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posted 3/13/2008 11:26:28 PM |
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  Elnino18

So lets be honest here a minute I, like many of you I’m sure, am only part of this site because I’m seeking an intimate encounter, sex. But alas I have gotten very few responses or messages or anything that really panned out, the few I have received are either scams or from people, very nice people with whom I enjoy chatting, to far away to get what I’m looking for. So then I guess the question would be what can I do to attract more people, should I not be so blunt in what it is I’m seeking? Is discreet the way to go here, or is it something else? I can understand if most think I’m too young and inexperienced to get involved with, that I can see. I dunno just sorta speaking my mind and looking for some advice, and since we’re on the subject any advice on attracting women would be helpful be it online or real life.

Although I should state I don’t really have a problem attracting them, it’s once I get them I play the nice guy part and go real slow, which apparently most girls don’t like, at least the ones I’ve dated and so leave me. But I don’t wanna be just some sex crazed asshole just looking for the next one night stand so what would you say to help me out here?

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blackskyline4

Mar 13 @ 11:40PM  
When you find somebody on here that is what they say they are ANNNDDD isn't out to scam you... they are way to far away, or aren't looking for any kind of relationship... sorry to say this but this place is pretty much for the blogging and the hopeful thought of an actual "wanna fuck"
SxzeNewMe

Mar 13 @ 11:42PM  
I find it works best to just talk to someone...same as you would "in real life". I know...BORING! But it works ;)
SxzeNewMe

Mar 13 @ 11:43PM  
this place is pretty much for the blogging and the hopeful thought of an actual "wanna fuck"

Hopeful? Hmmm...I must be REALLY lucky!
Elnino18

Mar 13 @ 11:46PM  
When you find somebody on here that is what they say they are ANNNDDD isn't out to scam you... they are way to far away, or aren't looking for any kind of relationship... sorry to say this but this place is pretty much for the blogging and the hopeful thought of an actual "wanna fuck"

Well I guess that makes sense, oh well I guess it would be better to meet in real life
mattxoxo

Mar 13 @ 11:50PM  
-yea dude same here it is pretty hard to get people's attention on here =/

-i sent out a bunch messages and only received like two hahaha
and i feel ya for that last detail girls say how they want to take it slow here but when you do take that chance or you take it too slow then its over

-but yea try going on that chat thing i meet some really kool people there NOT FRIENDS but some pretty kool people that talk to you
jcarolina

Mar 13 @ 11:52PM  
I could have written this myself. I have the same problem, no one close at all, at least none that will reply. I send decent e-mails, nothing vulgar or off-hand. I think not having a pic is a big part of it.
Try to get involved with the blogs, that's the only place I've met anyone at all.
DarkDesires99

Mar 14 @ 1:04AM  
Just be yourself and write like you talk, relaxed and casual is cool.
For real life what are the things you love to do?
Do them!
You’ll run into people that enjoy the same stuff as you because they are there also.
For instance I like to read so I meet guys at the library or bookstores. I’m in the section that interests me so if they are there too, well common interests and a start of a conversation, ready made.
You play guitar and you draw both of those would work for meeting girls. Take a life drawing class, there are community classes that work be fun or join an art group would be great. Female to male ratio in art classes are about 7-1. If it is a community class they will be older at collage or extension schools they will be your age.
Last don’t over look introductions by friends, co-workers or classmates who knows maybe a spark and if not maybe they know someone too, the ripples spread.
Anyway just a few thoughts for you I hope they help.
As for losing them for moving to slow…they weren’t the right one for you.
Relax!
Back to point one just be yourself.

YahooMe

Mar 14 @ 1:29AM  
Unfortunately there are a ton of cock teases on this site who somehow get their jollies out of leading guys on. Ya, try to be honest, OK...right. It is what is is dude. This is the internet and there are so many of these "women" who get off on this kind of shit. I was completely honest about being married and having a "friend with bene's"...........let me ask another question to these women. You don't like fakes and lyers, then don't do the same to us.

Good blog
YahooMe

Mar 14 @ 1:30AM  
or why would you I mean
lolthisistoofunny

Mar 14 @ 3:05AM  
I just cannot imagine the mindset of anyone who could get with a total stranger for the purpose of having sex (without the benefit of lots and lots o' alcohol). Hell, even with one-night stand scenarios you do spend SOME time getting to know the person.

I'm not here for sexual encounters (certainly don't need to seek out men from a website in order to find that) but, even if I were, I'd still laugh in the face of men who send the "Hey, I'm going to be in town for the weekend; wanna hook up for some fun" type messages. Are they for REAL? Jesus H. Christ, what kind of woman in her right mind would do such a thing?

Why are people leaning more and more towards forgetting that they're human beings and wanting to act more and more like they are just dogs in heat?

No one said a sexual encounter had to lead to white dresses and tuxes and flower girls, but come on...let's get down to reality. Women are still human beings and deserve to be treated as such. Most women aren't going to just jump up and down and scream for joy just because some guy wants to use her to get his rocks off, you know.

Try going through what USED to be the "normal process" and asking someone out on a date. Take a little time to get to know them. If there is a mutual interest, sex will come soon enough. If not, hell, at least you hopefully had a good time and made a new friend, if nothing else.
blackskyline4

Mar 14 @ 5:05AM  
For real life what are the things you love to do?

I like to drive but with the way gas prices are and the type of car i have where i need to put mid grade or better in it or else it sounds like shit... gas is way to expensive to just go out and ride around.

I find it works best to just talk to someone...same as you would "in real life". I know...BORING! But it works ;)

That would be the whole problem. although women complain about how guys are fake. you all do it just as much. i've met like 3 women on here from "around my area" like a 120 miles out in the most extreme case... one said she was 5ft 8 and about 145lbs (in real life she was like 4ft 11 and closer to 190 and she had a weird smell), Another one the height and weight ratio was slight better but still lying through her teeth and she looked like she may have had something ( that kinda something that would make your dick fall off even if you wrapped it before you tapped it)... and the last one was soo dumb in person i was questioning who i was actually talking to when we spoke online...

-yea dude same here it is pretty hard to get people's attention on here =/

i've been on here for a few months and i've sent out like well over 200 emails to women... out of the small handful of responses to serious emails i think 80% of them were spam/ scams or women way way way out of the us trying to get me to send them money so they can come to America... 10% were... "your not what i'm looking for"/ "I want a husband in the next like 2 months or i loose my ability to stay here" or i want you to travel 2+ hours to meet me in some way the fuck out there place that looks like something you would have seen in deliverance. And the rest of them are responses to blog posts...

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