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posted 4/30/2008 9:12:19 AM |
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  sundance64

I'm sure ya'll are going to think this is going to be a slam on some of the behavior we've been seeing on here...it's not. I really haven't been paying that much attention to what's been going on...and have only signed in to get some of my old blogs off here before I cancel my account.

However, I have been reading a few of the blogs...and over the last few weeks have noticed some remarks regarding some members who have invited their "adult" children to join up here.

I gotta ask...what's the problem?

I could see if the "child" really was a child...but someone who is in their 20's with children of their own?

See...I have an adult son...I've jokingly suggested to him that he should sign up here...he jokingly comes back and says "Hell no...too much drama!!" Yes...he looks over my shoulder, reads the blogs and forum posts and laughs his ass off. He sees the pictures...some he's like "wow...she's hot" others he says "Ugh...cover that shit up!"

So what? He knows about sex...we have always had an open and honest communication about it. It's not considered a taboo subject around here...we talk about it...joke about it...whatever...

If he did join here...would I mind? No...not really. He's read my stories...how could he not? He's seen the pictures I've posted here...part of the reason I don't post nudes is because of him...out of respect not because I'm ashamed or embarrassed. But he knows I have sex. He knows I have toys...kids are nosy and will find stuff like that unless they are under lock and key.

I know he would be respectful of me...and of others on here. He knows how the women react to the "wannafuck" emails...so he wouldn't be the one sending them. He knows what starts drama...so he wouldn't be the one starting it...
So...I gotta know...what's the big deal about having your kid...who is a grown up...being on a sex site? For that matter...what's to stop them?

Another thing is...if my son was here...or even one of my younger cousins...would I let my friends know? Absolutely! Hey...so and so is on here...go send 'em a wink! I'm not saying go fuck 'em...just as a way of introduction...

I don't dictate what my kid does...or what anyone elses kids do. They're adults...like I said, some with kids of their own. It's not "pimping" your kids...it's not pedophilia...it's not incest. We're all adults...

So...what would you do if one of your "Adult" kids signed up on a sex site that you were on?

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sugarnspice005

Apr 30 @ 9:19AM  
So...what would you do if one of your "Adult" kids signed up on a sex site that you were on?

Key word..Adult. And as you said...they know about sex as adults.

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong if a members adult children sign up at this site, or, any other adult dating site.


I think people who bitch about something like that are just looking for something to gripe about.
sundance64

Apr 30 @ 9:23AM  
It seems more like people are bitching about something that they are either A) misunderstanding or B) trying to turn into something "bad" or "dirty"...

People can say "I'd never let one of my kids sign up on this site..." I'd ask "How are you going to stop them?" If they're an adult...who are you to say "You can't be on this site!"
themama

Apr 30 @ 9:24AM  
I agree with you.. My oldest son is on one sex site I'm on.. He likes that other one better... Hey is 18.. He knows how to act and treat others with respect..
Same as you I'm very opened with my children..
On that other site I have to where only some of my pics can be seen by friends or are private so he don't see them..
He does his thing on that site and I do my thing..
sugarnspice005

Apr 30 @ 9:25AM  
Exactly! If they are adults...how can you stop them? You can't. They're adults...they can make their own decisions.

Why can't some see that?
Wordsofwit

Apr 30 @ 9:35AM  
So...what would you do if one of your "Adult" kids signed up on a sex site that you were on?

Our children or family is kind of an unusual area for people. I think it is a mental thing that maybe we all have. For example, I can not visualize my parents in their prime fucking. My mind won't let me go there.

My daughter is now the married mother of a toddler living in the middle of nowhere about 12 miles from a seedy white trash town. But if we throw the boogie in to rewind about seven years ago, it was quite different. There were some alternative lifestyle interests shall I say. But there was a silent don't ask/don't say. We both wanted that separation.

