Someone once said "The good things that come to those who wait, might very well be the stuff that was left behind by the first to arrive". The more I think about this, the more I realize it could very well be true and I have often wondered what I missed out on.
22 months ago I made a conscious decision. I've always been shy and very reserved, revealing very little of my true self to others. I've always cherished my privacy, guarding and polishing that protective shell, so to speak. I finally realized that what I had been using as protection was acting more as an impenatrable shield. I finally understood that my shyness and reluctance to share most aspects of my personal life with others might have been misconstrued as my being aloof, non-commital, not interested, or just plain snobbish and that is not how I am at all! Knowing that I had to do something about my predicament, I made a promise to myself that I would try to present myself as more approachable and that I would work up the nerve to leave my little comfort zone of familiarity. I challenged myself to explore, try the unknown, and by doing this, I learned more about myself than I could have ever dreamed possible.
I learned to reach out to others in ways I had previously been incapable of doing. To seize the moment and take advantage of new opportunities as they presented themselves, instead of sitting back, in a blanket of indecision, self-doubt, and all the 'what if's' that come with that type of behaviour. Do I regret any of it? Absolutely not! My life is much fuller and richer because of it. Naturally this journey is not even coming close to an end, as it is my 'highway to life' in progress.
I have met a handful of postively wonderful people along the way, scattered amongst a huge spectrum of humanity in all its forms... some incredibly shy, scared and hesitant, others who were arrogant or terribly unkind for whatever reason, and those who seemed to absolutely glow with inner peace and happiness. I wanted to take the time to say thank you, to each and everyone of you with whom I have crossed paths. Thank you for sharing your time, thoughts, and friendship. I also wish to let those who are hiding behind their own protective shells, that those shields can be weakend and eventually broken, by chipping away at them a little bit at a time.
This site is full of people wanting, ready, and willing to meet others, but often I hear and read comments lamenting the disappearing friend, the one, who for whatever reason, always has something come up where they feel they have to cancel plans that were made, etc.
I want to challenge each and every one of you to leave your comfort zone. Choose life! Presumably, you are here, after all, to meet people, right? Doesn't matter whether you are looking for simple friendship, your life mate, or a fuck buddy. Let it be known what you are really seeking and when opportunity knocks, answer the damn door! I challenge each of you to go that extra mile. You might find love, not around the corner, but around the country, or globe instead! Be willing to embrace new ideas. Consider not what is keeping you from coming out into the open but instead think about ways that you can make your dreams happen! Place that call, write that letter, say those words! I promise you will be a better person for it.
Oh and by the way, that quote, (which I probably did not get exactly right, but the general idea of it) is from none other than Steven Tyler. He isn't known for many profound sayings, but I think this one speaks volumes.
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