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The Equalitarian Dominant

posted 2/9/2008 9:47:58 PM |
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Many of My friends already know Me fairly well and that I am an "Equalitarian Dominant," but most never knew exactly what it meant until I shared this with them. A few years ago I found this under Dom Types on a website I have referenced to My friends and some of the submissives I know and Mentor. When I first read it all I could think of was how accurately it described the Dominant I am and have always been all of My life. It is truly 90+% Me. It also reflects upon the type of submissive that is most desirable and compatible with Me. For those that are interested I am now putting it here in My first blog. I have corrected some of the grammar and punctuation. I look forward to your comments. Enjoy the read.

The Equalitarian Dominant
The Equalitarian Dominant is one who controls by teaching, mentoring and leading. This Dominant feels and knows that when they find a comparable submissive that things will happen as a progression of the interaction. Usually just a mention or short learning situation is necessary to obtain a certain interaction. Both the Dominant and the submissive "get it,” need very little, so called "training" and naturally know what the other needs after interaction. This Dominant does not like the situation of constantly repeating and forcing a particular behavior (submission) to occur. It is not the activities but the surrender as the result of the Domination that is the objective and enjoyment. Creativity is an important part of this situation. These are the more intellectual, into the philosophy/psychology mechanism of this lifestyle. They understand the concepts and resultant interactions and can put it into real life. They do not need many "rules" like the Democratic type, nor do they like the heavy S&M activities; preferring submission to occur as a result of an instilled desire in the submissive to surrender. She "wants" to as a result of the Dominant's knowledge and skill at Dominating. Sensuousness is the rule and pain is given and received as a form of sensuous stimulation. Light pain as opposed to severe. Sensuous torture is a popular activity in this area. Both the Dominant and the submissive must be naturally this way. These are the ones who claim to be born this way, have always been this way. They fully understand the concept of D/s - it comes to them naturally and easily. They attract a submissive who truly and naturally wants to please, and who will observe and sense what the Dominant is communicating; and be able to translate that into the right thing to do. The doing or saying without having to be told type. The submissive begs easily and surrenders sweetly. They understand the concept of respect and surrender and can make it happen after initial learning with little or no additional instructions. They embrace the surrender gratefully and lovingly. These individuals usually form the most intimate of relationships, the closest. There is not much downside to these relationships, because they not only grasp the concepts, but can make it happen too; and their attraction is based on strong mutual respect. Their strong relationship is not readily apparent to the unobservant, but they are always subtly in the 24-7 mode. The fact that these things come forth naturally and without the need for orders or rules are a great affirmation and source of pride, satisfaction and loving. Just as the strictness and forbearance without the need for orders or rules of the Authoritarian/Totalitarian situation affirms pride, satisfaction and loving.

I hope you enjoyed a little further insight into Me...

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Feb 9 @ 10:22PM  
very well said Sir.....for these people, it is a state of being, not learned, but a part of them. Most Doms that have this quality or characteristic are wonderful teachers, and also are open to learning from their other half. There is no power struggle and it is more of a flow than anything.

Feb 9 @ 10:55PM  
Thank you for your comments. Oh so true, but also oh so rare...
D/s is about is the ying and yang...the give and take...
I will blog about My philosophy of D/s and this in the very near future.

Feb 9 @ 11:01PM  
An excellant read. I agree with freebirdie very well said. I look foward to reading more from you.

Feb 9 @ 11:25PM  
Oh I love it. And to be honest I understood everything that was wrote. And to understand it I realize that you are not the um dominate type like most others. Well to be honest I already knew that. lol I do love it tho.

great insight on how you really are hon. but it did leave one thing out well one that I like most of all. Honesty. Hope you get great reviews hon.

Feb 10 @ 1:12AM  
Your cherry was very sweet to taste. Your first blog

thank you for the wonderful blog...

reading this.... I finally understand..

thank you for being such a pet..


Feb 10 @ 10:41AM  
Very interesting and thought provoking. I look forward to future additions.

Feb 10 @ 1:41PM  
Viper what a great first blog.
You have always been very open, honest and straight forward on your views on things and the scene in particular. Like any good Mentor you teach by words and deeds but most importantly by letting the student learn and grow on their own and find their own path and level.

Feb 10 @ 2:37PM  
I gotta get me one of those.

I will blog about My philosophy of D/s and this in the very near future.

Looking forward to it

Feb 11 @ 8:47AM  
very informative and straight forward just like you. Now I have a better understanding of what you are looking for and how you approach things. Look forward to reading more of your views.

Feb 11 @ 10:00AM  
i agree with dark desires,am looking forward to reading more of you,and your veiws.......

Feb 11 @ 5:08PM  
Thank you sir, for the further education. I am going to re-read this until I know it by heart. Also the information you posted in this first blog will be very useful in another project I'm working on at present. I could only wish to be what My D would truely want.

Thanks for the insight

Aug 10 @ 12:36PM  

I am OWLM48, the author of the Dominant Types Article. You should always place credits when you quote from something or someone.

Master OWL

Full article can be found at

Aug 10 @ 4:02PM  
My sincere thanks to Master OWL for his comment and great article.
I never knew the Author until now.

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