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Why I Believe Men Dont Commit

posted 2/1/2008 11:09:51 AM |
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  sky_86

I just recently had an awakening due to my current situation with an ex. I realized how prideful i am and it dawned on me that i couldn't commit because of the fact that i will not admit defeat. Now im not saying that love is a game that you have to win but most men dont like to lose the upper hand in a relationship or at least i dont and in my last relationship i did. I actually let her hurt my feelings and in turn that made me feel vulnerable. In the world of Man-dom vulnerability is a no-no, no man wants to admit he cares that much so what does he do he unknowingly starts sabotaging the relationship in order to regain "hand" he doesnt know that his attitude change is going to eventually lead to her packing her shit and leaving.
So what im saying is men wont commit because we are afraid to admit we love you that much.

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NachoBaby

Feb 1 @ 11:14AM  
Some women are that way as well.. I used to be.
Detach

Feb 1 @ 12:05PM  
I don't disagree with your reason for not wanting to commit, but I don't feel that's the sentiment shared by all men who don't wish to commit.

For me, all marriage is is a contract stating that the woman gets massive parting gifts should the relationship not work out. As such, women today have very little incentive to contribute to a relationship, and much to gain if it doesn't work out.

On the same note, there is no benefit to a man to get married short of obtaining citizenship or inheriting medical benefits from a career woman.

On top of that, there is very little sense of commitment in marriages today. About 50% of marriages nationally end in divorce, nearly 80% in my area alone, and 52.2% of households in the U.S. are run by individuals who are not married. Yes, those who are single are now the majority according to statistics from the center for disease control.

I have never been married, but have seen enough men hurt by divorce in my family. The final straw was when one of my brothers endured a divorce. Marriage just isn't a suitable way of life for the 21st century.
lifeizabitch

Feb 1 @ 1:33PM  
Sometimes I feel that I need to be committed
gwenafar

Feb 1 @ 3:05PM  
I'm with Nacho on this one....The guys have always been the ones who wanted to commit....It was ME who wouldn't. And it was much like the reasons you described. I would sabotage the relationship and try to get them to leave... But men can be stubborn.. and would more often than not stick around...and wait for me to leave.
DesertSmile

Feb 1 @ 8:50PM  
Marriage just isn't a suitable way of life for the 21st century

And what would be suitable in the 21st. Century? I do believe marriage is much harder today than it was 30 years ago because both men and women have evolved and want more from life in general. I also agree marriage is not for everyone but making a committment to someone, to the best of your ability, is also a personal committment that you will strive to be important to someone other than yourself.

Bottom line...are we simply afraid of failure and use that as a reason to not commit to anyone or anything?

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