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  sundance64

I've been writing this blog in my head all freaking day...and now I have to change the whole damn thing! This sucks!

Well, not really...cuz it's gonna be better.

Ok boys and girls...gather around while I tell a story. Listen close and pay attention (iow...READ THE WHOLE DAMN BLOG!!)

I was recently accused of being a 'lurker'. In fact, it was yesterday...by Canu. I read the blogs, post a few comments here and there...but always sign in invisible so no one knows I'm here. Ok...fine.

I've been lurking the past couple of days, trying to put together the pieces of a puzzle. Ya'll probably already guessed what the puzzle is...by the title, right?
Alot of assumptions were made, a couple of weeks ago when my friend Sxzebbw came back. Let's clear that one up right now. She came back because of ME! I convinced her to start writing again.

Now...let me tell you this. I've been 'lurking' for quite some time...months in fact. You've probably seen me comments on random blogs over the months. During this time, I saw that my friend Ynot had a girl...and it was serious. Serious enough that her name became 'Ynotsgirl'. I was...and still am...very happy for them both. However, I did not at any time connect Ynotsgirl with Sxzebbw. I had no reason to.

Now, it has been assumed that Sxze knew when she came back who Ynotsgirl was. It has even been hinted at that the reason Sxze came back was because of Ynotsgirl.

Wrong. She had no more idea than I did.

Yea I know...some of you might say "But Canu knew..." well, he also assumed, that I knew, and didn't say anything. It just didn't come up.

Yesterday I was asking myself...why the secrets? Why this big conspiracy? Good thing I didn't write the blog I was writing in my head...huh?

There was no secret. None...nadda. There was no conspiracy. On either side.

What there was, were alot of assumptions. Some of which may have been based on past experience with either one side or the other...but they were incorrect assumptions.

Nomi came back here cuz I asked her to...not to start shit with anyone else. She, like me, saw that Ynot had a girl and they were engaged...and felt very happy for him. She didn't know who the girl was. She didn't have a clue until she saw a comment with a picture...that she took. Even then, she didn't put it together. But when she did, she had a knee-jerk reaction. And regretted it later.

Now...there is another person involved here, and I'll make mention of him. Sxze's son came on and posted some pretty stupid shit. This was not Nomi's idea...in fact she tried to put a stop to it. I'm not going to make excuses for him...and neither is she. It's done, he's gone.

So, here's the conclusion I've come up with...and that I promised (well, not exactly promised but...) Ash.

There was a huge misunderstanding here on all sides. After seeing the comments and reading the emails, it's finally all come together in one big picture...
No one set out to hurt anyone's feelings. No one was trying to stir shit up...and no one was attempting to keep anyone's secrets.

My point here children (yes...I have a point, just wait and see) is that when we assume, what happens? ASS of U and ME.

I hope this clears up alot of shit...that's what I want to do.

Now...go back and play nice, and maybe later we can have some milk and cookies...'k?

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bentan

Jan 23 @ 5:53PM  
Truth is a many-splintered thing eh?
Ewe_Wish

Jan 23 @ 6:06PM  
Well in the matter of secrets, i dont believe that i owe it to anyone to share with others what someone confided in me...............no one, as for steve and jean.......i didnt tell anyone who she was..........cause it wasnt anyones business except jeans who she was in relation to whomever else was on this site.......its just like being told on New Years Day they were getting married........I never told a soul until they said i could post a blog about it...........I dont share other ppls secrets and i expect the same respect back from my friends.

As far as Nomi goes..........i could care less that she was here, why she was here, and what brought her back.........I stayed away from her and she stayed away from me and that worked out well. Not everyone is going to get along here......just like in the real world.........most of the time its just easier and better for everyone to ignore each other.......instead of causing big dramatic fights in here.......but even they cant always be avoided. Its life.
DarkDesires99

Jan 23 @ 6:12PM  
Thanks for the background info.
All I knew was sxzeBBW (Nomi) was going to leave and then did!
I enjoyed her writing and was just getting to know her as a person a little bit and now she’s gone.
I am so sad there were so many hurt feelings in this, damn shame.
It also is a total bummer for selfish reasons because now I won’t get to read the other installments of “My First Date a Dom”.
Ashinatrix

Jan 23 @ 6:15PM  
Really dont know what to say-

And if I did I think I'd be too scared to say it-

So sorry.......but all you get is this lousy
NachoBaby

Jan 23 @ 6:18PM  
"This process of belief-formation, application, experimentation, and observation to the very personal level of each individual. Thus, a belief became “truth” when it proved to have practical utility in the life of a single individual. He expected that a person would take the time to “act as if” a belief were true and then see what happened — if it proved useful, helpful, and productive, then it should indeed be regarded as “true” after all." William James

I'm sick of secrets. Unless they are about a good surprise for someone..don't ask me to keep them. I won't do it.

