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posted 5/7/2008 8:00:28 AM |
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For many years I have often said I have the very best friends that God could have ever given anyone..I don't know exactly what it is that I do to deserve them, but I sure hope I do it the rest of my life..
For many years I have also said I believe in true love...for other people..just never again in my life. I've been lucky enough to truly love and be loved.. I just wasn't smart enough to appreciate or except it for what it was at that time.

And the truth of the matter is, I guess I didn't feel I deserved love again.. I haven't always been a really good person, and I was scared that if that someone really knew me, they couldn't really love me..
Sometimes in life, you learn to be thankful for the times you are wrong..

I thought that IF by chance I ever found someone that I wanted to possibly date, ( I thought of the idea of FWB, but that just isn't me) I would want that person to be within a close distance, maybe an hour or two from me.. Makes sense, right? And it's not like there weren't plenty of offers within that range. But my favorite term seemed to be, No thank you.

I had slowly over months become friends with someone, on this site, over 600 miles away, but it was ...just friends. We were so different, didn't seem to have a whole lot in common, but he was still interesting and I very much enjoyed emailing with him. There was so much distance between us,I even used the term "safe" for his and my friendship. I mean come on, he lives in Minnesota for crying out loud.It was like a miillion miles from me.. What can happen with him that far from here? (famous last words) Those who do know me, know I don't open up easily, I keep a very private side to myself..I said/emailed things to him that I surely wouldn't tell someone I was ever going to meet...No, not those things. .. well okay, maybe a few.. A friend told me that she thought I really liked him and I said well yea, as a friend. He's a really nice guy,why wouldn't I? And he was fun to flirt with from a distance with no repercussions. (More famous last words..lol)

At one point early last winter he was going through some stuff and I gave him my cell # and told him something like if he needed a friend or someone to just listen give me a call. He never called. Well, even if I did ever decide that I might be interested in him it was very obvious he wasn't in me. So it was never mentioned and we just continued emailing. Learning more about each other everyday.
I sent out Christmas cards one day and told him I would have added him to my list If I had his address. OMGosh, he sent it to me. I sent him a card. I got one back!! OMGosh, again!! lol But hey, friends do this sort of thing all the time.
I realized my heart skipped a beat when I finally saw it was from him.. The writing was sooo tiny I honestly have to give the post office credit for reading that one and getting it here... lmao .
He still never called. THEN, we had kind of a disagreement and I didn't think we could ever continue being friends.But I wasn't ready to give up, not real sure why, but something inside said not to. I've always went with my instincts, so I didn't. We both just seemed to give each other a little time and space.Then little by little we were coming back to being us and my cell rang on Valentines Day.
Now, ironically, the night before I had gotten a new one and didn't have any #'s programmed yet, so I didn't pay any attention to the caller ID. Otherwise I wouldn't have answered it. IT was HIM..OMGosh!! I literally could Not talk. I mean seriously, no words would come out for what seemed like 10 minutes..I just kept tripping over syllables trying to get just any word in the English dictionary to come out of my mouth. I finally did it, the hardest word to remember at a time like that..Hi. Now that he must have been thinking I was a complete and utter moron. The call was very brief, he wanted to wish me a Happy Valentine's Day in person, not email. It sure was now! What was I thinking? Friends did this all the time too. Why was I so excited? This made no sense. I kept telling myself, Just friends, Teresa, you are Just friends..

To shorten this story..about time, huh? lol
We kept emailing, started texting and talking on the phone every night for many hours and decided to meet, as friends of course. Then we both realized there was more than just friendship.We seriously discussed at great length all the reasons we could not be more than just friends. For hours. And it all made sense. Just neither of our hearts would listen.
We did meet, and it was 3 of the most wonderful days of my life. It was electrifying yet extremly comfortable. I was nervous yet at ease in his arms. And we both discovered a love we neither one ever expected to happen.


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casuallylooking

May 7 @ 8:04AM  
At least for now, it's long distance and let me tell you, it's one of the most difficult things I have ever done. And I have Never taken the easy route. But as soon as I hear his voice it's all worth it.
Would I do it all over knowing where it would lead and how much I miss him as soon as I hang up the phone? I honestly don't know..Probably. ..Yes, I would. Even if this would all end today, as badly as it would hurt, I could honestly say it was worth it.
Can we get through this and make it last? There are no guarantees in life, but Dear God, I hope so. We just fit...You know what I mean?

