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  Blackfromwaistdown

Ok so heres the subject. Is it moraly/ethicly correct to tell your children there is a Santa Clause, just to tell them several years later that YOU (The people that children depend on for advise and guide them the most.) has been lying to them?

Should you be honest to your children and explain the meaning of Christmas (and I'm not saying do not pretend there is a Santa Clause) or do you have your children believing in something that you know they will come to find out is not real?

Just open for opinions, not for people to trash other peoples ideas and thoughts.

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Ewe_Wish

Dec 13 @ 5:06PM  
My children were raised with knowing what the real reason we celebrate Christmas is AND thinking there is a Santa Claus.........my feelings were then as they are now......most children believe in Santa Claus.......and it would be hard for them to go to school where others also believed in Santa Claus......what if i had raised them with the idea of that there wasnt one and they went to school and said that.....they would be outcasted.......and i believe that would do more damage then telling them there is one.......Now on the same hand where most parents give the Larger presents as gifts from Santa......thats not how we did it in our house..Santa brought gifts but they were the smaller items and my kids knew that Mom worked hard to buy the bigger gifts they got........I am not sure if it was right or wrong to tell them their was a Santa to find out later there wasnt.....but they both grew up normal and never questioned my honesty with them in anything else....so I doubt any damage was done..JMHO

Good blog tho....excellent question.......
Sunshine79

Dec 13 @ 5:06PM  
My 7 year old came home today, for the 2nd time this week saying another child at school told her there wasn't a Santa. I told her there was and if she wanted to disbelieve it that it was ok. But, I also told her that if she ever gets to visit the North Pole, that she would indeed see Santas home. Now tell me.....did I lie??
I still believe!!
DarkDesires99

Dec 13 @ 5:10PM  
Oh that’s a difficult one and parents should make up their own minds about that.
I only know I lived though finding out their was no Santa. My son got gifts from the family and his parents on Christmas Eve and Santa only did the stocking stuff in our house which was discovered in the morning of Christmas Day. When he asked about Santa with the I want to know way kids do, we told him the truth and also asked him to please not spoil the fun and beliefs of any of his friends that still believed!
bentan

Dec 13 @ 5:27PM  
lol ... there is and it's a movie starring Tim Allen ... lol. But jokes aside here's the way I see it. First of all, I'm not a child psychologist nor parent so I wouldn't know the effects of presenting an untruth to children or giving them the impression that there are circumstances where it is ok to fudge the truth. So I can only say I fear that if from a young age children are taught that untruths are sometimes acceptable, then maybe when they are adults they will feel it's ok to ignore important truths for the sake of conformity and for the purpose of not rocking the boat. If you think about it, that's exactly the way most people view issues: if something does not concern me and if most people don't say anything about it, then I too will conform and not question it, regardless of how wrong something may be. As an example, these days, most of us would consider racism of any sort to be abhorrent. Yet not so long ago, many people, even the victims themselves, felt it was ok to treat African Americans as second class citizens. The few people who had independent minds and moral compasses and started the fight against it were viewed as troublemakers who spoiled the peace for others. So I dunno, I have to wonder if Santa Claus is just harmless fun or whether it is another thing that impresses upon kids that it is ok to exchange the truth for the false peace of conformity.
Blackfromwaistdown

Dec 13 @ 6:07PM  
I have to wonder if Santa Clause is just harmless fun or if it is another thing that impresses upon kids that it is ok to exchange the truth for the false peace of conformity.
Hmm, that is the question.
ABrownEyedScorpio

Dec 13 @ 6:12PM  
I am finally experiencing Mommyhood and I just know that the pure innocence and wonder is a joy to behold. I want it to last as long as possible.
sugarnspice005

Dec 13 @ 6:38PM  
They are kids only once..and for such a short time...let them believe. That's how I feel. As for explaining the meaning of Christmas...yes, explain that to them of course.

My parents let my sisters and I believe in Santa..and when we were old enough to "figure it out" for ourselves....(we kinda sneaked downstairs to spy on Santa and saw Mom and Dad wrapping presents)...it didn't leave us angry or bitter...just made us realize our parents loved us enough to do that for us.
40yearoldvirgin

Dec 13 @ 6:55PM  
I've never understood why people do that to their kids.
onehornytoad69

Dec 13 @ 7:00PM  
Personally.... lol
I Say Let the Kids have fun! Butttt
Ya know when my Kids we Lil.... we would spend all we had! and then some!
Re-thinking it... Maybe I would do it Differently!
We always Let the kids know about the Real Reason for the Season...!
Now.. being older..and the way Our Public is Pushing buy, buy, buy, maybe I would do things differently...
I think, I would let Santa come.... but Not to the Point that it breaks the Bank.. if ya know what I mean! ?Keep it Simple.. and Teach them the Real reason for the Season!........
My 2 cents!
HollyHummy

Dec 13 @ 10:27PM  
...we told the kids when they were young there was a Santa.. they set out cookies and milk etc...
By the 2 or 3 grade they pretty much didn't believe in Santa bring toys..
The change from believing in Santa never was a big deal at our house.
The kids decided to claim the Santa Spirit, and use to joke that eventually one of these years he might show up.
Of course they eventually knew the reason for the season.

Looking4ever

Dec 13 @ 10:50PM  
Who told you there isn't a Santa Claus ...cause he is very real!
dumblonde

Dec 14 @ 1:04AM  
I'm not a child psychologist nor parent so I wouldn't know the effects of presenting an untruth to children or giving them the impression that there are circumstances where it is ok to fudge the truth. So I can only say I fear that if from a young age children are taught that untruths are sometimes acceptable, then maybe when they are adults they will feel it's ok to ignore important truths for the sake of conformity and for the purpose of not rocking the boat.


shall we eliminate all "untruths" for children??? should we no longer tell them that mommy's kisses are magic and can cure a booboo???..should we tell them that wishes dont always come true??? kids find the hard truths of life soon enough and fantasy is a part of childhood...unfortuntately,we teach them all too soon of the harsh realities of life...let kids be kids...dream, wish, believe...perhaps more grownups should believe in joy, hope dreams....
bentan

Dec 14 @ 10:23AM  
shall we eliminate all "untruths" for children??? should we no longer tell them that mommy's kisses are magic and can cure a booboo???..should we tell them that wishes dont always come true??? kids find the hard truths of life soon enough and fantasy is a part of childhood...unfortuntately,we teach them all too soon of the harsh realities of life...let kids be kids...dream, wish, believe...perhaps more grownups should believe in joy, hope dreams....

Seeing how many teenagers and young adults approach life as if it were handed to them on a silver platter, and seeing how many adults still live in la la land thinking la la thoughts, yes, I'm inclined to think a little less fantasy might not be a bad thing. What's wrong with just simply telling a child directly that you love them? Why doesn't a straight forward hug or pat on the head work as well? Why does everything have to involve some kind of fantastic, magical thing? Sure a child can have a great imagination and want to express that, I'm not saying we should forbid them from expressing that. But is it really necessary for us to feed them the Santa story? At best, they just grow out of it normally as some have said, at worst they grow up with a subconscious disrespect for the truth.
Blackfromwaistdown

Dec 14 @ 4:49PM  
What's wrong with just simply telling a child directly that you love them? Why doesn't a straight forward hug or pat on the head work as well?

Excellent point.

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