Sometimes things collide. About decade ago a guy I worked with went to a titty bar he had never been to with some coworkers/friends. He had been frequenting gentlemen's clubs for years. After a few rounds of drinks and dollar bills in G strings, a hottie took the stage. He looked at her and she looked at him. They freaked as it was his daughter. He wound up getting fired from his job a month later due to showing up drunk and absenteeism.
sundance64

Apr 30 @ 9:42AM  
Of course WoW...there is always a double standard when it comes to fathers and their daughters...my dad would never want to know that I'm on a sex site...although I did tell him I met Canu on the internet. But my mom would've thought it was funny..to say the least! I don't know that she would've read my stories...although she was also a writer now I think about it I think she would've appreciated them. And seeing as how most are fiction...it's not like I'm telling any secrets...
clickedanad2

Apr 30 @ 9:48AM  
right
so the kid can read what I've passed off as a blog
and taunt
"geez Dad - the dog could do better"
like I need that
coachwaugh69

Apr 30 @ 10:00AM  
once again, yes, ADULT is the key word. I think an 18 year old should have better things to do than mess around on a sex site, like go to school and study. However, they are 18 and considered an adult. I would be in the same boat as you though and be a bit more discreet with my posted pictures. But, once they cross that age line, I think it's just wrong. And I think it would be wrong of any parent to approve of their child's membership to any such site no matter what their standards or beliefs. Rules, guides, regulations,... whatever you want to call them, are set for a reason. In this case it is to protect children from either their lack of understanding of sex or, for the naive ones, the danger of some adults and their twisted minds. To protect children from some parents who don't think it's bad that they are having sex at 12 and 13 because they( the parent) did.

I don't know the situation of the other people you spoke of, but I see no problem with your situation and I think it is completely normal.
sundance64

Apr 30 @ 10:12AM  
But, once they cross that age line, I think it's just wrong. And I think it would be wrong of any parent to approve of their child's membership to any such site no matter what their standards or beliefs. Rules, guides, regulations,... whatever you want to call them, are set for a reason. In this case it is to protect children from either their lack of understanding of sex or, for the naive ones, the danger of some adults and their twisted minds. To protect children from some parents who don't think it's bad that they are having sex at 12 and 13 because they( the parent) did.

Just to clarify...I'm talking about Adult children...not anyones kids who are under the age of 18...and mostly about older adults in their 20's or older...I would certainly never advocate or condone anyone allowing their underage kids join an adult site...
OnceForHim

Apr 30 @ 10:13AM  
Have you tried locking him in the basement yet like that guy did over in Austria?

(sorry - *sic* joke ... )
themama

Apr 30 @ 10:29AM  
Hmmm. I hope that comment wasn't towards me "coach" but if it was..
Just so you know that other site we are both on is more suited for him age group..
I just went on that site to be with friends from this site looked around it and seen it would be ok for him to be on it..
Yes he 18 but He is very grown up acting for his age.. He has a full life off the internet.. Doesn't just sit on the comp..
I'm a mother that never had sex till I was 18.. And my children know this .
My oldest is still a virgin( i'm a proud mom on that) He is waiting till he finds the right one to be with for the long haul..
So not all parents have twisted minds as you say.. Some raise them right so they will make no mistakes when they are younger to have a full happy adult life..

Sorry sunny...
evild614

Apr 30 @ 10:36AM  
I think it is a mental thing that maybe we all have. For example, I can not visualize my parents in their prime fucking. My mind won't let me go there.

Agreed. My parents were always a bit too open and honest when it came to sexuality- too often I found myself covering my head in my hands and saying, "I did NOT need to know that!"

But I think I'm safe. My parents aren't super computer-savvy, and they only use them for work.
sundance64

Apr 30 @ 11:29AM  
If an Adult joins a site they know their parent is a member of...they can choose not to read the things their parent writes...

All I'm saying is...who is anyone to say whether or not a person's adult kids should be on this site or any other? And if someone's adult kid does join an adult site...why would people assume it was for any other reason than why most people are here...to meet new people?
sundance64

Apr 30 @ 11:37AM  
BTW...no one is blocked and my comments are open...no need to use "alternate" profiles to leave comments.
swyeter

Apr 30 @ 2:34PM  
Questions of this nature remind me of a video that they used to show when training military instructors, “What You Are Is Where You Were When”. It was basically about ones’ attitude towards using credit and how it was related to the era you were born but the same can be applied to attitudes towards sex. My grandfather was born in 1880 and he would never have considered buying anything unless he had the cash. He also would never have considered sex before marriage. My grandmother was born in 1884 and I remember she threw a fit when she caught me at 16 kissing a girl. She scared the shit out of me because I thought she was about to call the minister.

