This morning I was sitting here thinking.........yes it gave me a headache but I continued anyways...  and was thinking about honesty........I am on a couple other sites........  .one I do nothing much more than blog once in a while and play in the arcade........the other is too meet new people.......both men and women in my area to make some friends........and I saw a lot of profiles demanding honesty in thier search for any kind of relationship they are seeking....I have seen that many times on here also.
I can remember a time when honesty didn't need to be requested.....it just happened. Maybe I was raised in a Utopia community but I remember when everyone just told the truth. I remember once when my father bought a 5 gal can of gas for the tractor and it was sitting in the yard when a neighbor stopped by.....when the neighbor left my dad went to put the gas in the tractor and the can was empty. The next evening the neighbor stopped by again and when he didn't immediately come to the house my father yelled out at him he might as well come up to the house there wasn't gas in the can today and the neighbor came to the house and had coffee. Now it wasn't too honest to take the gas but I always found it interesting he didn't deny stealing the gas either.......that same man came to our house everyday of my fathers 18 month battle with cancer just to visit him. He was also a pallbear at my fathers funeral and later often told the story of how he stole the gas and and how my father called him on it.
Now I realize that most tell little white lies.........probably to save someones feelings from getting hurt..........No really that dress looks great on you.......I have to work so I can't babysit your 14 children and 3 dogs for a week while you vacation in the Bahamas.........simple little things but when did people start feeling that they had to make up such grand stories to impress people and make people like them..........No really I climbed Mt.Everest last year 4 times.......No really I use to race Nascar until Dale Earnhart was killed and than I quit...........No really, I use to work for the Secret Service and was one of the ones with Reagan when his assasination attempt was made...............Ok most of us wouldn't really believe those unless there was some kind of proof but how about the little lies people say to make others like them better.......they lie about their age........they lie about the marital status........they lie about things that can change the direction of the friendship or whatever type of relationship they are seeking.........one of them I hate the worse is the I am a veteran..........as some of you know I am one of the biggest defenders and advocates of veterans...........so when someone says they are a veteran and they are not.........it wouldn't matter how much i liked them previously........I would walk away from them.
I sometimes wonder if people lie about who they are because they lack self love....perhaps if they loved themselves enough they wouldn't feel they had to put on a persona to get others to like them. They would be confident in who they are so they would be honest with everyone else about who they are.
I have heard how some blame the internet for people lying about who they are. Yes I imagine its easier for them to set in the privacy of their own home and weave all these stories to impress people........but yet what would be the point? If a person wants to really meet someone.........I would imagine the lies told would be found out real easy............maybe the dishonesty of people came with the "keeping up with the jones" attitude that hit this nation many years ago.......everyone wants to be better than everyone else instead of being happy with who they are.........
Personally for me........I have at times allowed little lies to slip by.......making excuses for those who told them.........but in time I found that those little lies were just the start for bigger lies..........Why the hell lie? If a person is going to like you they are going to like you..........if they are not going to like you they are not going to.........telling lies to get them to like you won't work because in the end they don't even know the real you.
Ok I have rambled enough this morning..........honestly. 
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girlcountry
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Jun 7 @ 10:56AM
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I agree!! Personally, I never could tell a lie and get away with it, Daddy always said that my face was a dead give away...and even on here, I can't lie because I feel so guilty! I will probably never meet these people in real life, but I still can't lie!!
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Lisa46
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Jun 7 @ 11:03AM
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aw Hell EWE know me! I say it how it is  ........honest 
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1bunny629
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Jun 7 @ 11:14AM
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I remember when we didn't congratulate or thank someone for being honest. We were taught to be honest, and there was no excuse not to be. Nice Blog...thanks for sharing!
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j3411
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Jun 7 @ 12:01PM
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I think even before the age of computers people might have stretched the truth a bit on who they really were. In those days though we were all limited to pretty much meeting people who we would surly see again around town so the "lies" couldn't be too out there because they were easily found out.
With the Internet it is I believe allot easier for people to go way out there on who they want people to see them as. I also believe that no-one is totally honest. ( the movie Liar Liar was a good example of that) Allot of people ( myself included) are more from the need to know school. Guilt by omission. We slant behaviors in hopes of showing ourselves in the best possible light. Sometimes it's in the hope that if someone were to take the time and really get to know us, those omissions wouldn't be an issue.
Good blog, with lots to open up dialect.
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sumdaysoon
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Jun 7 @ 12:33PM
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if ya don't want to know the truth........ya better not ask me anything....... 
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straightup_9
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Jun 7 @ 1:05PM
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I agree...... 
so when someone says they are a veteran and they are not Most real Vets.....won't tell you. 
If a person wants to really meet someone
Most people have absolutely no intention of meeting anyone....so they feel safe in their lies......just sayin' 
Good blog, hun.....Have a greenie
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rescueremedy
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Jun 7 @ 1:16PM
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Lisa ... aw Hell EWE know me! I say it how it is ........honest That last bit you said ..... you have me scared ... youv`e said some things to me ... that i hope were a joke .... now i`m not soooo sure and you are going to make me cry ...  
Dayna ...good blog ... honesty should not have to be asked for ,but expected .
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shyone_4u699
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Jun 7 @ 1:46PM
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Ewe Wish......Very Good Points, All. My Dad had a saying. "If they'll lie, they'll steal." I donno if that's a stretch, but he believed it. Anyway, Good Blog!!
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REAL_UNIQUE
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Jun 7 @ 2:15PM
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Honesty just seems rare these days. I have observed lies by people in the real world. I wonder if some people can tell the truth or do they always lie. Self love is probably an issue for many. I guess people are afraid to show their realness.
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manwithoutahorse
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Jun 7 @ 2:39PM
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Straight is right. Many people online have no intention of ever meeting the peoploe they communicate with. Particularly the scammers. Anonymity can be very empowering and reduces inhibitions.
Remember the words of those two great philosphers (I can't believe I'm going to use these two names in the same paragraph.)
Ronald Reagan said, "Trust, but verify". And Brad Paisly wrote, "I'm so much cooler online".
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ThePurpleProphet
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Jun 7 @ 3:21PM
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I figure there is no point in lying, if a person wants to find out the truth nowadays then they can.
If a person claims to have been in the military just ask for their DD-214. These are the discharge papers. Most veterns have a stack of papers in a box stuffed away in the attic or closet.
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StraddleMyNose
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Jun 7 @ 8:57PM
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No point lying, especially if you're going to meet that person. Everything is laid out once you meet in most cases...
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casuallylooking
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Jun 8 @ 5:37AM
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I have started an answer to this 5 different times and I still don't know what to say...A liar is a liar...anyone who knows me at all knows I have no use for them.
But to lie about something like being a vet...That is sad and completely pitiful..Not in an aww, poor you, pitiful..But in a You need serious mental help pitiful and are a sad excuse for a human being, sad.
Just my nickels worth for the day!!
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loveableone
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Jun 8 @ 9:19AM
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I think its best for people to stay away from lies - then you dont have to remember what you said later. Honesty truly is the best policy!
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ynot7769
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Jun 8 @ 10:07AM
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well ya know me....if ya ask i'm gonna tell ya straight up how i feel..........besides......how can I LIE.........my memory sucks!!
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juliecd
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Jun 8 @ 11:31PM
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I am searching for friends of both sexes,but I would love a LTR
with a man. I am totally honest in my profile.
Julie Lynne
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RedRose507
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Jun 21 @ 3:35PM
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I totally agree with you.. Being honest is always the best.. I have come across alot of people that aren't honest..or they show a picture of someone else claiming to be them.. and later you find the same picture on a models website.. Have a great weekend everyone!
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