temptation ever so strong.
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Ewe_Wish
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Jun 28 @ 9:31PM
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I don't know M.........it would be great if it was kept a secret but rarely is a secret kept........and if they have more feelings than you do..........well that wouldn't be pretty...............and another thing with the sexual harrassment laws that there is they dont have to be your supervisor or you theirs to get yourself in a lawsuiit. I know I wouldnt do it......
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1bunny629
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Jun 28 @ 9:33PM
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HUH? Go figure...Gay friend HUH?
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LadieDarkStarr
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Jun 28 @ 9:46PM
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nothing... EVER... stays a secret. EVER.
Not worth the possible complications on the job. Especially if it's just sex.
If a romance began to blossom and there were serious possibilities that there could be "true" love... quit and THEN go for it... but in the current situation, no good can come of it.
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scotsavant
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Jun 28 @ 10:02PM
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getting fucked by someone you work with could end up with you getting fucked at work...
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Sunshine79
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Jun 28 @ 10:08PM
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getting fucked by someone you work with could end up with you getting fucked at work...
That sounds kinda hot!! 
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SxzeNewMe
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Jun 28 @ 10:19PM
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I think it depends on who it is and what kind of work relationship it is. If you work for a larger organization and don't work directly with the person, I don't see the big deal at all; but in a smaller place it might be more problematic. Sure, bosses/subordinates are a definite no-no, but general co-workers - what's the problem? I guess I figure people will be mature about things and move on if things don't work out; I can think of hairier situations - like dating your friend's sibling...or ex.
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BananaBoy4u
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Jun 28 @ 11:10PM
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NEVER dip your pen in company ink You Don't Get Your Meat Where You Get Your Bread Both right and another:
"Don't fish off the company pier"
the understanding that that's as far as it goes and it's a secret? It's only a secret if one person knows. If there are 2 of you, it's no longer a secret.
Flirting's OK but no sex
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alybai42
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Jun 29 @ 1:46AM
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I have this policy not to date anyone I work with..Now tonight I did meet a guy I work with at the bar next door to have a beer..But we are just friend's and co-worker's nothing else..He did tell me that he told someone that we work with that he had a date with me tonight. I said don't go around telling people that it will be all over work by tomorrow morning.. 
It was not a date..Just meeting to have a beer..There is a difference and I am not interested in him that way.
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Wordsofwit
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Jun 29 @ 4:31AM
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I am with the majority on suggesting it is not wise. How bad do you need that job? If you working at Burger King, who cares. But if you may potentially be there for a while, maybe with career aspirations, then calculate your priorities. Nothing is worse than a relationship unravelling at the workplace.
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jcarolina
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Jun 29 @ 7:39AM
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If more than one person knows it, it's not a secret.
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aftershox
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Jun 29 @ 7:48AM
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getting fucked by someone you work with could end up with you getting fucked at work...
That sounds kinda hot!!
Yanno,, there are these conference rooms at work with long board room type tables that are just begging to be used for fucking. But I also know that there are hidden security cameras, so I could never bring anyone in after hours to play out that fantasy.
Actually doing it at work is a great fantasy. So is actually fucking someone you know from work. And some fantasies should never be acted on.
Never tell one of your coworkers about work-related fantasies either...
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Sunshine79
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Jun 29 @ 9:10AM
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See, going out for a beer with a co-worker can' bee seen as a date. I've gone out before with lot's of men co-workers for beers and it always is the talk of the office on Mondays.....Someone one else has to take it one more level and talk like we might as well been fucking!!
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paulywalnuts
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Jun 29 @ 10:12AM
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 Do Not S--T in your own back yard
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slohand_47
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Jun 29 @ 10:25AM
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If this person is in a position of authority above you.......
If you are in a position of authority above them........
If they are married.........
Absolutely not.
A co-worker of equal status....... proceed with caution.
Keep in mind....... the work place is for work. Confine your dating activities to outside the workplace. No quickies in the empty boardroom. They might have security cameras.
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aftershox
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Jun 29 @ 11:15AM
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Now I am not gonna get any work done next week, Gonna be thinking about fucking on one of those conference room tables.
I will walk in , sensuously touch the table and walk out with a smile on my face no one will understand..pussy dripping, tingling.. mmmm
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SxzeNewMe
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Jun 29 @ 11:37AM
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I will walk in , sensuously touch the table and walk out with a smile on my face no one will understand..pussy dripping, tingling.. mmmm
If there's a videotape in that room could you please forward a copy of that sexy move so we can all enjoy the moment!!!
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alybai42
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Jun 29 @ 12:26PM
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See, going out for a beer with a co-worker can' bee seen as a date. I've gone out before with lot's of men co-workers for beers and it always is the talk of the office on Mondays.....Someone one else has to take it one more level and talk like we might as well been fucking!!
Gossip will be always be in the work place..But if you know the truth that is all that matter's..I keep away from the drama at work and the gossip. This one I went with is just a friend. No one I would consider dating even if we didn't work together.
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