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posted 1/19/2008 10:18:53 AM |
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I have often said I try hard not to judge people....I don't care what people look like on an outside viewpoint. I don't judge on color, creed or sexuality. How physically pretty or not....How thin or not...How much money or material items they have or not...How popular or well liked they are by others or not...Where their IQ falls on a scale or even if it registers or not....They are still people and I might like getting to know them and being friends with them.........

But in all honestly, I guess I do judge some........
It doesn't matter how pretty someone is on the outside, if he/she is constantly slamming on others about being fat or ugly, or making even blog remarks about peoples looks or weight all the time, they suddenly become extrememly ugly to me. It doesn't matter how much said person works out or exercises. How thin they naturally are or how much makeup they wear...Some things are just ugly.

If someone appears to be rather intelligent, and they can't seem to use that intelligence for good, only to purposely hurt others, or they can't seem to do anything but distort the truth for their own benefit, they become anything but intelligent to me.No matter their IQ or the truths they feel the need to tell themself. Not that they care, they are usually on a mission and angry determination is usually stronger than mental strength. A drunk always thinks people are laughing "with" him every time he falls off a barstool, until he sobers up and sees someone else fall and hears the laughter.

I don't choose my friends by what my other friends feel about them. I am my own person and I am more than capable of thinking for myself...I do it all the time, regardless of anyone else agreeing or not. Even my Mom never told me who I could or couldn't be friends with...well okay, she told me but...... I guess I've always been a tad bit rebellious.
But I don't like people who pretend to be nice in public but whisper nasty things to or about others in private thinking as long as no one heard them say it outloud they are fooling others.....they're usually not. People hear whispers. And I'd like my friends to only have one face, not two so I know who I'm talking with. Trust is a very big issue for me, and if I can't trust you or believe you, I don't want to be your friend.

It doesn't matter if someone has lots of money or material items, as long as they don't think they are better than others or rub in it others faces and brag. It also doesn't matter if they have no money and barely make it from week to week, but don't look at it as a way to wallow in self pity and resent others who do. Friendship, self esteem and respect can't be bought or even given in the name of pity. Not mine anyways..

I also feel people can honestly change and are entitled to be allowed to do that....IF they so choose. Forgiveness or understanding takes a hell of a lot more strength than anger or resentment..... but they also take time and have to be earned.

Just my $.02 rant for the day.......

I read a saying not too long ago. Don't know who wrote it or where I saw it...and this is not a quote, but it went something like....
If people tell rumors or lies about you, make sure you live your life in such a way that no one can believe them....
I really like that logic....
Everyone have a Great weekend!!!

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ValentineGirl214

Jan 19 @ 10:23AM  
Kudos for You!!
partytimemary

Jan 19 @ 10:38AM  
God don't like ugly.... or whatever spiritual force you believe in (to each their own)


Kudos m'dear!
partytimemary

Jan 19 @ 10:38AM  
God don't like ugly.... or whatever spiritual force you believe in (to each their own)


Kudos m'dear!
straightup_9

Jan 19 @ 10:45AM  
A little green thingie for you....huggles, too
SxzeNewMe

Jan 19 @ 11:14AM  
I hear ya! I've met several people here who fit this...sad to say.
borachone

Jan 19 @ 11:37AM  
If people tell rumors or lies about you, make sure you live your life in such a way that no one can believe them....

The way I see it is if people are talkin' trash about me they are leaving some other person alone, who maybe can't deal with the deceit or lies.
in other words my opionion of me is the only one that matters what others think of my right or wrong is their opinion and they are entitled to have one.
bentan

Jan 19 @ 11:45AM  
You spoke my mind. Excellent blog Treas and I completely agree.
hornytoad55

Jan 19 @ 11:49AM  
Kudos to you casual very well said.
casuallylooking

Jan 19 @ 11:55AM  
in other words my opionion of me is the only one that matters what others think of my right or wrong is their opinion and they are entitled to have one.

