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Someone gave me compliment the other day, and I kind of joked about it and blew it off.....
Truth of the matter is, it felt good. It felt really good. But it kind of embarrassed me and so I joked about it, instead of just saying thank you and accepting that maybe they honestly meant it.

But at the same time, I know I'm not really good at accepting compliments. Never have been. Especially, depending on what they are or who they come from.

But I give compliments. ONLY when I truly mean them.
And sometimes they may seem strange to those who don't know me well...or may be taken out of context.. So, I hold some back.

Examples of both.. one of my best friends has beautiful skin tone color, she can wear any color and it looks good. I am envious of this, I tell her this..I also tell her I hate it for it... I have also told her that she should wear more heels ( even though she is already 5'10) and open shoes because she has extremely sexy feet. Now, that is just a fact as I see it...but how many times do women tell other women they have sexy feet? To some it would seem maybe peculiar, but she knows how I mean it..although she disagrees.

I saw a pic of someone on here and I think she has one of the prettiest mouths. Her smile is pretty and her teeth are beautiful.. But, exactly how do you email that to someone and it sound right? lol

So how do you handle compliments? Do you always assume that person is flirting or tryng to find an angle? Or can you just take them as they are meant?

Do you give out many compliments? Or do you have to be flirting to give them out?
Do you ever give out false compliments?

P.S. So keep in mind, IF I give you a compliment, it doesn't necessarily mean I am flirting.. but then again... lmao As with many of you, flirting just comes natural to me, I just dont always mean it seriously..I can be an innocent flirt. But I always mean my compliments.

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saxman2005

Mar 14 @ 10:04AM  
I always appreciate hearing a compliment, and I like giving them. I always mean them, when I give them. I guess you have to gauge the person with whom your giving your compliments. I've always had good luck giving them..and by the way...I really like your blog..
Ewe_Wish

Mar 14 @ 10:04AM  
Great Blog, Treas.
lolthisistoofunny

Mar 14 @ 10:13AM  
Well, you could just add a disclaimer. Like my best friend and I always do when IM'ing each other...we end the conversation with..."I love you, Girlfriend -- IARRRNLW." LOL.
themama

Mar 14 @ 10:27AM  
I love to give out compliments... Always makes someones day..
Now sending out a compliment to another Female on here why don't you try and start off with letting her know about you and why you are sending her an E-mail I get alot of e-mails from other females on her complimenting me on either me or my essay... They are the e-mails that really make my day..
CrazyCraveman

Mar 14 @ 10:36AM  
So how do you handle compliments?

I've never taken compliments well, as to why...I've no idea. Other than the fact that I, like most of us, simply don't see what others do.

I'm often told I'm handsome, good looking, sexy, and have a very nice cock. And I don't find myself handsome, good looking or sexy...and as far as my cock...it's nothing special, all men have one.

Do you give out many compliments? Or do you have to be flirting to give them out?

Yes, I give out compliments often, mostly to women naturally. However, I do give them to men as well. I personally feel we men do not nearly give women compliments as often as we should!

And no, I don't have to be flirting to give compliments, flirting is entirely different than compliments.

Do you ever give out false compliments?

Not at all, if I give someone a compliment I sincerely mean it...after all I've really nothing to gain, nor lose with giving people compliments.

But it's funny as to how many women feel we men only give them because we want something...and I'm sure it's true for some men, maybe even most...but it's not the reason for/with me.
BlueEyes708

Mar 14 @ 10:41AM  
This was a horrible subject for me at one time, because I was like you. Always joked them off.

Then I had to take a public speaking course and one of the lessons was how to give and receive compliments. I was used to the usual nice smile, you're funny type compliment, but this man that was in my group, looked me square in the eyes and told me how devastating they were. It was the first time I've ever been complimented on my eyes, and it floored me. It was the first time I was lost for words in my life. (A rarity for me) I honestly don't know what I said, but I did say something because I had to.

Now I answer with a sincere thank you. And I hand them out as well, not expecting anything in return. A compliment is a flirt, at least not the first one, if it is a flirt, there will be more. And a nice compliment makes everyone's day.

A great blog by the way. Something we can all ponder and write about.
itsallforfun

Mar 14 @ 10:42AM  
Yes i am the same way...hard to take compliments...years of being told the opposite I guess
jcarolina

Mar 14 @ 10:57AM  
I'm a huge flirt, always have been, but when I give someone a compliment, I mean it.

I don't receive a great deal of compliments, I can come off as very arrogant or conceited if you don't know me in the other world.
You guys see more of my real self because in the physical, I watch people to see what they're about before I expose much of myself at all.
Here it's a little different, I just kinda jumped in and started swimming.

