Lets say you are NOT in a relationship with anyone but your heart wont seem to allow you to move forward so you feel stuck and you happen to take the day off from work due to being under the weather so an ex stops by to see if you need anything. Now mind you the kids are at school, it is the middle of the afternoon and you are cuddled up on the couch looking like death warmed over drifting in and out of sleep due to the meds, clicker and cell close by. But this is an ex that knew you inside and out and have seen you in the worst possible conditions so as the ex is sitting on the edge of the couch and you are looking for some attention cause you hate feeling this way they start to rub your head and one thing leads to another and the next thing you know he/she is giving you the best oral you have had in a LONG time.
I mean you are really wrapped up in the moment, kissing, feeling each other up but you tell them you cant go all the way due to some other circumstances. You both get off and now it is a lil awkward.
Do you say anything to them? Do you smile and say thanx, I needed that?
Do you think they have the wrong impression now and may want to get back together? or Do you think ex's can be FWB's without all the emotional entanglement?
Thoughts are welcome..............   
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shy_sexy_kitten
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Jan 29 @ 10:53PM
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Yeah ex's can be good fuck buddies providing you've dealt with the emotional crap that caused you to be ex's....
and you are friends...
actually I enjoy my ex's the best because I like them and they are comfortable. We know each other.
Much easier than breaking in a new partner until emotional healing done. And best of all ... number of lover count doesn't go up....
I dunno.... I guess I just like my lovers and even if we aren't together all the time... they are still comfortable to be intimate with -- just not long term.
good luck
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LJRite69
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Jan 29 @ 10:59PM
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Interesting, and I agree on some points, I personally havent had a lot of partners and was with my husband a great many years but now that we are trying to get past all the bad stuff that caused us to separate and be friends I could see me using him here and there for some good ole fashioned sex..........  
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shy_sexy_kitten
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Jan 29 @ 11:05PM
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Well if you aren't living together and there isn't the fighting...
of course the sex is going to be better because there isn't the emotional crap tied to it.
I guess I'm bad....more than just a little.... had 3 lovers in the last year and half... but they can't keep up with me.... so after short while... gone..
so I am tired of breaking in new lovers... and ain't taking anymore for a while...
I'll just keep to my ex's..... though only one is presently single and the other in the picture well he's got a new gal... so he's not available for now.
if you are having sex and there's no emotional pain......... whew....... go for it!
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Zaftik
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Jan 29 @ 11:14PM
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I totally agree with kitten!
Ex'es can be excellent FWB's as long as you have gotten past any emotional drama.
I usually remain friends with my Ex'es and one or two used to be kinda regular FWB's till it was time to move on.
As to the situation you mentioned, it happens and you know each other.
You just have to establish how this will work, if it happens again, so that no ones feelings get hurt.
This one was kinda a freebie but now you need to talk and establish some sort of .....rules or expectations or the lack there of.
Good luck and have fun!!!
Psst! Kitten you're not bad  you just seem to know what you want.
Nothin' wrong with that.
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LJRite69
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Jan 29 @ 11:24PM
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What about that whole "guilty' thing in leading that person to think there is more to it?
And what happens when one partner is seeing other people, have to think of diseases and what not, hence why I think some choose not to have intercourse but just oral and that being acceptable.
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Zaftik
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Jan 29 @ 11:34PM
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If one of the parties was "exclusively" seeing someone else then yes I would have a problem with that.
Otherwise no harm. Just something between 2 adults.
As to diseases, its like sex with anyone else, you have to be careful, take precautions, etc.
BTW, oral is sex, period. Don't know how it can not be considered sex.
Unless you were saying something else in which case, my bad, ignore me 
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LJRite69
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Jan 29 @ 11:47PM
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Oral is sex.........I do agree, to many think that if intercourse or emotions arent involved it doesnt count and that is there way of justifying it.
I know my profile says I am in a relationship and sometimes I am in my stupid head but in reality I am single and was just sick of the scammers and trolls in my emails that dont want to meet but want naked pics, just cant be bothered anymore but still like to be here.
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canuhelpme258
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Jan 30 @ 2:43AM
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Not my ex maybe other's exes can ewe 
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Dave69696969
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Jan 30 @ 9:34AM
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Just a point of view, but you stated that you felt strage afterwards, might that be an indicator as to whether it was something you should have done? If you continue to act out in this fashion does it help you to move on with your life and perhaps find someone you really want to be with, or will treat you good? Sex is all well and great, but unless the emtional attachment and the expressions of your feelings for the other person are there, for me it is just using each other to get off, and what happens if one developes feelings and the other does not? Somebody gets hurt along the way and I would not want to be the one hurting or hurting another. When it is time to move on, it is time to move on. Once you go you do not look back you look forward. There is a saying that when one door closes, another opens, I have to close the door in order to allow the other to open. Just a thought! 
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straightup_9
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Jan 30 @ 11:05AM
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Do you say anything to them? Do you smile and say thanx, I needed that?
A very definite YES....
Lets say you are NOT in a relationship with anyone but your heart wont seem to allow you to move forward
Based on your story, seems as though your "heart" is changing it's mind....go with the flow, man......
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LJRite69
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Jan 30 @ 6:12PM
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This was hypothetical situation due to boredom on my behalf so it did not mean that I was in this situation. I do not and will not divulge personal info pertaining to myself in my blogs, I am more fascinated by others and what makes them tick and why.
Thank you for all your input..............
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