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Perceptions and Intentions

posted 1/6/2008 3:42:42 PM |
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  sundance64

Ok...so there are quite a few people pissed off at me right now. What else is new? I'm being accused of stirring shit up. Ok...fine.

First of all, I'd like to thank everyone for helping me...intentionally or not...to get my mind off of the tragedy of losing my puppy.

Now, on to perceptions:

I keep getting emails, photo comments and friend requests from men who want to hookup/cyber/chat/cam/etc...

While my profile clearly states that I'm 'no longer available', I suppose the perception could be that since I'm a member of an adult sex site, I'm here because I'm looking for sex. It doesn't seem to matter that my essays clearly state that I'm only here to keep up with friends I've made...most of the emails I get are from men who haven't read my essays.

Another perception on this site is that there is a clique.
Now, this particular perception has been a long held idea, and has gone back and forth over the last couple of years. I've been accused in the past of being part of a 'clique' here. Am I part of a clique now? No. I have friends here, and acquaintances...but I'm not part of any clique, nor did I consider myself part of one in the past. I did play up on that perception more than once, to prove a point.
I've also been perceived as trying to 'stir shit up'. If attempting to get people to think, instead of just react, is stirring shit up...I stand accused. However, my intention has not been to hurt or piss off anyone.
There's the point...perceptions and intentions.
A few months ago, someone wrote a blog. A comment was left on it, and someone's perception of that comment caused a HUGE stir here. To the point that people left, and those who were friends didn't speak for a long time.
Was that the intent of the blog?
No.
Was that even the intent of the comments left on said blog?
No.
I'm not saying the perception was right or wrong. But people reacted without thinking. And even when the intent was explained, the perceptions didn't change...or if they did, it wasn't until people had a chance to think about it.

The rift that was caused by that incident has since been mended...I hope this one can be as well. However, I stand by my own intention...which has not been to stir shit up or piss people off, only to get people to think. Whatever anyone perceives differently is just that...their perception.

I've tried apologizing, I've tried explaining. I'm done. I'm not going to attempt to justify things I've said, because while they were said with good intentions...others are going to perceive my words however they want. I can't control that, so I'm not going to bother trying.

And if anyone wants to take something I've written here and post it somewhere else and take credit for it...go for it. I haven't written anything here that is copyrighted or published...I have other things that I own, have published, and have copyrighted...that no one can read much less copy unless they pay for it.

The things I've written here have been put here with the understanding that I do not own it...and therefore can be used for other purposes.

The only way I could take exception to that is if the person who copied it got paid for it...and even then, I don't think my little stories here are worth much, certainly not worth going to court over, much less losing a friend over.

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Comments:

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ValentineGirl214

Jan 6 @ 4:06PM  
Thank You
SxzeNewMe

Jan 6 @ 4:08PM  
I wuv you!
sundance64

Jan 6 @ 4:11PM  
Sxze...are you proving my point? Or am I just 'perceiving' it that way?
zena343

Jan 6 @ 4:37PM  
Very Wise Lady!!
onehornytoad69

Jan 6 @ 4:43PM  
Sorry about your Puppy! Been there did that last Christmas!!!
Ya know since I changed my Age on my Profile I havnt gotten any emails except from ppl here from the Blogs.....Check it out plz!?
Whats going on around here anymore? It looks like everyday that someone is apologizing..... WTF?
Chill out PPL.. damn!(Not talking to You, but to everyone)
To me.. when we come here we should be able to relax and enjoy ourselves....
Maybe even read a Blog that is Funny or Interesting, Hell maybe something that makes us think once in a while (TY Dayna,and Others!)....I guess what Im saying is........... that Maybe this could be a ....."In House Get away"Place.. ya know?
Maybe the Ones Pointing their fingers are the Problem, just saying.....
Drama Belongs on TNT, ya think?
And BTW I wont apologize for my Comment!
Thx....for the Blog!
Tosses you a Kudo........
NachoBaby

Jan 6 @ 5:02PM  
People are reactionary Sunny D.. that's their deal. No one wants to have their shortcomings thrust back into their faces.. and if someone does it. . you are a hateful spiteful (stalker) whatever..

Clique me baby.. I can stand it.
canuhelpme258

Jan 6 @ 5:38PM  
I've tried apologizing, I've tried explaining. I'm done. I'm not going to attempt to justify things I've said, because while they were said with good intentions...others are going to perceive my words however they want. I can't control that, so I'm not going to bother trying.

My point exactly!

Two wrongs never make a right but three lefts do!
SxzeNewMe

Jan 6 @ 5:45PM  
Sxze...are you proving my point? Or am I just 'perceiving' it that way?

Nope, I wasn't trying to prove your point. It was just weird that I come back and the first thing I see is this blog...and it touched me in a way that I needed to let you know I absolutely adore you and am soooooo glad we are still friends!

31sunshine

Jan 6 @ 10:43PM  
Sunny, you are so right, it's all about perception. Great blog!!!

I'm glad your back, I missed having your around.
canuhelpme258

Jan 7 @ 2:46AM  
clique
clique
boom

It was a Saliva song... I think it is supposed to be click click boom as in a shot gun cocking.... but hey....
StraddleMyNose

Jan 7 @ 8:07PM  
Damn, what the hell is this clique I keep hearing about?
canuhelpme258

Jan 8 @ 3:52PM  
Straddle fear not the clique, fear the cadre!

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