I'm sick of being nice. I just get kicked in the chops for it anyway.

I'm sick of playing by someone else' set of rules. Unless they are 'laws of the land' I'm not goin there.

I love ya Sunny... But I guess I'm done playing nice. You wanna cookie?
onehornytoad69

Jan 23 @ 6:32PM  
I'm still lost! But WTH I stay that way! lol
But I do know Every person.. has a right to be here... If they are in the click or not! (CEPT FOR THE PPL WHO ARE HERE JUST TO START SHIT!)
We all dont have to be friends.. but cant we be friendly?
One thing I would like to know is who is Dateing/Fucking/Seeing... (what ever you want to call it)... who here!?
I'll post a blog later asking that Question! lol!
My 2 cents!
bentan

Jan 23 @ 6:33PM  
There were six men of Hindustan,
to learning much inclined,
Who went to see an elephant,
though all of them were blind,
That each by observation
might satisfy his mind.

The first approached the elephant,
and happening to fall
Against his broad and sturdy side,
at once began to bawl,
"This mystery of an elephant
is very like a wall."

The second, feeling of the tusk,
cried, "Ho, what have we here,
So very round and smooth and sharp?
To me 'tis mighty clear,
This wonder of an elephant
is very like a spear."

The third approached the elephant,
and happening to take
The squirming trunk within his hands,
thus boldly up and spake,
"I see," quoth he,
"the elephant is very like a snake."

The fourth reached out an eager hand,
and felt above the knee,
"What this most wondrous beast
is like is very plain" said he,
"'Tis clear enough the elephant
is very like a tree."

The fifth who chanced to touch the ear
said, "E'en the blindest man
Can tell what this resembles most;
deny the fact who can;
This marvel of an elephant
is very like a fan."

The sixth no sooner had begun
about the beast to grope,
Than seizing on the swinging tail
that fell within his scope;
"I see," said he, "the elephant
is very like a rope."

So six blind men of Hindustan
disputed loud and long,
Each in his own opinion
exceeding stiff and strong;
Though each was partly in the right,
they all were in the wrong!
canuhelpme258

Jan 23 @ 6:43PM  
I ain't here for your "cookies" ummm inless thats more code?
alybai42

Jan 23 @ 7:30PM  
I have one question

When is it twinkie cake time
sundance64

Jan 23 @ 7:37PM  
It's a secret aly...I would tell you but then I'd have to kill you!

Or write a blog about it...
alybai42

Jan 23 @ 7:53PM  
It's a secret aly...I would tell you but then I'd have to kill you!



I will bring 1/2 the twinkies for it..
slohand_47

Jan 23 @ 7:55PM  
I really appreciate this blog. It took me a day and a half, and reading and re-reading a couple dozen blogs to figure out WHAT THE FUCK was going on. I had finally made some sense of it all and this fills in the few missing pieces.

I'm tired of reading blogs about Golidlocks sitting around the pot bellied stove telling pappa bear that the big bad wolf is shacking up with one of the 3 pigs, but she ain't saying WHICH one...... AND Grandma had Speedy Gonzales deported and now Snagglepus ain't talking to HER any more. But hey, its just made up y'all and in NO way refers to anyone "real" here. *wink wink*
And I'm sure if I am more disgusted with all that, or with myself for getting sucked in and trying to figure out WTF it all means.

And many times I log in "invisible" so if that makes me a "lurker" too, so be it. Not that anyone gives a shit.
Speaking of shit....... it's getting pretty damn close to the top of my waders around here.
padreroyalataol

Jan 24 @ 12:59AM  
''THIS NOTE JUST IN,......... '' MOD'S HAVE BUGED OUT !!
"It's too deep for them as well"
borty293

Jan 24 @ 1:55AM  
Gawd...this place is almost as complicated as scrabble...
canuhelpme258

Jan 24 @ 3:25AM  
pssst wanna know a secret?



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