Why am I writing all of this..I'm not real sure other than I read funnygirls blog and was kind of surprised how many people--on a sex site--said love over sex. So, don't give up, it really can happen. Although it's an easy thing to do, don't box yourself in with too many limitations. But don't beat yourself up thinking you have to find love. It will find you, when it's time for it to happen. Evidently when most of us least expect it. And don't ever think someone can't love you.
Sometimes we find what we never really knew we were looking for.
And sometimes we have to trip over it to realize we've actually found it...luckily for me, he caught me when I tripped...and he's holding on.
max49

May 7 @ 8:20AM  
WHAT THE!!! You mean it wasn't me you fell in love with. I'm crushed!!! Seriously sweetheart I couldn't be happier for you. I hope everything works out for the both of you. Love is an amazing thing and it sounds as if you have found it. Congratulations and all the luck in the world for both of you. I truely couldn't be happier for you.
str8ngr84u2

May 7 @ 8:33AM  
Awwww, that is the sweetest love story!!! Good for you dear!
alybai42

May 7 @ 8:35AM  
I am happy for you..He seems like a super sweet man...Of course I have only talked to him online..

I say you move to MN also..You, Dayna, Me..and another man I know what lives here and is from MN is going back also..
SexPet

May 7 @ 8:54AM  


Love is Grand

So happy for you, Trease !!!!!!

Thanks for sharing your story
loveableone

May 7 @ 9:02AM  
You already know I am excstatic for the both of you and wish you all the best!! The distance thing is difficult, but if you really want it, it will happen!! Big hugs and stay happy!!
soft_touch938

May 7 @ 9:26AM  
It warms my heart to hear stories like this. I can't imagine long distance love...I don't know that I'd have the patience to endure all it takes to be apart. I wish you both all the happiness in the world...won't you have to change your username now???
Lisa46

May 7 @ 11:15AM  
If I didn't like you so much I would be jealous or is that envious? Seriously honey your worth it and ummm he better be good to you or I'll hurt him for ya!
casuallylooking

May 7 @ 11:38AM  
Lisa, he is extremely good to me... He is one of the most wonderful men I have ever met.... so we'll pass on the hurting him part..Okay? ..lol

won't you have to change your username now???
Good point, Softie...lol Not that most bother to read profiles, but mine clearly states that I am no longer looking. Casually or otherwise.

I evidently was not thinking when I wrote this blog..for those who do not know who He is...It's LilGriz...Sorry for any confussion.
rescueremedy

May 7 @ 12:16PM  
Trease. you know how i feel .... I `m soooo Happy for You and Rick ...Lisa ..quit kicking me .....Yes , i`ll ask her ..... does Lil Griz have any single brothers ... Damn ...Lisa let go of my arm ..that hurts... CL ...she`s hurting me ... I wish you both all the best . Take care ... J
sumdaysoon

May 7 @ 1:52PM  
things always happen for a reason........even if you don't know what they are.........
zena343

May 7 @ 4:07PM  
Aww Trease, congratulations, wishing you both nothing but the very best!!
j3411

May 7 @ 5:15PM  
It sure does make me giggle when I hear stories like this. I hope ya-all have a grand time of it.


Not being the brightest bulb sometimes. Was I the only one who went to her friends list and checked out who was from Minnesota to try to figure out who she was talking about?

Guess I could have just read through all the comments before I did all that !
31sunshine

May 7 @ 10:05PM  
The best things come in life when we don't give up on ourselves. You deserve every happiness in life and I am so happy for you. Hang on tight, enjoy the ride, and know for ever door you open you'll be so richly rewarded.
LilGriz

May 7 @ 11:32PM  
And no Lisa, I don't have any single brothers. Good night, and sweet dreams
casuallylooking

May 8 @ 1:23AM  
Sorry, :Lisa...
Now...let go of RR's arm and quit kicking her.
partytimemary

May 18 @ 10:14AM  
Well, well Ms. Trease - am sooo happy for you! Wishes for a long and happy love life! You deserve the best... you have always been so kind, so fair and so honest...it's about time things started going your way!

Wishing you all the happiness you so deserve -

Hugs!!!

ynot7769

May 18 @ 11:55AM  
people--on a sex site--said love over sex. So, don't give up, it really can happen. Although it's an easy thing to do, don't box yourself in with too many limitations. But don't beat yourself up thinking you have to find love. It will find you, when it's time for it to happen. Evidently when most of us least expect it. And don't ever think someone can't love you.
Sometimes we find what we never really knew we were looking for.
And sometimes we have to trip over it to realize we've actually found it...luckily for me, he caught me when I tripped...and he's holding on.

what can i say? work work work and i missed THIS???


do you know just how FAMILIAR THIS IS???

btw .....i'm hanging on too .......see ya'll at our house warming party

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