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posted 3/12/2008 4:28:01 PM |
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  rog4218

look, i know im not an ugly dude or anything, not the best looking on the site i understand, but why doesnt anyone ever email back or send winks, what is it that im doing wrong ???? please help im new to this

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gwenafar

Mar 12 @ 4:36PM  
ok...most women get alot of mail on here....the ration of men to women is like 80-20 on here...so women get more mail. Sometimes that mail gets pushed back a few pages...and we never see it. Now, I usually have a habit of reading the ones with funny headlines.....try that maybe.
DarkDesires99

Mar 12 @ 4:43PM  
I don’t know but one good thing to do is write interesting blogs about things other than why you don’t get emails or winks. Also you might want to make posts in the forums. Comment on other people's blogs all these things get you noticed and let people know your personality.
One last thing I would fix my essays if I were you. Typos and you say you’re only here to fuck, that may be true but it’s not the best first impression.
Wordsofwit

Mar 12 @ 4:44PM  
First off, if you want replies to this blog or any other, change the settings to automatic approval. Gwen is much too kind for the reality. Good luck...watch and learn!

I am going to try to be constructive here by pasting in a blog that I posted a while back that seems to be appropriate.

Most women are in a profession that involves writing and communicating. Most men are not. It you want to meet women online, you need to communicate to them in writing.

If you read women's profiles and essays (real women), you will see that many put forth an effort to communicate to the men. Most men just run the surface in theirs' with minimal effort and communication.

You must write for the reader, not for yourself.

View the essays for meeting somebody as being the same thing as a resume if you are seeking a job. Also, view yourself as a marketing director for a product line; sales been below targets? Mark Twain once said that insanity was trying the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

Guys, let me suggest that you take the essay questions and copy/paste them into Microsoft Word or something. Then answer them at your leisure. Put it down, then go back and add, edit, etc. Also try to be specific. For example, if you put in "I enjoy going to a concert for live music." What kind of music? Movies? What types? If you enjoy a glass of wine with dinner, what kind of wine?

I am a professional journalist. Go into my profile/essays and look at it. You will see that a lady can read it and know everything that she needs to know to determine how much we relate to one another.

I have not encountered anyone locally that I want to meet who wants to meet me. But there are many ladies on here that I have become great online friends with but distance keeps it from moving to 3D.

Don't be afraid to ask female friends, maybe even your sister or daughter, to critique it. After all, they are females that know you. Make damned sure that you spell check it.

Allegorically, when it comes to meeting women, maybe the reason you aren't catching fish is that you are fishing with dead bait.
sundance64

Mar 12 @ 4:47PM  
Taptaptap...is this thing working? **like a microphone**

Ok I'm gonna be honest with you...from my point of view (think Simon from American Idol here...)

You seem like a nice guy...but your profile is a little bland. Add a little more to your essays...show a bit more of yourself in your words...less in your pics.

Speaking of pics...keep in mind that only paying members can see nude pictures on this site. The rest see a generic male with a black box across it that says "upgrade to see free member's nude picture". So all anyone is seeing of you is a picture you took of yourself...which in my opinion isn't flattering for anyone.

Ask someone to take your camera and snap a couple of pictures of you...face shots, maybe a curled arm shot or nice chest...and if you want to keep one of the nudes (I don't know what they are since I can't see them) keep it. But as a general rule...most of the women don't like to see a dick pick on an email. Granted there are some that don't mind it...but alot of women complain about that here...not saying you're doing that cuz you're not. Just saying...

Ok...so you asked for help...that's my advice. Hope it helps...and good luck in your search.
max49

Mar 12 @ 4:48PM  
Just jump in and have a good time with everyone in the blogs and give the forums a try. That may help.
surfin4fun

Mar 12 @ 4:55PM  
This is one site, where, when you ask honestly for good advice, you usually get it. I think the previous contributors have done a great job
SxzeNewMe

Mar 12 @ 4:59PM  
Oh no! Another NC boy! Damn...sure are a lot of y'all here!



Sorry, nothing more to add to all that's already been said - good, sound advice. Have fun!
Wordsofwit

Mar 12 @ 5:04PM  
Intelligent/witty/empathetic blog posts and comments definitely help. As for the forums; to me personally, they are quite lame.

Another rule that seems to work is don't view this as a "sex site" but rather avoid saying anything to somebody that you don't know that you wouldn't say at a club or a party.
cutecarrie6969

Mar 12 @ 6:12PM  
First, my take on winks. I ignore them. Completely. If I do happen to click on the link to take me to my winks, its only because the flashing eye or whatever it is, is annoying me. Thats my personal stance on winks. Not sure what others do with them, but they're too impersonal to me.

As for emails, what is a typical email that you send like? Send me a typical email and I'll have a gander for ya. Or if you want multiple opinions, tell us about your typical emails in a comment.

(I'm feeling helpful today....wierd, lol.)
Iaim2pleez

Mar 12 @ 6:22PM  
Good to be on the blogs too...thats where I really started meeting people...the women get tons of emails...we outnumber them like 10 to 1 or some amazing ratio like that so as stated above you really need to make yourself noticed here for success...but it is possible and good luck.,..good advice above too....Ill give you a kudo for asking so well on a blog....
Loveyoulongtime2

Mar 12 @ 7:17PM  
It's much worse on other sites. Here most women who are on the blogs or forums do email back, unless they get stupid mail. Read their profiles first to see if are even looking for men.
parageneric

Mar 12 @ 8:46PM  
I think the essay and photo thing is correct. I am not saying my profile is the best, nor are my photos. I tried to be as honest and upfront with my profile as I could be, My profile is a little different so I am not expecting an avalanche of emails.
This approach seems to be the most beneficial in regards that Most women that reply already know whats in my profile. It's ok if they don't email me back, thats part of the game, Hang in there, change a couple things and see what happens
Ken

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