Perceptions and Intentions posted 1/6/2008 3:42:42 PM | 4 kudos what's this?     report abuse

sundance64

Ok...so there are quite a few people pissed off at me right now. What else is new? I'm being accused of stirring shit up. Ok...fine.

First of all, I'd like to thank everyone for helping me...intentionally or not...to get my mind off of the tragedy of losing my puppy.

Now, on to perceptions:

I keep getting emails, photo comments and friend requests from men who want to hookup/cyber/chat/cam/etc...

While my profile clearly states that I'm 'no longer available', I suppose the perception could be that since I'm a member of an adult sex site, I'm here because I'm looking for sex. It doesn't seem to matter that my essays clearly state that I'm only here to keep up with friends I've made...most of the emails I get are from men who haven't read my essays.

Another perception on this site is that there is a clique.
Now, this particular perception has been a long held idea, and has gone back and forth over the last couple of years. I've been accused in the past of being part of a 'clique' here. Am I part of a clique now? No. I have friends here, and acquaintances...but I'm not part of any clique, nor did I consider myself part of one in the past. I did play up on that perception more than once, to prove a point.
I've also been perceived as trying to 'stir shit up'. If attempting to get people to think, instead of just react, is stirring shit up...I stand accused. However, my intention has not been to hurt or piss off anyone.
There's the point...perceptions and intentions.
A few months ago, someone wrote a blog. A comment was left on it, and someone's perception of that comment caused a HUGE stir here. To the point that people left, and those who were friends didn't speak for a long time.
Was that the intent of the blog?
No.
Was that even the intent of the comments left on said blog?
No.
I'm not saying the perception was right or wrong. But people reacted without thinking. And even when the intent was explained, the perceptions didn't change...or if they did, it wasn't until people had a chance to think about it.

The rift that was caused by that incident has since been mended...I hope this one can be as well. However, I stand by my own intention...which has not been to stir shit up or piss people off, only to get people to think. Whatever anyone perceives differently is just that...their perception.

I've tried apologizing, I've tried explaining. I'm done. I'm not going to attempt to justify things I've said, because while they were said with good intentions...others are going to perceive my words however they want. I can't control that, so I'm not going to bother trying.

And if anyone wants to take something I've written here and post it somewhere else and take credit for it...go for it. I haven't written anything here that is copyrighted or published...I have other things that I own, have published, and have copyrighted...that no one can read much less copy unless they pay for it.

The things I've written here have been put here with the understanding that I do not own it...and therefore can be used for other purposes.

The only way I could take exception to that is if the person who copied it got paid for it...and even then, I don't think my little stories here are worth much, certainly not worth going to court over, much less losing a friend over.

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