I agree with this and I've always said if they are talking about me they are leaving someone else alone...
What it actually comes down to ...for me...is knowing I live my life in a way that I know I am at least trying to do right regardless of what others say... and that does reflect to others as well.....
Those who think differently of me.... at least it gives them something to think about when they're bored.
alybai42

Jan 19 @ 12:09PM  
What did I do now...I wasn't talking about you... Well I kind of was..But I was trying to find you a nice construction worker...

I have always had this saying..If you are my friend and break my trust you are no longer my friend...


*looks in the kudo's basket to hand one out*
Lisa46

Jan 19 @ 12:52PM  
....IF they so choose. Forgiveness or understanding takes a hell of a lot more strength than anger or resentment....


Yes and misunderstanding should only have to be apologized for once

Counts the kudo's to make sure Tammy didn't take any out and tosses one in
alybai42

Jan 19 @ 12:56PM  
Counts the kudo's to make sure Tammy didn't take any out and tosses one in


I thought it was put 1 in and take 3 out
ladybootscooter

Jan 19 @ 2:08PM  
Damn fine blog Treas, shame I can't give you more than one shiny green thingy.
31sunshine

Jan 19 @ 3:56PM  
I couldn't agree with you more!!! No matter a person's appearance, it's what's inside that makes or breaks the person. What's the saying...beauty is skin deep. If your heart & soul are black I don't care how pretty you are to look at on the outside, the ugliness shows.

Kudos for such a great blog!!
ladybootscooter

Jan 19 @ 4:29PM  
beauty is skin deep
but ugly goes all the way to the bone!!!!
canuhelpme258

Jan 20 @ 11:40AM  
If people tell rumors about me, I just want them to spell my name right!
ynot7769

Jan 20 @ 12:44PM  
Great blog Treas...

I know others who have been on the receiving end of lies and rumors in a public forum and shes told me how incredibly painful that is..... *sits pissed at those kinda douchebags*
i mean why be nice to someones face n then fuck em from behind.....no no Treas not like that

I firmly believe that you can not judge a book by its cover.... i tend to wait till they've earned my trust...till then i'm only open to learning and determining if i'm goin to give my trust......but once fucked over...well...let's just say i'm not a forgive and forget kinda guy
casuallylooking

Jan 20 @ 2:36PM  
i tend to wait till they've earned my trust...
As I said, trust is a major issue for me...Once I trust you, we're pretty much friends for life. But it takes A Lot for me to trust like that..

.....no no Treas not like that
I do declare, Steve, I just have no idea what you're talking about........ ...
ynot7769

Jan 20 @ 3:37PM  
As I said, trust is a major issue for me...Once I trust you, we're pretty much friends for life. But it takes A Lot for me to trust like that..

see thats why we get along.....we think a bit alike....


I do declare, Steve, I just have no idea what you're talking about........

sure you do......

But I don't like people who pretend to be nice in public but whisper nasty things to or about others in private thinking as long as no one heard them say it outloud they are fooling others.....they're usually not. People hear whispers

hey me either...if ya got something to say to ME......grow the fuckin balls or whatever and SAY IT!!
all these fuckin douchebag muther fuckers on here...talk shit ...no idea what they're talking about ...or who and in most cases only a thought if that yet alone PROOF............yeah .....there all over..on here and in life.....guess cunts like that ya just gotta get used to n walk away from right.................OR DO I
Ewe_Wish

Jan 20 @ 6:27PM  
But I don't like people who pretend to be nice in public but whisper nasty things to or about others in private thinking as long as no one heard them say it outloud they are fooling others.....they're usually not. People hear whispers
That happens tho doesnt it............it makes them seem like the victim when they are instigating the problems................oh well they have to live with them selves..............


What amazes me Treas........is sometimes the people who are the most guilty of these things are the ones that dont recognize them selves..............

Great Blog Treas...........glad to know you kept your self busy this weekend when i wasnt around.............
sugarnspice005

Jan 21 @ 8:34PM  
I was gone for the weekend...actually had a fairly nice weekend btw.

Anyway.............CL...awesome blog!

I'll even leave a kudo....don't let Aly grab it though!

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