Compliments are important these days, everyone seems to be bogged down with life, and a compliment delivered with sincerity is a great way to brighten someone's day.

goldeneagle

Mar 14 @ 11:02AM  
good blog and good subject
NachoBaby

Mar 14 @ 11:25AM  
Treas Lady.. you have a beautiful soul! Yup.. your outside may be a bit round and grey.. but your soul is a fabulous rainbow.


Now then.. was I flirtin or complimenting you? good question right?
Lisa46

Mar 14 @ 11:59AM  
I am like you they embarass me to death I don't give out compliments unless I mean them from my heart!
SxzeNewMe

Mar 14 @ 12:18PM  
Ehhhh....I'm not always so good at accepting compliments. Sometimes, yes - and for somethings, it's quite easy. I know it sounds terrible, but I do get a lot of compliments on my eyes (almost daily), and those "thank you's" sometimes feel too automatic...

As for complimenting others - I do it a lot. I believe that too much negative things - messages - are conveyed on a day to day basis, and a lot can hit on our self-esteem. So, I if see a woman who happens to be wearing a dress that looks fabulous on her, I will tell her - even if just in passing. (Same with men and say, oh, a tie...) And they are always, always genuine. Why lie to a complete stranger out of the blue? Plus...it's a nice way to put a smile on 2 faces - the complimentee and me! It's a win-win thing! When it comes to friends, I can only be honest...I want my friends to feel good and plastic fuzzies are useless!
BananaBoy4u

Mar 14 @ 12:19PM  
I don't take too much time sending compliments or corresponding because unless you are planning on meeting the person, it's almost a waste of time. I tend to wink at people that catch my attention eiither from their photos, essay or a blog comment. I know that women get lots of winks and just blow them off and in my opinion if they don't like them it's their loss. Winking to me is just as if you were passing someone in the grocery store and liked something about them and gave them a quick wink and be on your way. A wink gives you an instant rush of "feel good" and tends to leave you in a good mood.
SxzeNewMe

Mar 14 @ 12:19PM  
Dang...forgot about flirting! (Imagine that...ME?!?)


I always appreciate hearing a compliment

Saxman, I think you're sexy!
baldbychoice2kx

Mar 14 @ 1:22PM  
Not that I get an incredibly large amount of them, but I don't handle compliments well either way.

I'm trying to change that, but it's going to be a long, long road.

Another part of my problem is that I'm never sure if it's truly just a compliment or if someone is flirting with me. Quite often, I think someone is flirting with me only to find out that she was just giving me a compliment. On the other hand, I've had women flirting with me, apparently doing some serious flirting, and I just thought she was just being nice or just plain old complimenting me.

It's official: I'm a mess.
whisperingcomet

Mar 14 @ 1:27PM  
Compliment are easy,,,, a big ole grin, and a sincere thank you....

winks....we have winks???...I'll be damn,,,we do have winks...who knew??
saxman2005

Mar 14 @ 1:43PM  
awww shucks S xze
and may I say that you are as sexy as sexy gets!
kkatydid

Mar 14 @ 6:03PM  
I love giving compliments and do so easily. It delights me, once in an airport, there was a lovely "older" woman, nicely dressed with a hat, yes a hat. One doesn't often see that and it was so becoming on her. As we waited to board the plane, I complimented her on how well the hat suited her, but also said the hat would not be as lovely had it not been on her head. This was true as she made the hat lovely. She blushed and murmered her thanks, but I knew I made her day. So I try to accept compliments in that same way. In the past I tried to look for a motive, but on that day, I finally understood that you don't have to view it that way, you can just blush and say thanks and be happy you received a kind word.
sundance64

Mar 14 @ 6:33PM  
I sometimes feel uncomfortable getting compliments from strangers...I think if I make too much of it I'll sound conceited or something...but I usually smile and say "Thank you!"

True story...
I worked in a fairly upscale resteraunt that looked out over Tampa Bay, usually in the evenings when you could see the sun setting over the water. I was waiting on an older lady and her friend...and the older lady said something about the lovely sunny color of my hair...I thought she was talking about the sunset and said "Oh I know...isn't it beautiful!" as I looked out the window ...

When I realized she was talking about my hair I turned so red...told her I thought she meant the sunset and thanked her for the compliment. She laughed...and left a good tip anyway!
borty293

Mar 15 @ 12:20AM  
Ya gotta watch some people ...they give ya a compliment..then ask ya to do something...sometimes its like waiting for the shoe to drop....but I do like giving and receiving compliments as long as they are sincere and not used as some form of manipulation.

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