AddThis Social Bookmark Button
Free Dating

Setting your standards...

posted 1/17/2008 4:26:29 PM |
2 kudosgive kudos what's this?
    report abuse
tagged: canu
  sundance64

I kind of got this ideer from Sxze...but then Canu and I was talking again (yea...we still do that) and the ideer got bigger...

We all have standards...both for ourselves and for the people we want to interact with. Whether it's for a relationship, a friendship or just people we hang out with.

Some people want someone who's intelligent, and can carry on a conversation, other's want someone who's great in bed...

But, sometimes we hold others to a higher standard then we ourselves live up to. I guess it's natural...we may have high standards for ourselves, but don't always live up to them, yet expect others to meet or exceed those standards.

For example:

My ex- expected me to keep a clean house. He always insisted that he was a neat person, and always complained about my house being messy. Yet, any time I went to his house...there were dishes in the sink, and the bathroom hadn't been cleaned in weeks. His house was cluttered...usually no better than mine on a bad day. But he chose to ignore this and focus on my shortcomings instead.

It happens here on AMD as well...alot of people complain about not getting laid...yet there are plenty of people here who are willing to accommodate them.
The problem? IMO...at least part of it could be that the people who the complainers would fuck don't want anything to do with them, and the ones who'd fuck the complainers don't measure up to their standard...

Does that make sense?

Ok...here's a scenario:

Someone is always 'playing' in the forums, leaving raunchy comments, flirting with people...and complaining they don't get laid. They have in their profile that they're looking for 'tall, dark and handsome'...or 'voluptuous blond', or something like that...very high standard. They want intelligence, or someone who makes alot of money...yet they portray themself as a slut or a horndog...

Now I'm not pointing any fingers at anyone...I'm just saying that it seems as though if these people just lowered their standards a little...maybe to the point that it's level with how they portray themself, they might have a better chance. Or vise-verse...maybe they should try emulating the type of person they think they want...

Just sayin'

Oh...but does that mean Canu should try being more like a midget? I mean...4 feet tall could be kinda fun...

Copy & paste to friend: (Click inside box; Ctrl + C to copy; Ctrl + V to paste)

   read more blogs!

Blogs by sundance64:
Friday Quiz...Just how smart are you?
Multiple Profile Syndrome?
Flying Monkeys, Train Wrecks and Nurse Betty (Oh My!!)
The Stella Awards
No Strings Attached!!
An AMD interview...send in your questions!
Acceptance
Inventory...
Secrets
What were you doing...
An update...Good News!
Send your thoughts and prayers...
Setting your standards...
This is kinda funny...
To myspace or not to myspace?
My house...is a veryveryvery fine house!
Words of Wisdom...
tippytoetippytoesneakysneakysneaky
Just a quickie...
Perceptions and Intentions
So much happens in so little time...
New Year...New Trolls?
Going Phishing?
First Blog of the New Year!
Why is it...


Comments:

post a comment!

ladybootscooter

Jan 17 @ 4:34PM  
canuhelpme258

Jan 17 @ 4:56PM  
but then Canu and I was talking again
Gonna have 'em thinking thats all we do.... lol!

focus on my shortcomings instead.
Your commings were short with him? I've never witnessed that happen with me... they are pretty damned long!

just lowered their standards a little
Canu should try being more like a midget?

Well how much lower can one get than a midget?
slohand_47

Jan 17 @ 5:09PM  
Your ex was a perfect example of a double standard. Don't do as I do, do as I say.

As for the complainers....... yeah, I suppose they COULD lower their standards to get their needs met........... but, honestly.... from the chronic complainers I've been around in my lifetime..... they will complain about anything and everything. Nothing is ever enough.

If you're still working on the midget thing........ you could try blindfolding canu and inhaling some helium from a balloon for a little psudeo muchinkin action

Just a thought........
Looking4ever

Jan 17 @ 5:44PM  
I don't know it's so much of a double standard as it is that so many seem to expect that they deserve someone better than they themselves are willing to be...

DarkDesires99

Jan 17 @ 6:23PM  
A person that is compatible and comparable to your self is always the key.
I have my standards and when I have for various reasons lowered them for a certain person it never works out anyway.
I would say stick to your standards as long as they are realistic to begin with.
Ewe_Wish

Jan 17 @ 6:26PM  
I think a lot of times they are getting it regularly but by saying I havent had it in.......x amount of time..........they wont come off looking as a player........JMHO



slohand_47

Jan 17 @ 6:47PM  
Oh, GREAT! Thanks for telling everyone.

Now, whining won't work for me anymore.....
ynot7769

Jan 17 @ 7:40PM  
shhh i found me one that meets and probably exceeds all my standards...........but don't tell nobody

free dating | mission statement | testimonials | safety warning | report abuse | safe list | privacy | legal | 2257 | advertise | link to us

© Copyright 2000-2014 Online Singles, LLC.
OS-WEB02
Setting your standards...