I fit into the era and mind set similar to WoW
For example, I can not visualize my parents in their prime fucking.
But no one had to explain the “birds and bees” to me since I grew up on the farm and just always knew all about fucking and understood the whole procreation process.

I recently had an email exchange with an individual where they mentioned the “Good Ole Days” before HPV, HIV, herpes, etc. Of course that was also before the days of being able to walk up to someone or have them walk up to you and ask, “Wanna Fuck” and actually mean you were going to get laid if the answer was yes. Now the "Good Ole Days" may not have been a “Good” for getting laid as today but they were a whole hell of a lot safer.

I have a daughter and a son and talked about sex and in the same way with both but many do not. Many tend to relate to their daughters that if they have sex they are, or will be considered, a slut while they relate to their sons they are, or will be considered, a man. That is also why you will see some may have the double standard of my son on here “Okay”, my daughter “HELL NO”.
sundance64

Apr 30 @ 4:06PM  
I guess I was brought up about a half a generation behind (or ahead?) of yours and WoW's...or maybe my mom was just different from most parents brought up in her generation...she was open and honest about sex, of course as age and maturity allowed...but not to the point of condoning promiscuity or unsafe conduct. I knew my parents had sex...it was a normal thing. No...they didn't do it in front of us...in fact I rarely even saw my parents do more than a light kiss or hold hands...both of which they did often. But my mother was open in the fact that sex between two people was natural...but private. Not dirty or taboo.
StraddleMyNose

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Apr 30 @ 10:17PM  
Not all people are going to have the same opinion on this. What people do with their business as far as their own adult kids being on this same site is their business. But for me, I would cringe even with the thought of my daughter being on here with me.
Looking4ever

Apr 30 @ 10:31PM  
Personally, I would not be comfortable if my adult child (or her friends) were on this site. She is married, with 2 kids. But, we joke that she is still a virgin and doesn't drink or smoke either. I'm happy to pretend. I don't want to think about my kid (or my parents) having sex. Yes, I know they do. But I don't want to hear about it. Hey, that's me. Do I have a problem with adult children of other members being on here? Heck no. If they are adults and act accordingly, I don't care who is on here...unless it's my adult child.
LucifersMaliciousGrin

May 1 @ 8:00AM  
Sounds like you and my mom would get along well. She raised me the same way. It makes sense to me. Your son I'm sure is mature enough to get a laugh out of something and at the same time old enough to state his opinion on mature content. So yea, go us younger kids who have cool parents.

SxzeNewMe

May 1 @ 9:42AM  
I know it's hard when you see the term "ADULT CHILDREN" to not see them as...well...adults. The word "children" seems to bring about images of tots. As a parent, at some point you need to wake up and realize that your children are grown; they may be your children still, but once they hit 18 they are adults. Put them into their mid-20's and they're "datable" by many people 35 on up. Several people here have admitted to dating with age-spans of 10 or more years...at about 16 you're actually at "MILF" age-span range. So...why would we NOT acknowledge that our 24, 25, and 26 year old kids - all of whom have kids of their own - are adults just the same as we are?

And why would we suddenly not know about boundaries? I have them - and while you see I still have provocative pics up, do ya see my tits, ass, or coochie? (Want to? "wink, wink, jab, jab" heh-heh!) And they have them; trust me, my kids DON'T want to know about my exploits. We have a code - the title and tags tells them if they can read it. Wow - imagine that! I will also say that even at home they do, however, enjoy joining in on adult fun and discussions...hell, even Pastor J (oldest son to be 27 in June) will laugh and at our adult playfulness - and he's a freakin' prude! LOL I see nothing wrong with having that good a relationship with my kids that we can all be adults at the same time!

I raised my kids to believe their is nothing wrong with sex or enjoying...I don't understand all the hangups. My son dated a much older woman - people thought I should care. Why would I? They are both adults, plain and simple.

belle1010

May 1 @ 7:07PM  
My kids (step), thier father, and I were always very open about sex. Why should they have to learn the wrong things at school, or on the streets? I always told them if they had questions to ask, and if I didn't know the answer I would find out. I still have an open and honest relationship with them today and they are grown and have kids of thier own. They know i'm on this site, would I want them here too? That's up to them. Like Sxze there would have to be boundries, to save me and them some embarassment. I've said this same thing on a few other blogs that were posted about this very thing.

I guess some people are just closed-minded and maybe they shouldn't be on a "sex-site"

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